Inappropriate questions

[Odonata]

Whaaa? WHY would that be something to ask anyone? That's a strange one!

[simpsongal]

Wait until people ask you if you're breastfeeding. A lot of older women ask. I am, but what if the answer were 'no'?

[picksthemusic]

Oy. Why is a pregnant belly a filter killer for people? Seriously? You should have asked her if she was dilated at all. Then she would probably realize how silly and inappropriate her question was.

[Odonata]

Mar 27, 2014 18:04:36 GMT -5 Loco Coco said:

Lol! That is SOOO weird. "I don't know. Wanna check?!"

I just thought of saying this and came on here to post it. lol, you beat me too it!  

[catsarecute]

I just read this to my husband and he made this face: ?

Damn emojis don't show up. Basically it was a WTF face. That is insane!

[speyedr]

I discuss the state of my cervix with my coworkers...but we are nurses so it's different. Totally inappropriate coming from that crowd!

[mrspost08]

WOW! I am NOT looking forward to people at work finding out I am pregnant because the comments will start. I plan to be snarky.

[picksthemusic]

Mar 27, 2014 19:42:18 GMT -5 speyedr said:

I discuss the state of my cervix with my coworkers...but we are nurses so it's different. Totally inappropriate coming from that crowd!

See, this is me too. I'm in the medical field and we talk about body stuff all the time - but it's normal for my coworkers and I to do that, and no one is ashamed because we all know how the body works and stuff.

But yes - totally inappropriate in that circumstance.

[VillainV]

Mar 27, 2014 21:20:46 GMT -5 mrspost08 said:

WOW! I am NOT looking forward to people at work finding out I am pregnant because the comments will start. I plan to be snarky.

I'm happy to report that I had absolutely ZERO inappropriate comments from people at work during my entire pregnancy.  All of the weird stuff has come from absolute strangers who feel like they can't walk past a pregnant woman in a grocery store without saying something like, "Well aren't you about to pop!" or "Someone's got a bun in the oven!".   Spare me.  Most things I can just kind of nod-smile-and-ignore, but I don't think I could handle a stranger asking me about the state of my cervix.  

[natablue]

Mar 27, 2014 17:25:51 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

Wait until people ask you if you're breastfeeding. A lot of older women ask. I am, but what if the answer were 'no'?

I had a lot of older women ask me this when I was pregnant, including a complete stranger at a restaurant.

[magdala]

Mar 27, 2014 17:50:31 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

Oy. Why is a pregnant belly a filter killer for people? Seriously? You should have asked her if she was dilated at all. Then she would probably realize how silly and inappropriate her question was.

Love the phrase "filter killer"   I have too many people with too many topics on "filter killer"

[MrsDarcy]

Mar 28, 2014 6:47:42 GMT -5 oceanspray said:

Pregnancy makes people stupid.

I have had two people ask me how much weight I've gained. JFC.

My BIL's wife's mom asked me how much weight I've gained (BIL's wife (L) is pregnant too, a month ahead of me). BIL's wife was mortified and said mom, you can't ask that! But the mom said I wouldn't mind, which I don't really care, so I told her truthfully, which was 1-2 pounds. I know L has gained a lot more weight at this point than me (25lbs), so this question dissolved into her feeling horrible. See? This is why you shouldn't ask! Especially in front of other pregnants! I shouldn't have answered.

[MrsDarcy]

Mar 28, 2014 8:45:14 GMT -5 oceanspray said:

Mar 28, 2014 8:36:05 GMT -5 MrsDarcy said:

My BIL's wife's mom asked me how much weight I've gained (BIL's wife (L) is pregnant too, a month ahead of me). BIL's wife was mortified and said mom, you can't ask that! But the mom said I wouldn't mind, which I don't really care, so I told her truthfully, which was 1-2 pounds. I know L has gained a lot more weight at this point than me (25lbs), so this question dissolved into her feeling horrible. See? This is why you shouldn't ask! Especially in front of other pregnants! I shouldn't have answered.

I don't know how to answer without actually answering either.  It sucks.

I KNOW her mom knows how much she's gained, L has even told me. So, maybe the mom thought I've gained a similar amount... Oh well. Yeah, it's hard to not answer, and like I said, I really don't care, so I'll usually answer this kind of stuff.

[pinotgrig]

My fave question has been "Was this a planned pregnancy?" or its cousin "Had you two been trying long?"

Ummm... I don't even know how to answer that. Someone is essentially asking about my sex life and that's always awkward. If I'm not volunteering that info to you, I probably don't want you to know.

[MrsDarcy]

Mar 28, 2014 9:28:18 GMT -5 pinotgrig said:

My fave question has been "Was this a planned pregnancy?" or its cousin "Had you two been trying long?"

Ummm... I don't even know how to answer that. Someone is essentially asking about my sex life and that's always awkward. If I'm not volunteering that info to you, I probably don't want you to know.

Last time this crazy woman at my H's office asked him if we were going to keep the baby. Seriously? We're married and 29! We're not unwed teenagers!!

[pinotgrig]

Mar 28, 2014 9:30:22 GMT -5 MrsDarcy said:

Mar 28, 2014 9:28:18 GMT -5 pinotgrig said:

My fave question has been "Was this a planned pregnancy?" or its cousin "Had you two been trying long?"

Ummm... I don't even know how to answer that. Someone is essentially asking about my sex life and that's always awkward. If I'm not volunteering that info to you, I probably don't want you to know.

Last time this crazy woman at my H's office asked him if we were going to keep the baby. Seriously? We're married and 29! We're not unwed teenagers!!

OMG. I would have fallen over if someone asked me that. Lololol! What did he say to that??

[MrsDarcy]

Mar 28, 2014 9:31:35 GMT -5 pinotgrig said:

Mar 28, 2014 9:30:22 GMT -5 MrsDarcy said:

Last time this crazy woman at my H's office asked him if we were going to keep the baby. Seriously? We're married and 29! We're not unwed teenagers!!

OMG. I would have fallen over if someone asked me that. Lololol! What did he say to that??

Haha, this is totally how this woman is, they call them "Pat Attacks." He probably just responded that we were.

[sunshine608]

This isn't really inappropriate but more annoying but everyone keeps telling me I'm small after I tell them when I'm due, and I have no idea what to say. I usually stammer about being really sick and loosing weight in the beginning, but the baby's a healthy X pounds. I mean WTH am I supposed to say to that???

Sometimes I don't reply and there is awkward silence which makes it even worse.

[laurack]

I've been asked flat out how much weight I gained. Seems a bit weird.

I also have had my lunch examined for it's "adequacy" for pregnancy.

Questions about whether or not I drink caffeine/is my coffee decaf.

"Will you be breastfeeding" from random strangers. Oh and "will you be having an epidural".

It seems when you are pregnant, regular rules surrounding socially acceptable questions and behavior are suspended temporarily.

[mannah]

Mar 28, 2014 10:49:45 GMT -5 laurack said:

I've been asked flat out how much weight I gained. Seems a bit weird.

I also have had my lunch examined for it's "adequacy" for pregnancy.

Questions about whether or not I drink caffeine/is my coffee decaf.

"Will you be breastfeeding" from random strangers. Oh and "will you be having an epidural".

It seems when you are pregnant, regular rules surrounding socially acceptable questions and behavior are suspended temporarily.

I think you're last paragraph here will be my response to any future inappropriate questions I get. Word for word that should end the questions pretty quick.

[rbp]

Mar 28, 2014 10:49:45 GMT -5 laurack said:

I also have had my lunch examined for it's "adequacy" for pregnancy.

Questions about whether or not I drink caffeine/is my coffee decaf.

WTF. I about bit my sister's head off when she asked me if I should be eating sushi. 

[mae141]

Mar 27, 2014 17:25:51 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

Wait until people ask you if you're breastfeeding. A lot of older women ask. I am, but what if the answer were 'no'?

And they always grab their own boobs when they say it, too. Complete strangers. 

[dana2006]

Mar 28, 2014 20:08:31 GMT -5 mae141 said:

Mar 27, 2014 17:25:51 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

Wait until people ask you if you're breastfeeding. A lot of older women ask. I am, but what if the answer were 'no'?

And they always grab their own boobs when they say it, too. Complete strangers. 

That's so strange!

This is not really an inappropriate question, but a no filter comment. My boss was asking about how my pregnancy was going, and then out of the blue said, "Babies are the best props for picking up chicks. I remember when my son was an infant, I'd carry him into bars and women would flock to me. Omg there was a lot of flirting." The way he was telling it, he was clearly missing the old glory days. 
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