The wait is killing me

[centralsquare]

CVS yesterday. We won't get FISH results until tomorrow (at best). On the one hand, I'm trying to make it through today by telling myself we'll know something about our baby tomorrow. And it seems agonizingly far away. On the other hand, we may not know till Monday or Tuesday, if the lab is delayed or the genetic counselor doesn't have time to call us. 

I have so much anxiety. We got in a big fight last night over nothing because we're both so on edge. I'm having terrible dreams and unable to sleep (and unable to take anything for it!)

Any suggestions for how to make it till Monday not knowing whether our baby has something dreadfully wrong? I'm so heartbroken at that possibility, but I'm trying to stay positive with all the stories I've seen of the NT scan being wrong. Then again, I'm sure no one would come on my thread and tell me how their NT scan was right and they lost their baby...

Ugh. This is awful.

[mrspost08]

I'm so sorry! I really hope they call you tomorrow because leaving you to wonder over the weekend is so rough.

Can you call the genetic counselor in the morning? I had some genetic testing last year I called the GC at 3pm on Friday. She didn't have the results, but I knew the results weren't in & they weren't dragging their feet.

Can you take Tylenol PM to sleep? Can you ask your doctor about taking it?

DH & I get in petty fights when we are stressed, so I understand. Big hugs!!!!

[anna7602]

I'm so sorry, centralsquare. We got the call while on vacation that my NT bloodwork came back with elevated risks for an abnormality. This was on a Thursday and the first appointment I could get with a genetic counselor was the following Wednesday. I would have had to do the amnio by the following Thursday at the latest, so I was in high-stress mode trying to figure out what we would do without having all the information we needed to make a decision.

I would be lying if I said I didn't stress and cry a lot for a day or two. But I tried to stay active and do things I enjoy, like going to a concert while on vacation and then back at home, spending hours in the kitchen making a new recipe. Anything to take my mind off the real issue. By the third day, I felt kind of peaceful that I had thought through all the possibilities and that if I had to deal with the worst-case scenario, then there was nothing I could do in the meantime to prevent or prepare for that anyway. I wish I could tell you where this peacefulness came from.

[MrsDarcy]

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

[katinthehat]

CS - did you do the bloodwork with the NT too or did they just stop after the scan?

[melsamoony]

centralsquare my first suggestion is try just to make it until tomorrow and then take it from there. Call the genetic counselor tomorrow around 1:00pm and ask if she has the results. If she doesn't ask her if she expects them before close of bussiness and express you are very anxious for the results. Labs sometimes fail to send the results on time and healthcare providers can call and get results if needed.

As for today and tonight: benadryl for sleep (it is safe for pregnancy). Eat something that you really like, your favorite meal/comfort food. Maybe even get desert/ice cream. Find something that makes you laugh/smile. My go to's are always movies/shows (if you haven't seen frozen/catching fire I highly recommend those) while at work try to dive into work and distract yourself with that.

Don't let your mind wander to having to wait until Monday yet. Take it a step at a time. ((HUGS)) PM me if you need to talk/vent/more ideas I am the queen of distraction.

[picksthemusic]

This has got to be so hard - I'm really sorry you're going through this. Huge hugs.

[centralsquare]

Mar 20, 2014 9:32:24 GMT -5 katinthehat said:

CS - did you do the bloodwork with the NT too or did they just stop after the scan?

Not sure. They took my blood after the u/s but didn't say whether they'd move forward.

[centralsquare]

Thanks ladies, this is helpful. I'm heading to get a massage and then a manicure.

I have some consulting work to do this afternoon, so that will help. I will work on a plan for tomorrow to keep myself busy. I've read a lot of stories where it turned out ok, but I have no idea what tr odds of that are, once there's a high nuchal reading.

I've decided this screen is the worst thing ever.

[chickadee77]

I feel your pain, and I'm sorry. One day (or hour) at a time. See about taking a Unisom if you can't sleep (unless you have other health issues, of course). Try to remember that these results are only telling you something that already *is*, whether that's bad or good. The outcome is already there, you just don't have the information yet. For whatever reason, adopting this philosophy helped me so much - though I know those days passed in a fog for me, too.

Hang in there, and huge hugs to you.

[purrbox]

I'm so sorry. The wait would absolutely kill me. Keeping you guys in my prayers.

[hokiegirl82]

Sorry you are going through this.

I would try unisom for sleep - it is safe. Maybe get out of the house and go to a movie or go do something to make a few hours go by?

Keeping you in my thoughts.

[ringstrue]

I'm sorry, I'm thinking of you!

I agree to just take it one day at a time. Get through today and tonight and tomorrow you will have more energy to take care of tomorrow. Take care of you.

[pinotgrig]

Pp's have all given good advice to keep yourself busy and distracted. I Definitely agree with the suggestion to call for results tomorrow and share how nerve wracking this is for you going into the weekend.

Here's to hoping you get good news tomorrow. We're all rooting for you!