I really think I wouldn't put much effort towards them for awhile. They want a relationship with her, they can meet you halfway. It should have been their idea to have a cake with her another day.
I'm pissed for you because my ils are the same way. Jerks.
Oh man. That's really hurtful of them and crappy for all of you especially Mila. It really hard to be let down by family. Your dad sounds incredible though and I hope you have a great party.
I had to text mil yesterday and suggest we get their family together to have cake for mila. I had to initiate this discussion.
I'm pissed for you. It's bad enough that they're missing the party in favor of some random person's wedding, but then the fact that YOU had to initiate the discussion to make sure that they could actually celebrate their granddaughter's birthday with her makes it even worse. How about a little effort people?! I'd be enraged.
That is so sad. Do they even care how they are making their own son feel? Like his daughter's birthday is not important at all. This is not ok and I would be so hurt. I am sorry you are having to deal with them. They sound really selfish.
Also, I have been meaning to ask about your dad. I am so glad that he is feeling good enough to come to the party. I hope he gets his strength back very soon.
Thank you
He is definitely doing better. He and my mom went to the opera over the weekend because they had the tickets and he insisted he could go. I guess it really wore him out but at least they were able to go and have fun.
They're always really active. They go out dancing pretty much every weekend... Were taking lessons to learn Argentinian tango and hVe a trip booked to DC for a tango event... My mom travels for work and he will accompany her.
It's been hard on him to have to miss these things. I'm hoping it won't take as long as the doctors are estimating for him to be back to normal.
I don't like them. They are always making you feel bad about stuff. I think you should take a step back from them. And I'm glad your dad is doing better!
Post by livinreality on Mar 31, 2014 8:19:59 GMT -5
So sorry.
My inlaws are like this, even if I picked the date and time for there convenience they don't always show up. My Mom, Dad and brother have rotating schedules and they always send them to me to make sure they can come to the party and would take off work if possible. Just weird how different the families are.
My sister didn't come to Roe's 1st Birthday party after I rescheduled to accommodate her work schedule. We talked for like two hours about it and she didn't even come. I was heartbroken. I'm still pissed about it so I totally get your position on this and I'm sorry.
Honestly, people like them are not going to change, I learned that a long time ago. Continue living life as you do, and do not go out of your way for them. Your adorable kiddos will learn on their own, unfortunately, who sees them as a priority and who does not. Your in-laws can either choose to be active in their lives or not, they suck. Your poor H must be so upset with them.
Random: Growing up my dad was not involved in our lives at all, he just worked all the time and did not participate with our stuff, but my mom did EVERYTHING for us. Now that I have my own kids, my dad is ALL about staying in touch and being cutesy with them and remembering special dates and stuff.....and I never hear from my mom. so weird.