NHGR: I suck- WWYD?

[thewop]

So...I just emailed a "will attend" RSVP for a friend's baby shower. Not a close friend, just the wife of one of DH's friends. Well I googled mapped the address, and it's 2 HOURS away. The address listed a Township Hall and a street adress, no city, state or zip. Towhship Halls are pretty common around here, so I figured it was fairly local. Total FAIL on my part for not googling first. I really don't want to drive 2 hours there and 2 hours back. The shower is at noon, so I'd have to leave my house at 10:00 am and assuming the shower is 2 hours long, I won't get home until 4:00 pm. That's an entire DAY lost for a simple baby shower. So, WWYD? RSVP the host and explain my fail or suck it up and go? I plan on giving a nice gift either way.

[wawa]

suck up and go.

Maybe see if you can find something worthwhile to hit on your way there or back so it doesn't feel like a total waste?

[mrsemilys]

Eh, I would email the host and explain your mistake. I would then send a gift.

[emoflamingo]

I'd suck it up. I'm in a similar situation where I was invited to a baby shower that is about an hour and a half away, I have to be there by 11 a.m. and they had better be serving some kind of food instead of just cake and punch because otherwise I will walk out. (I'm not getting a super great gift either, because I have a baby to supply things for myself, but she will get a gift.)

I'm making a day out of it and spending time with my sister, SIL and niece.

[thewop]

Jul 12, 2012 10:19:38 GMT -5 emoflamingo said:

I'd suck it up. I'm in a similar situation where I was invited to a baby shower that is about an hour and a half away, I have to be there by 11 a.m. and they had better be serving some kind of food instead of just cake and punch because otherwise I will walk out. (I'm not getting a super great gift either, because I have a baby to supply things for myself, but she will get a gift.)

I'm making a day out of it and spending time with my sister, SIL and niece.

It might be different if I was friends with more than the woman who is pregnant, but...I'm not. I probably won't know anyone else there TBH.

[emoflamingo]

Jul 12, 2012 10:22:38 GMT -5 thewop said:

Jul 12, 2012 10:19:38 GMT -5 emoflamingo said:

I'd suck it up. I'm in a similar situation where I was invited to a baby shower that is about an hour and a half away, I have to be there by 11 a.m. and they had better be serving some kind of food instead of just cake and punch because otherwise I will walk out. (I'm not getting a super great gift either, because I have a baby to supply things for myself, but she will get a gift.)

I'm making a day out of it and spending time with my sister, SIL and niece.

It might be different if I was friends with more than the woman who is pregnant, but...I'm not. I probably won't know anyone else there TBH.

Mine is for my 18 year old jobless, barely high school educated and owns no car cousin. Who was with her boyfriend for maybe 2 months AND she told me the week after my loss (which I basically forced to announce on FB because some of my family didn't understand why I was having an issue supporting my stupid sister having a baby with a 17 year old -- yes, my extended family is drama). So I feel you on wanting to get out of it lol.

If you really don't want to go, I'd apologize and say "I didn't put two and two together and realize the baby shower was on xx date when I RSVP'd and I already had a previous engagement scheduled that I cannot miss. Please let me know where I can send the gift. Again, I'm very sorry." I have totally not realized stuff like this when scheduling a visit with family and I had an event to go to already. Usually, though, my events are easy to get out of.

[ringstrue]

ditto emo

[downtoearth]

I'd just e-mail the hostess and tell her that I was mistaken and cannot make it that date, then get info on where to send the present.

[bethaboo]

Jul 12, 2012 11:11:09 GMT -5 downtoearth said:

I'd just e-mail the hostess and tell her that I was mistaken and cannot make it that date, then get info on where to send the present.

In light of the fact that you won't know anyone else, this is what I think you should do as well.

[sierramist03]

I'd just email the hostess

[Deleted]

WOP!

I wouldn't even worry about this. Like at all.
It may be the time or place I live but if you don't show nobody would care.

I'd just email her and say "Hey, Thanks for the shower invite. However, due to some unforeseen circumstances I will no longer be able to attend. Have fun and enjoy your shower. I will drop your gift in the mail."

If this was like a sister, cousin, friend I'd have a different opinion but someone you barely know..whatever.

[thewop]

Yeah, I'm probably making more of it than necessary. And I found out I'm traveling for work that Thurs and Fri before, and won't see BabyWop for 2 days, so that makes me not want to spend an entire day at a baby shower even more. I'll email back on Monday and tell them I won't be able to attend and will send the gift.