Telling people

[turtle1120]

It's all about who you tell. Tell a few key people (with big mouths) and let them spread the word. That's what I did and it worked like a charm!

[becwheat]

I told a lot of people in person.

Others found out on FB

Others found out on the local news...

I preferred the in person technique. It can be annoying, but there is nothing shameful about it.

[pinkdutchtulips]

quite honestly more people seem to be relieved that h and i are splitting rather than the opposite. i don't get too many probing questions from my family, his family or mutual friends. i think our split was one of those 'when they split' NOT 'if they split' kinds of things.

i haven't made any big FB announcements about it other than a relationship status from married to complicated relationship. if people ask, i just tell them very matter of factly that we split and leave it at all.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Mar 10, 2014 10:22:04 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

It's all about who you tell. Tell a few key people (with big mouths) and let them spread the word. That's what I did and it worked like a charm!

no doubt my bil & sil helped spread the word ...

[cam13]

My mom and siblings knew we were on extremely rocky ground and I guess that it filtered down through the rest of my family. I got stupid drunk the night he told me he wanted a divorce and posted on FB, bc I'm classy like that. About a month later I deleted him, changed my relationship status and went back to my maiden name. I did have the brains to text my close friends before posting on FB though. Honestly, that's all a blur.

You will probably be hit with lots of unsolicited advice and stupid comments. Just smile and nod or come up with a great snarky comeback. Snark is how I respond to any personal questions though..lol

[acr]

I called my family and close friends, mentioned it to friends when I saw them, and then posted a tactful FB update abotu 5 months after we separated letting others know that we weren't together. I have only had great support (and a few messages about how happy they are for me. lol)