Since I got pregnant via fertility treatments I've had weekly ultrasounds since week 5. I won't have another one now until good Friday, which will put me at 14 weeks.
I know people have posted this before but it's normal to question whether the baby is still alive in there, right?
No spotting, no pains, but no nausea nor fatigue. I fell like I'm in limbo. No confirmation either way and is getting me down.
Post by curbsideprophet on Mar 31, 2014 21:34:31 GMT -5
Don't borrow trouble. Do you gave any reason to believe you are not pregnant? Spotting/bleeding/cramping? If not just tell yourself today I am pregnant.
It is definitely normal! I felt the same way before my first ultrasound and still feel that way. I'm nervous about a possible Doppler attempt at my next appointment as well as the N/T scan. I don't know if the anxiousness will really ever go away entirely.
We went through a year of fertility treatments, with one missed m/c and one CP. Even at 17 weeks, I'm still surprised to learn that the baby is still alive and growing at every appointment.
I got a Doppler to help ease my fears, but then I freaked out because I could never find the heartbeat. I found out that I had an anterior placenta and even the doctor couldn't get it on Doppler. It did move around 15 or 16 weeks, so I can pick up the heartbeat easily now, but geez... The only thing more nerve-wracking than just wondering if your baby is still alive, is not being able to find a heartbeat on Doppler. That didn't work out as well as I had imagined.
That is why I will not get a doppler! Though I have come close a few times.
I have no signs of a mc but I keep expecting to bleed any minute now. I frantically check every time I use the bathroom. I guess having those previous mc can really fuck up your confidence.
I'm so scared to go on and have them say there is no hb. I guess I won't be sure I am having a baby until I have one I my arms! Then comes a lifetime of worry, right?
I understand how you feel. For a while I lived for my monthly doctors appointments to reassure me everything was ok. Especially after my first trimester when I started feeling better.
Try to think positively and not worry. I know it's hard because I've been there.
I question this all the time. I don't feel different, how do I know its all ok, what if things changed, ugh the mind games I go through. Before every appt I'm nervous. Once I hear the heart beat or see the ultrasound I calm down. I've told my doctor do the u/s first then ask me questions.
Yes. It's totally normal. From what I've heard from other moms you pretty much worry that your baby is alive until they are about 25 years old or so.
This.
I'm pregnant with my third. Have lots of morning sickness and yet, I still worry. It's pretty normal. Try and keep yourself busy so you have less time to dwell on your fears. Read a good book, meet up with friends, etc.
I frantically check every time I use the bathroom. I guess having those previous mc can really fuck up your confidence. Then comes a lifetime of worry, right?
I felt this way even after I could feel her move. A m/c and fertility treatments is a total mindfuck. I think I became less neurotic about it after I started feeling movement though, around 18/19 weeks.
Post by bananapancakes on Apr 1, 2014 7:19:53 GMT -5
Totally, totally normal. It lessened a bit for me once I was feeling movement all the time but even at 32 weeks when we were on our way to our elective 3D ultrasound, I started worrying that they were going to tell me that there was no heartbeat. I was worrying about this while concurrently being kicked in the ribs! Not logical!
Absolutely normal! Try to remain calm and positive - at this point the odds are very much on your side. This is coming from the girl who insisted on a heartbeat check right before we broke the news to H's entire family at thanksgiving, though.
But seriously, your little one is most likely fine and growing away. I always thought I'd feel better once I could feel him move, but it's just another thing to obsess over, as pp's have said.
Completely normal. I go through days where I am constantly goggleing bad case scenario's like this mornings since my discharge has been a little yellowish. It's a bad habit I need to stop googleing. Then I start questioning my symptoms and checking my boobs.
Best thing you can do is remain calm and try to stay positive. I know hard this is.
Thanks, I knew this all already but I really, really needed to hear (or read?) it from others that it's normal to freak but that I should really try to relax.
I feel great. I mean, I don't even feel pregnant. Even my exhaustion is much less - in fact, I have trouble falling asleep b/c I'm so energized at night. I was up doing things until 11 pm last night! So, while I LOVE being symptom free, it's got me on edge.
My SIL lost her first pregnancy in June of last year. Everything was great, they told everyone, she felt normal, and she went in and no heartbeat out of the blue. That is what has me worried, but I can see it worries everyone else, too.
mrssandro - You're going to make me google now! lol. My discharge has been yellowish and I assumed it was normal (no odor). Also, sometimes it's a ton and then some times it's dried up (sorry, TMI - but really, what is TMI on this board anyway?). I worry about discharge all the time but I think as long as there is no blood in it and no horrible odors I'm happy right now.
Post by JayhawkGirl on Apr 1, 2014 17:24:14 GMT -5
I could have written your post myself last year. After obsessively tracking our bodies to get to the pregnancy, it's hard to "let things happen." I realized the other day I'm finally not checking the TP every time I go for the first time in over two years.
I did get a Doppler but it's not for everyone.
The boring stories never make the internet. Stop googling
Post by chickadee77 on Apr 1, 2014 18:59:11 GMT -5
Normal.
I'm 27 weeks and still worry if I don't feel her for awhile (anterior placenta - grr). My mantra during first tri was, "If I have no reason to believe anything is wrong, I'm going to act as if everything is right."
I went through IVF, and I remember waiting and waiting for the next appointment. I would have liked to have an ultrasound once a week, just to know everything was going fine!
I could have written your post myself last year. After obsessively tracking our bodies to get to the pregnancy, it's hard to "let things happen." I realized the other day I'm finally not checking the TP every time I go for the first time in over two years.
I did get a Doppler but it's not for everyone.
The boring stories never make the internet. Stop googling
Your so right. I just spent 3 years obsessing over my body, temperature, CM, OPKs, and then the fertility treatments with constant blood draws, ultrasounds almost weekly, pills, injections,and of course the 2 ww where every mood and pain was analyzed for the possible sign of a pregnancy.
to just sit back, relax, and wait, seems unnatural. it's like I'm going through withdrawal. I don't think I've ever gone more than two weeks without some kind of doctor probing me or testing me in some way.
Post by statlerwaldorf on Apr 1, 2014 22:31:59 GMT -5
Normal. It got a little better once I started feeling him move, but sometimes I get panicky if I haven't felt him for a while. He doesn't move much during the day and it drives me crazy.
Your so right. I just spent 3 years obsessing over my body, temperature, CM, OPKs, and then the fertility treatments with constant blood draws, ultrasounds almost weekly, pills, injections,and of course the 2 ww where every mood and pain was analyzed for the possible sign of a pregnancy.
to just sit back, relax, and wait, seems unnatural. it's like I'm going through withdrawal. I don't think I've ever gone more than two weeks without some kind of doctor probing me or testing me in some way.
It's a tough routine to break. It sucks when you're in it, and it's hard to leave it behind. TMI alert - I had my first PP period a couple of weeks ago. It was so weird to NOT feel the need to cry, curse and drink. Just general annoyance that I only got 3 months reprieve from it
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Bask in the feeling pretty good and try to trust your body as much as you can. It's hard, I know. Our bodies fought us to get here. But you're here, and today you're pregnant. And that's an awesome thing!!!