I never thought that I would find myself on a board like this. My H and I have been married for almost 8 years and have an almost 3 year old daughter. I left my job to stay home to take care of her at his insistence and, about a year ago, I left my friends and family to move across the country for my husband's new job. Last week, on the night that we were supposed to start counselling to hash out the major communication issues that we've been having for a while, my husband told me that he wanted a divorce. He no longer wants the house and the kids and the dog and the wife who followed him to another state with no support system.
I am heartbroken and scared. I miss the man with whom I fell in love and I miss the dreams that we had together. My confidence is shaken and I have no idea how I am going to pick myself up and start interviewing for a job. I guess that I'm here for inspriational stories, head pats, anything, because it just does not feel like everything is going to be okay.
I am so sorry. The early days are tough as you recalibrate. There is a lot of hope though! I am so much happier than I was 7 mos ago still in my marriage!
Post by prettipenny on Mar 16, 2014 19:06:09 GMT -5
I am so sorry. We have different stories, but I am almost 9 months out from when my stbxh surprised me with stating he wanted a divorce, and I am doing so much better. The beginning is so, so hard but I promise it does get better.
I'm so sorry. I can relate too. I was a SAHM with a 1 year old and a 3 year old, married for almost seven years, when I finally realized my abusive ex was cheating on me and gay. I went from not even having a job to working part time, going to school part time, and single parenting. I felt so low at the time of the separation I was suicidal. I went to therapy and slowly but surely I realized that I'd been miserable for a long time but unable to face it. It's been ten months since we separated, four months since we divorced, and I am SO much happier now. My kids are too-they get plenty of time with both of us and don't wake up to screaming and things being broken or me crying. I know it's SO hard and painful right now, but I promise it gets a lot better.
I can relate. I have an almost two yr old DD and recently quit my great ft job to move across country for MH's big promotion and dream job. We were there three months and he literally came home one night to tell me he didn't want to be married anymore and did t know if he was in love any longer. He told me to go home.....home was there with him. A week later he admitted to sporadically cheating over the course of our 5 year marriage and 8 yrs together. Awesome! So back across country I went. I've been back 3 months and Now he is remorseful and wants to get back together. How nice, right?! I guess he is on the 3 month plan.
I'm so sorry you are in this position. PM me if you want to chat.
Thank you so much for all of the kind words. I've just met with my attorney and, as surreal as it is to be reducing my marriage to a court case, I feel much better.