Huge hugs to you. Do you think, under any circumstances, you all could reconcile? Would they have to be the first to make a move?
I'm asking because my mom and her cousin were like sisters growing up. Lived on the same street, only a year apart in age. They did everything together. They had a really intense argument after my grandma died and didn't talk to one another for several years. I knew it was tearing my mom up on the inside, but she wouldn't budge. Finally one year, my aunt (second cousin, whatever, I call her my aunt), sent my mom a birthday card and that opened both of them up for a reconnection. Now, they are as inseparable as they once were. I guess the reason I'm telling you this story is that this all can have a happy ending, but you all have to be ready for it. You've got my support no matter what.
Post by Faevantastic on Apr 3, 2014 13:01:04 GMT -5
I'm sorry. Hugs. It's possible that they may feel the same way you do though. They may want to reach out but they fear your rejection. I don't know the situation but I do know you're a sound person so you must have your reasons. Just don't let pride get in the way. In the long run it's not worth it, you know?
((Hugs)) I'm estranged from my dad, but we're not actively mad at each other (I don't think). Neither of us care enough to make the effort into getting to know each other.
He thought Holden's name was Hayden. Even after I said it correctly several times. He didn't know his only grandchild's name.
I'm sorry you're going through a shitty situation with your family.
Post by DaphneStrauss on Apr 3, 2014 13:10:09 GMT -5
Oh my goodness, big hugs for you. That is really painful to begin with but when it trickles down and affects their relationship L, that takes it to a whole new level of sadness. One would hope they would rise above it to show love and attention to their grandchild. I have no advice but big hugs.
I am really sorry and it's crap that they would cut L out of their lives. That sucks and ((hugs)) to you.
My H is estranged from his brother but we still make it a point to be in our niece and nephews lives. Unfortunately BIL and SIL do not reciprocate with our daughter
You know what, Chels. I've dealt with crap like this from my exILs if you recall, and in order to stay sane you gotta look at it this way: Layne doesn't need/want people like that in his life. He is not going to miss out on anything not having that drama in his life. Those are not good people who would do something so hurtful to you or your child. Layne won the lottery by having you as a mom to love and protect him. I know it's hurtful and hard on you, but you gotta twist it into a positive for him.
I'm so sorry!!! That just sucks! Yesterday I was feeling really upset about William turning two, my mom and my relationship basically done, Dh's parents apparently don't care to be part of W's bday and ttgp has gotten to me a lot. I'm sure that with your mom that it hurts so much for her to act that way towards you, but then to your child, your perfect little boy, it just breaks your heart. I hope that you guys are able to have a great day and remember that L knows how much he's loved by you!
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