Post by gretchenindisguise on Apr 7, 2014 10:55:14 GMT -5
First pregnancy, they learned at about 8 weeks. They came over for Thanksgiving, which was right around my mom's birthday. We bought them "best grandma" and "best grandpa" onesies - wrapped them and had them open them.
Second pregnancy, they were in town right after we found out. They came over, I didn't drink wine - I told them
We told my parents only a few days after getting a BFP, because it was Christmas and we were seeing them in person. I didn't think of anything creative to do and just told them at breakfast. We were going to wait till 8 weeks to tell DH's parents, but he was getting antsy and I didn't feel I had a leg to stand on since we had told mine, so we called them around 6 weeks. It was pretty obvious they had guessed as soon as DH asked if they could both get on the phone. If we weren't seeing either set in person, I probably would have waited until after our first appointment at 8 weeks, because I was a little stressed about them knowing that early.
Post by hillarywhitney on Apr 7, 2014 12:14:30 GMT -5
We told my parents right before 5 weeks. It was in November, so I told them I had an early Christmas decoration for them (and gave them a little stocking).
We told dh's parents a few days before mine, by giving them a skype tour or our new house (they live in another state). When we got to the nursery said something along the lines of "in July this will be a nursery".
We are both close to our parents and were comfortable sharing very early. But I think it's important to tell when you want/feel comfortable.
We told my parents before 6w. However, in our defense, we thought we were almost 8w along. Dating U/S moved due date by almost 2 weeks.
We were hosting a birthday dinner for them and I gave them Grandma and Grandpa birthday cards. We got their reaction on video and it was incredible. My brother & grandparents were also there
Post by statlerwaldorf on Apr 7, 2014 13:17:52 GMT -5
Dh called and told his parents right away. Dd told my mom which wasn't planned, but I had to take her to some of my appointments, so she knew what was up. I called and told my dad after the first ultrasound.
The first time, we told both sets of parents at about 6 weeks because H and I were in the US visiting his parents and it seemed like a good time to tell them in person (and then we felt it wouldn't be fair to keep it from my parents). My dad didn't take it so well, and had some sort of belated midlife crisis, and it really hurt my feelings. Unfortunately it was ectopic so we lost it shortly thereafter.
This time I told my mum before my 6 week scan because I needed to prep her for the possibility that I'd need surgery again if it was ectopic the 2nd time around. When we found out all was well, we waited another couple of weeks then told my dad. His reaction was so much better than last time - I think he'd felt awful about it. We also told my in-laws then, but asked them not to share with H's brother and sister, and my MIL promptly spilled the beans so we won't be sharing sensitive information with them in future.
Post by andthentherewere10 on Apr 7, 2014 15:59:21 GMT -5
I told my dad at 5 weeks. It was his birthday and I got him a mug that said "this dad is being promoted to grandpa." I told my mom about 5 weeks later after a doppler check at the Dr. My parents are divorced and my dad is way more excited about grandparenthood than my mother, hence the difference.
If it were completely up to me, I'd have told them after my second or third beta. As it happened, I got my initial beta result Monday morning, called DH but he wasn't at his desk. My brother, who never calls me during business hours, called me at that moment when I just had to tell someone, so I told him and sworn him to secrecy until I could tell our parents. He spilled the beans to them that same night, and then sworn them to secrecy so I wouldn't know they already knew. I called them a week later after my 3rd beta result and they were like, yeah, we're over the moon but we've known this for a week now. LOL.
OMG, I would have been furious!!
I was not pleased, but it was so ridiculous at the time that all I could do was laugh about it. In all honesty, I blame myself for telling brother so early. My parents went on and told all of our relatives before I hit 6 weeks. It's the genes--none of us could keep a secret.
Post by hokiegirl82 on Apr 7, 2014 16:46:22 GMT -5
I told my parents on the phone (they are not local) the day after I found out I was pregnant. I can keep nothing from my parents. We told H's parents on the phone after 12 weeks because his dad is known to be a talker and I didn't want him spreading the news too early.
I didn't tell parents or ILs until after I'd had my first u/s and everything looked good. With my first pregnancy, this was around 10 weeks for my parents and 14 weeks for my ILs (because we wanted to tell them in person) and this time it was at 9 weeks with both (didn't tell the ILs in person this time because I won't see them again until I'm 7 months along).
Post by narockshard on Apr 7, 2014 18:46:06 GMT -5
We told our parents at 11 weeks, after our first appointment and hearing the heartbeat for the first time. We knew we would tell them that night after our appointment but I wasn't sure how to do it, except that my excuse for going to visit them was because we'd be in the area to see my BFFs new baby, so they weren't suspicious of that. I happened to call my mom and she said she was decorating their Christmas tree so I got the idea to get an ornament that said "Grandma" on it. I handed it to her and since she didn't have her glasses on she didn't notice at all and I had to say "did you read it?" and then her face just became totally shocked and she started to cry and I started to cry and we hugged. It was great We drove to my husband's parents' after that and handed them the ornament and told them that way too and they were also super excited.
We did not tell anyone about my first pregnancy because we had a suspicion from the beginning something wasn't right. Unfortunately, it was ectopic and I wound up needing emergency surgery at around 7.5 weeks. It was awful having to call my mom to tell her what was going on as I was being wheeled down to surgery.
With this pregnancy we found out a few days before Christmas. I had a beta done Christmas Eve that was sky high, so we told H's parents on Christmas Eve and my parents Christmas Day. We knew if something awful were to happen again, we would need their support.
we saw my family at thanksgiving time (about 5 weeks) and i said i couldn't drink because my migraines had gotten worse and my doc told me to cut out common triggers. we saw them (and the ILs) again at christmas (9 weeks) and told immediate family then. in between we had had out first appt and a dating ultrasound where we heard the heartbeat. we gave our parents each a copy of the book "grandma, grandpa and me" by mercer mayer. both sets of parents will be first time grandparents. we wrapped it up as in xmas paper and told them we had a present for them to open first. we did not "release" the news to extended family until after the NT scan and results.