I assume my mom, MIL, and nanny have all done this when watching my babies, though I have never asked. I am not at all bothered by it and think it is often the best alternative. Barring some reason to be concerned, I think it is a weird thing to be upset about.
I agree that if the issue is a bad gut feeling from your MIL, you need a new babysitter for reasons beyond this.
Doesn't bother me at all. My 3 year old and 20 month old are both in the bathroom regularly when me/DH/any other care giver (grandparents) either use the restroom or take a shower. I don't quite trust the two of them yet to roam around the house freely when I shower in the mornings.
I don't remember when it started, but when my daughter was an older infant she would lose it if she was awake and couldn't see me. I actually kept a bounce chair in the bathroom so I could shower, or go without the yelling. Why upset the kid if its not needed?
Same here - we had the pack-n-play set up in our bathroom until just a few weeks ago.
Damn, I've breastfed while going to the bathroom. I get that there's a containment device around, but sometimes babies don't want to be put down.
How did this even come up?
Yep, I've done this too! I can not even fathom what could be wrong with bringing an 8 month old baby into the bathroom. Although, neither of my kids would ever stand for being left in a crib in another room while I went to the bathroom. I'd much rather bring 'em in than go while they cry.
Post by thatgirl2478 on Apr 1, 2014 16:22:38 GMT -5
nope. wouldn't bother me. DD is 3 and follows grandma into the bathroom all the time. heck, she hangs out it the bathroom with daddy about 70% of the time too. she sees appropriate nakedness (ie real bodies doing bathroom stuff - not porn) and i don't have a problem with it. plus, it's not like anyone is saying 'hey little girl - look at this!' with her.
DS comes into the bathroom all the time. He doesn't like being left in the crib. I think she's being a responsible caretaker. I don't think anybody really wants to bring a kid in the bathroom with them.
DD comes in the bathroom with me all the time. In fact, we have a little potty in there. So when I go to the bathroom, she comes in and sits on the potty.
This is a strange conversation. I just don't understand why it is a big deal.
J always comes into the bathroom with me. He provides entertainment while I'm using the restroom shrieks and pulls all the stuff out of all the drawers and even supplies me with my TP unrolls the TP. Basically my kid is a walking tornado so I would much rather have the tornado contained where I can see him.
This is us exactly. ALLLLL the bath toys end up in the tub before I'm done in there.
Isn't that better than leaving him alone somewhere? I'd be encouraging it. I mean, don't let him sit on the floor licking the toilet, but in an exersaucer or something he's safe, clean and entertained. How will you potty train him later on if he can't follow into the bathroom and see what his care givers do there? Last time Mil babysat ds I gave her instructions that involved "oh and ds likes to flush the toilet when you're done".
A) Why this is a big deal at all. B) How the hell this comes up in a conversation.
I haven't peed alone since 2011. And esp. not now that my 2.5 year can open doors. When we're in a time crunch I toss her in the shower with either me or H. She doesn't care or notice.
3 years from now it'll be weird, but for now, whatever.
Apparently I lack some sort of modesty radar or something.
Post by speckledfrog on Apr 1, 2014 18:38:17 GMT -5
It wouldn't bother me. If she's his caregiver during the day there are going to be times where it is unavoidable for her to him to the bathroom with her, like when they are out and about.
Here's the thing, peering in front of an 8 month old is NBD, BUT, I wouldn't want MIL starting this when DS isn't demanding it. I never brought DS into the bathroom with me until he was 18 months or so & started freaking out if I tried to go alone. I got 18 months to pee in peace! And he has largely outgrown it at 26 months! I just wouldn't want someone making a habit out of this BEFORE its neccesary.
When I nannied I was encouraged to do it. With my two kids it happened naturally. I run a daycare at home and my troublemakers of the day have to sit in the hall outside the bathroom with the door cracked so I can see them.
This is a reality of life with kids. If you aren't comfortable, tell her you prefer he be in the crib, playpen, whatever. But I think you are overreacting.