I want to separate, he doesn't

[ro]

So, this is my first post. I've been lurking for a bit. I need some advice. Last Sept I told my husband that I didn't love him anymore. There were specific reasons, not physical abuse, for this. We agreed to go to counselling. Early this spring I decided, with the help of my counsellor, that I wanted out. I don't love him and I felt trapped in a loveless marriage. In May I told him it was over. I went and talked to a lawyer, and talked to the bank about getting approved for a mortgage. I was approved, but my name is on our current mortgage so I'd still be responsible for that too.
Anyway, he doesn't want this. He wants me to change my mind. I can't, and won't, and have told him that. I've been sleeping on the couch. We have 2 kids together, and I have 1 from a previous relationship.
Where do I go from here? What do I do if he won't do anything? I really wanted to do this as amicably as possible but I'm finding that's not going to be possible.
Has anyone dealt with a situation like this and have adivce?

[dakotadangerdog]

Sorry for the shitty situation. I have no advice, but talk to your lawyer I guess.

[Deleted]

You have to go to a lawyer and serve him papers. He can not refuse a divorce, he can fight it and drag it out, but in the end he can't stop it. The sooner you make it legal the better for you.
Before you do that make sure you have copies of all financial papers.

[explorer2001]

Jul 12, 2012 9:59:11 GMT -5 mags said:

You have to go to a lawyer and serve him papers. He can not refuse a divorce, he can fight it and drag it out, but in the end he can't stop it. The sooner you make it legal the better for you.
Before you do that make sure you have copies of all financial papers.

This.

He can not want it and make it hard but he can't stop it. You need to continue moving forward.

This sucks. Hugs

[ro]

Thanks. I have an appt with my lawyer next week. He apparently talked to one the other day, but just to get information, not to really do anything. We'll have to sell our house before either of us can move out, I'm sure, which could take awhile.

[Deleted]

Jul 12, 2012 10:18:11 GMT -5 ro said:

Thanks. I have an appt with my lawyer next week. He apparently talked to one the other day, but just to get information, not to really do anything. We'll have to sell our house before either of us can move out, I'm sure, which could take awhile.

because of financial reasons?

[ro]

Jul 12, 2012 19:28:32 GMT -5 mags said:

Jul 12, 2012 10:18:11 GMT -5 ro said:

Thanks. I have an appt with my lawyer next week. He apparently talked to one the other day, but just to get information, not to really do anything. We'll have to sell our house before either of us can move out, I'm sure, which could take awhile.

because of financial reasons?

Yes. I've been approved for a mortgage, so could buy a place, but I know he couldn't afford our current house on his own. I'd still be responsible if he defaulted on a payment because my name is on the mortgage as well.