Tell me it's ok to be pissed.

[zarapipe]

I'm 13w and no one at work knows I'm pregnant. I supervise about 30 front line employees (housekeepers), most of which are lacking knowledge of professionalism. This one lady has asked me since I started if/when I'm going to have another LO. I always joked it off and say maybe. She hasn't let it go. I'm probably overly friendly and joke too much stuff off. She has joked if I know how to make babies, etc.

Well today we had a staff meeting with lunch beforehand. I was floating around saying hello to people and got to her table (with 6 other people) when she looks and begins to touch my belly and say, "why, we might have a LO soon enough." >:DI got very flustered and laughed and said no.

I then pulled her aside and asked her to please refrain from joking about that as it is a topic I do not with to discuss or joke around with anyone. She is mad at ME! and she just said she was joking.

I swear I work with the most crazy people. She is all huffy and puffy that I even said anything.

[dana2006]

She's got boundary issues. You're fully justified in feeling aghast.

[blushing]

Give her a few days to process what happened as she might just be shocked that you said anything. If she is still mad/being funny/off about it then say something to her. But I think you did the right thing.

[Alwaysabridesmaidf]

WHAT?! Yeah I would be pissed. Regardless of whether or not she was joking you told her you were uncomfortable and she should just stfu and snd drop it. Sorry you have to deal with people like this. I am the same as you though. Joking it off and stuff.

[mrssandro]

I would be pretty pissed off. Boundaries lady!

[pinotgrig]

Yep, ok to be mad. That's weird she brings it up so often. She's essentially asking about your sex life, so. Yeah. I'd be polite but professional with her in the future and hope that she got the message. She may have just been shocked you actually said something to her about it.

[centralsquare]

Mar 20, 2014 14:26:14 GMT -5 dana2006 said:

She's got boundary issues. You're fully justified in feeling aghast.

This. She was way out of line.

[anna7602]

The worst thing about people like this is that when you actually do feel comfortable enough to tell the world, she'll go, "see? I was right!" and still not understand why she was out of line.

You are completely justified in being pissed.

[mrspost08]

RUDE!!! Let her be made because she is in the wrong!

[bowies]

She TOUCHED you? Oh hell no. I can't believe she's acting like that to her supervisor. I agree to let her process for a few days and then see if her attitude gets better. I wouldn't laugh off her "jokes" anymore either. A quick "my family life isn't a topic for the workplace" should suffice.

[rbp]

WTF. I can't get past "She has joked if I know how to make babies, etc." This woman is an asshole. Sorry you have to deal with her.

[Odonata]

Being someone who dealt with IF this bugs me to no end. I have also had people joke about when I was having kids. I also had somebody tap the pudge on my belly thinking I was pregnant, I was not.

Basically, regardless if you are actually pregnant not, it's never appropriate to joke about these things.

[rbp]

I am getting so infuriated thinking about this, and I have not dealt with IF or pregnancy losses. 

[vtdiamond]

Oh yes I would be pissed as well, totally inappropriate.

[mannah]

Uhmm Yeahhhh I'd be pissed especially since you're her boss. You were definitely correct in pulling her aside and letting her know that's not ok. Good job.

That's so annoying.