When did you tell your parents about the pregnancy?

[konapoppy]

And how did you tell them?

We are having dinner with my parents the day before my first appointment at 8 weeks. It will be obvious if I don't drink, but I am also hesitant to tell them before we know if it has the potential to be a viable pregnancy (assuming the next few weeks go well). Anyone else nervous and excited about sharing the news?

[missbella]

We told my mom 2 days after my BFP after we got my first Beta results. We told my dad a week later because he was out of town for work when we told my mom. I see my mom at least twice a week so I knew I couldn't keep it from her plus I would have needed her if something happened..

My in-laws we called and told when we got back from the ultrasound when we saw the heartbeat at 7.5 weeks.

ETA: My mom and dad I gave books that were titled, "I love my Grandma" and  "I love my Grandpa". In-laws we skyped and showed them the ultrasound picture.

[rbp]

I told my mom at eight weeks (day after my first appointment) because we went to Vegas for her birthday, and I couldn't just not drink all weekend without raising suspicions. I would have waited otherwise, but I felt ok about it since it was after my appointment.

It really depends on your relationship with your parents. Some people don't even wait a day to tell their parents. My mom and ILs kind of annoyed me with blabbing to people after we asked them not to, so next time I will wait.

[linz]

My parents knew we did IVF so I told them after my second beta. I lied about the date though so they wouldnt bug me before I had results. They know not to tell anyone.

H's parents idk when we'll tell. Mothers Day weekend I'll be 11 weeks so I think then. I'm still debating telling them about our treatment bc his mom cant keep quiet and I'm not ready for the whole fam to know.

[catsarecute]

We waited to tell parents until the day after our first appointment. It was a LONG 3 weeks from positive test to announcing but it felt like the best choice.
We managed to give them each something with the sonogram picture. I like to think we were pretty stealth in the operation. My mom was the only one who was suspicious when I said I had something to give her on a random Saturday.

[mrssandro]

I waited until 9 ish weeks after the third ultrasound. I has made it past my previous loss of 8 wks 1 day.

[bananapancakes]

The first time we told them at 9 weeks. It was Easter last year so we gave them Easter cards to "Grandma and Grandpa" signed from the baby. Unfortunately, I miscarried at 11 weeks.

This time we waited much longer. We didn't tell them until 14 weeks and we just told them we had photos to show them and showed them the ultrasound photos.

[pinotgrig]

About 5w. We were going on vacation together and my lack of drinking would be obvious. Also, everyone kept telling me that m/s would start any day now. We had had one very early u/s at that point so we had that to share too.

We told them right before we left for the airport, when they were at out house. It was really close to my dad's b-day, so we got a cake that said "We're Pregnant!" on it and sang happy b-day to him with my mom sitting next to him. After we were done singing, we set the cake down. It was so fun.

We told H's family at TG when I was about 10w. We did the old thing of getting everybody together for a picture that h was going to take, though he was actually videoing. He said "On 3, everyone say 'pinotgrig is pregnant!'".

Telling everyone was so much fun.

[cmarie11]

We told both sets of parents around 8 weeks. Thankfully it all turned out well, but it made me extremely nervous for them to know. I actually had a meltdown right before the in-laws came over because I was so scared to tell them and then have something happen. Plus, once they knew, they were dying to tell people and knew they had to keep it a secret for the next 4 weeks or so.

I think next time we will try and wait a little closer to 12 weeks.

[konapoppy]

Thanks for sharing! Some cute stories, too

We think this is going to be a big surprise to them (we got in to contract on a home he day before the BFP, so everyone is focused on that right now). We saw them Saturday and didn't say anything, and are seeing the again this week so they can see the house. I am thinking at the family dinner when they do a toast that we will add that they may be getting a big present for their 45th wedding anniversary in December.

[winemaker]

We told the parents after my eight week appt. We wanted to show them sono pictures. We had Thanksgiving before eight weeks so I had to be pretty sneeky about dumping out the wine that was served .

[bethaboo]

We told H's mom about four days after our BFP (so just after 5 weeks). It was her birthday so we bought her a gift card for an airline and said it was to "visit her first grandchild".

My mom knew that we were trying and that I was well over a week late but that I had tested four times with positive results. So I couldn't keep it from her for long. I had a lot of cute plans for telling but ultimately I just told her over the phone (she lives about three hours away).

[bowies]

We "told" them on Christmas, which happened to be 12 weeks to the day. We didn't travel to see any family this past year, so we sent framed pictures of the ultrasound disguised as Christmas gifts. My FIL called us first thing in the morning but my parents lollygagged on gift opening until closer to lunchtime. The wait was terrible.

Don't feel pressured to tell before you're ready. When I was in a social situation during the first trimester, I just said I wasn't feeling well and was on some medication. Which, technically, wasn't a lie!

[sunshine608]

The same day I got my BFP. I had been sick for a week and complaining ( I thought I had mono) so I thought I should update them on why I was so sick. Also they came over and helped me clean and brought me food since H was OOT.

My parents are local and there is no way I could keep it from them. I would have liked a more sentimental ( like the dog wearing a Big Brother item or something) way to tell them, but oh well . Maybe the next baby.

Like pps, I think it all depends on your relationship with your parents and if you can keep stuff like that. My H can't keep a secret. I get presents at exactly 12:00a.m. on whatever holiday if he hasn't slipped and told me before hand.

[chedominique]

I'm telling my Mom and my in-laws this weekend. We waited because we wanted to make sure we had our u/s first and I didn't want it to leak on FB before I told my job.

They are all OOT. My Mom is helping my sister move into her first apartment this weekend and I've been telling my sister every month what gift she is getting for her housewarming from my H and I. This weekend is the final gift and I'm announcing to her and my Mom through a riddle that what her gift is and that we are expecting .

[mrsnole]

With DD we didn't wait and we just called our family at about 6 weeks.

With this pregnancy we waited until our 8 week appointment and then texted our family with a pic of DD in a 'big sister' shirt holding the first ultrasound picture. (All our family is OOT)

[Deleted]

We plan on telling our families on Mothers Day, with a brunch for my family in the morning and then dinner with his family that night. Our first appt/ultrasound will be the week before, and on Mother's Day we'll be 9W5D. It's also our third wedding anniversary.

I am hoping to act like we are taking pictures, but video it instead...have to see if we can manage that without giving it away,

[nessness]

I told my mom a few days after my BFP. I figured if something did happen I would want her support, so there didn't seem to be much point in waiting. Plus I'm no good at secrets, and DH is even worse.

[Alwaysabridesmaidf]

We waited until 12 weeks but we were really cautious because of a previous early loss. I think it should be whatever you are comfortable with.

[chickadee77]

The first time, nine weeks. The second time, twelve weeks. Unfortunately, we lost both pregnancies at about 13.5 weeks. This time, we waited until about twenty weeks.

[melsamoony]

I told my mom about 10 minutes after I got the BFP. First I ran around the house like a crazy person and showed H and then I called her and told her and my dad. We found out right around Christmas so we told all immediate family when we saw them.

We have really close relationships with my parents and in-laws and would want and need their support if something happened. It was very nerve wracking for me but at the same time comforting to know that we were in their thoughts and prayers.

[dana2006]

If it were completely up to me, I'd have told them after my second or third beta. As it happened, I got my initial beta result Monday morning, called DH but he wasn't at his desk. My brother, who never calls me during business hours, called me at that moment when I just had to tell someone, so I told him and sworn him to secrecy until I could tell our parents. He spilled the beans to them that same night, and then sworn them to secrecy so I wouldn't know they already knew. I called them a week later after my 3rd beta result and they were like, yeah, we're over the moon but we've known this for a week now. LOL.

[blushing]

I told my mom the Monday after I got my BFP. I got my BFP on the Saturday and then started bleeding that night and I was scared.

We told IL's and my dad (my parents are divorced) the same day we had our 12 week scan and saw a healthy heart beat.

With my first pregnancy my mom knew very early too, but that is because she knows me so well that when she phoned she could hear in my voice something was up so I told her, lol. I really wish I could tell her in person though. With my first we were living in America and with our second and third pregnancy we were/are living in England. Our parents live in South Africa.

[MrsDarcy]

We told my mom about a week after we found out, so about 5ish weeks I guess.  I had ordered a customized shirt off Etsy that said "Everett is going to be a big brother!", so when she was over, I told her I had ordered E a cute new shirt, and showed her.

We told the rest of our parents and siblings on Christmas, about 9 weeks.  I would have waited a little longer, but we were all together then, so it made sense.

[MrsDarcy]

Apr 7, 2014 9:40:07 GMT -5 dana2006 said:

If it were completely up to me, I'd have told them after my second or third beta. As it happened, I got my initial beta result Monday morning, called DH but he wasn't at his desk. My brother, who never calls me during business hours, called me at that moment when I just had to tell someone, so I told him and sworn him to secrecy until I could tell our parents. He spilled the beans to them that same night, and then sworn them to secrecy so I wouldn't know they already knew. I called them a week later after my 3rd beta result and they were like, yeah, we're over the moon but we've known this for a week now. LOL.

OMG, I would have been furious!!

[bluelikejazz]

We told my family last weekend after the first u/s @ 6.5 weeks.

We're telling DH's parents when we see them later this week.

I would have liked to either have seen 2 heartbeats or one sac, so we didn't have to do the "it might be twins" explanation, but it was more important to me to tell people in person.

[obladi]

We told both sets of parents around 10 weeks. I would have liked to have waited longer for the ILs because they can't keep their mouths shut but it would not have been fair. Everyone is local. We just came right out and told them. My mom probably had already guessed, she is very intuitive about me and my sisters. It is scary lol

[scribellesam]

I texted my parents within about 10 minutes of my BFP. My ILs found out the same day too. There's no way I'd be able to keep it a secret from my mom, and felt no need to.

[kermit]

I told my family at 12 weeks. I would have liked to wait until the next week when we got M21 test results back but it was Christmas and I knew I wouldn't see them in person again for awhile. I just had to keep reminding everyone that we were waiting for test results so don't get too excited. SO told his parents at about 20 weeks.

[sillygoosegirl]

About 5 weeks. My mom and I are BFFs, and I wanted her advice on some stuff. We were out to dinner with them.