Irrational Worries/Thoughts

[catsarecute]

As I get closer to delivery, I have these completely silly thoughts swirling around in my head because if I'm anything, I'm a world class worrier.

-This girl is really a boy and OMG what would we do with all those clothes!?!?!?!? This has been on my mind since week 28 and at this point, I've nearly convinced myself of it so I'm not surprised when I deliver. I'm crazy.

-Not so much a worry but I am very curious about how my in-laws will be as grandparents. They are lovely people but don't like to interfere (which is nice) but also don't seem like they will take the initiative to be actively involved like my family does. I hope my husband isn't hurt by their non-action, if it happens that way.

-A long labor. I really dread a long, drawn out labor. Just get the kid out!!!

Anyone else?!

[VillainV]

Same kinds of fears here, so I vote normal :-)

My parents and in-laws are already grandparents, but I do wonder how having a kid is going to change our relationship with our parents. We don't live close to either of them, so I don't think it will be a HUGE deal, but still.

I'm also worried about how being parents is going to change my relationship with my husband. Obviously it's a big change, and there will be a lot of new challenges, I just hope we both cope with it well :-)

[lulu21]

My irrational fear is that this baby will not come out! I'm overdue and there's no signs if this little man arriving.

[pinotgrig]

I have been an emotional basket case the past week or two - it's been exhausting. I think a lot of what you've (and pp's) have mentioned is completely normal. I know that doesn't help at all.

[formerlyak]

I think all these fears are rational. Heck, I have a 7 year old who is turning out pretty great and I still get scared I will be a bad mom!

[Amy]

I have a lot of anxiety surrounding my delivery. I had a horrible experience the 1st time and now I just make up awful scenarios for this time - my head is a fun place right now

[anna7602]

I labored with DD for 18 hours and it honestly didn't feel like it was all that long. I spent most of it just trying to manage the pain and had no idea what the clock said. When it actually came time to push, I was kind of like, "wow, already?" (Although I was by no means willing to continue laboring just for the sake of it by then!)

Anyway, your fears sound normal to me.

[Deleted]

I have had the same fear that my baby girl will be a boy and what would we do with the girl clothes!! Not to mention that my ILs are sooooo excited that it is a girl and that I was afraid of them being disappointed if the girl were in fact a boy! After a second sonogram confirming that she is a girl, I feel a little better

[SJ]

I can't think of anything, but my poor DH is so scared that I will die in childbirth

[Deleted]

I am worried that I'll had a hard labor and become a whiny mess and be mean to everyone.

[FastHands]

Mar 17, 2014 17:53:35 GMT -5 smileyface said:

I am worried that I'll had a hard labor and become a whiny mess and be mean to everyone.

I'm almost certain that this will be the case for me, but I'm completely fine with it. Lol. I know they love me enough to give me a pass.

[chicago]

Um yeah, all normal. I had three u/s confirming girl, but I was almost convinced she'd come out a he...nope!

Labor really isn't so bad. Mine was 26 hours and although I was realllllllly annoyed at early labor, once I was admitted the time flew. Not sure if you're planning on med-free, but my epi was amazing even though it wore off on one side. I'm six days out and I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

As for reading and feeling prepared, yeah, I get that. I do think there's a lot of instinct that kicks in, which I was totally skeptical of until it happened to me. We are learning her cries quickly and somehow two hours of sleep feels like enough.

I can't explain it, but you'll be ok, promise!

[hillarywhitney]

I worry about my water breaking in public.

[papie]

Mar 17, 2014 17:53:35 GMT -5 smileyface said:

I am worried that I'll had a hard labor and become a whiny mess and be mean to everyone.

You mean there are other kinds of labour? ;-)

[papie]

I am also convinced it is a girl. I have two girls and having a boy seems so weird to me. I already have all my girl stuff to SIL who is due two days before me, so I am slightly freaked at the idea, lol.

[bananapancakes]

I'm mostly worried that BF won't work out for some reason.

[bowies]

I fear everything except for labor.

Right now the anxiety is coming from a massive to-do list that gets bigger not smaller and the amount of money pouring out of our checking account.

One of my most irrational thoughts involves waking up in a few years and realizing that not only did I not teach my child anything, I forgot to register him for school.

[statlerwaldorf]

I worry that I won't know I'm in labor and will end up delivering on a toilet. Clearly I watch too much I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant.

I kept having an irrational worry every time I had an ultrasound that they wouldn't find anything because I wasn't actually pregnant. That's gotten better now that I can feel him move at least.

[pinotgrig]

Mar 17, 2014 20:55:10 GMT -5 statlerwaldorf said:

I kept having an irrational worry every time I had an ultrasound that they wouldn't find anything because I wasn't actually pregnant. That's gotten better now that I can feel him move at least.

Yes!! I felt like such an imposter for the longest time!

[shelbyann]

I had the long drawn out labor to end all long drawn out labors and survived. It will all be ok!