First appt- did DH go with?

[miss.colorado]

My first appt is April 17th, I'll be 6.5ish weeks.  DH said he'd come to appt, but I'm not sure it's necessary.  I've read the most recent post on what to expect for first appt, but everyone's experiences were a bit all over the board.  If there's a chance of an ultrasound to see the little nugget, I don't think he'd want to miss, but I don't want him feeling in the way, etc. if not. 

Did your DH come with you?

[MrsDarcy]

He did, because I knew we'd be getting an ultrasound. With my first pregnancy, he came to most appointments (but did work right beside my md office). With this pregnancy, he's only come to the ones with ultrasounds, which is fine by me.

[catsarecute]

He did because I figured we would have an ultrasound. The only other appointment he attended was my 19 week anatomy scan. My appointments are short and nothing really exciting happens so there is no reason for him to go.

[SJ]

Our practice does a "pregnancy confirmation" for the first appointment. DH did not come.

He came to the next one, which was a dating U/S and has been to most others since.

[picksthemusic]

Mine did. If there's a possibility that you'll get an u/s, it's better that he's there than not, especially if he'll feel bad if he misses it.

[rbp]

Mine couldn't make it, and that didn't bother me, but I would have taken him with me if he could have made it. My first appointment was at 7w 5d and did include an ultrasound.

ETA: Can you call your OB's office and ask whether they routinely perform ultrasounds at this point?

[linz]

Yes but we knew I would be getting am ultrasound. He wont come to the next ones until 12 week.

[winemaker]

Yes, my H went with and wants to go to all of the appointments. The only appt he did not go to so far was my three hour glucose. Which it would have been silly for him to go since I just sat in the waiting room. The first appt was really long and they asked a lot of detailed family history, so I'm glad he was there and we got a sonogram, which he would not of wanted to miss.

[melsamoony]

Mine did and I did get an ultrasound. H has come to all my appts except one that was just a nurse visit. It is important for me to have him there and he likes to know what is going on too. For us it is a good way for him to connect to the changes in pregnancy. He is my biggest cheerleader/supporter so when I need help having him around to remind me what the doctor said helps.

[miss.colorado]

OK, thanks for all the fast and thoughtful replies! He'll be going!

[aqualuv]

H went to my first and has come to all of my appointments. It was/is important for him to do so. I'm glad he went to the first appointment because that was our first ultrasound, I was 8 weeks. If he did not go, he would've missed that experience.

[mrssandro]

He came to the first one (dating u/s) and the one where I had a spotting scare. He is also planning to come to the NT Scan in a few weeks. The others he did not attend. 

[pinotgrig]

Sort of? My situation was a bit weird. I have a couple genetic blood clotting disorders that can cause issues early in pg and had an appt at 4w4d with a perinatologist to review my history, meet with a geneticist, and decide if I needed to start on lovenox injections. When they called to schedule me, they said I wouldn't be having an u/s since it was so early. So H didn't come but they did end up doing an u/s just to see how things looked.

My 6w6d confirmation appt with my regular ob does include an u/s, so he did come to that one.

If he can come, I think it'd be helpful. My doc went over a lot of common questions and concerns and I has a million questions of her too.

[melsamoony]

Also don't be afraid to speak up if they forget to bring your H back for the ultrasound. H wasn't in the room for the vaginal exam but was brought back for the ultrasound. My poor BIL was in the waiting room for his wife's ultrasound because neither felt comfortable enough to say something

[megkat]

Mine came, and to be honest, it was kind of a waste. My drs office doesn't do routine ultrasounds at the first appt (and we'd already had two at the RE's office). Basically the dr just talked for awhile, and did a pap (which was actually kinda weird to have him there for). I definitely would have wanted him there if they did an ultrasound though- those are the only appts I've had him go to with me

[Deleted]

He came to my first u/s. He didn't come to the very first appointments where they were drawing blood to check my hcg and progesterone levels.

[demelza]

No he only went to the big appointment with the anatomy ultrasound. I like it that way.

[chedominique]

My H came to my first u/s and he is planning on going to the future ones. He didn't go to my other appointments that were just checkups.

[thatgirl2478]

Yes for the u/s but no for the exam (in my OB's office it's a standard annual exam).

[flgirl]

The only times my husband goes with me is if it is an ultrasound although he didn't attend one of those with my DS. He doesn't need to miss appointments to see me pee in a cup, get my blood pressure check and have my belly measured. At the end he also attends to make sure the doctor understands that he wants to watch the whole c-section. He is weird like that. The doctors never care but the nurses freak out.

[theatre4life]

He's come to all of them, so far. And had dipped out as soon as they say they are ready to draw blood, lol. It's nice to have him there because he often asks questions that I forgot about (but had mentioned needing to talk to her about) and things I hadn't really thought about. I also like having the second set of ears around, in case I miss something.

[calico]

Yes because I had an ultrasound. He has gone to all the ultrasound appts.

[Blue Moon]

Yes, I had an u/s due to bleeding so he was there. They also asked a lot of family history questions and given my history of loss, we were both a nervous wreck and wanted to receive any news together.

[mrsnole]

Yes, DH went with me. At the first appt at my practice they go over everything about their policies and procedures and give a lot of information that is very useful for both the mom and dad. There is also a dating u/s done so I didn't want him to miss that.

[robinsbff]

i'd call your office and see what's up/how they handle things. mine doesn't do ultrasounds in the office but DH was still needed for the first appt because they did an extensive health history of the both of us to know what diseases we might need extra screening for, etc. he came to the dating ultrasound the next day as well, but that was scheduled after getting an order from the OB at the first prenatal appt.

[mrspost08]

My DH had come to all but 1 appt with me & I've had like 10. He will go to the next one & then probably not many after that. I had a lot of problems in the past so he wanted to go.

[curbsideprophet]

I don't think DH came to the first appt either time. It is just paperwork and bloodwork if things are going well. I would not expect an u/s.

[laurack]

Not this time, he hasn't come to any of my midwife appointments. The first pregnancy he came to a lot of them but it seems unnecessary this time.

If I go overdue again I suppose I'll start bringing him. Maybe. We'll see

[bluelikejazz]

Mine came. But I knew there would be an u/s and b/w. I need his moral support for b/w. I still have to lay down and cover my eyes for all blood draws, and having DH there helps so much. Also, I wouldn't have wanted him to miss "there's the sac...and there's another one".

I would call and ask if there will be an u/s. If not, then he probably doesn't need to come.

[starlily]

No. He has only come to the anatomy scan both times.

I've had several ultrasounds this time around and it would have been cumbersome for him to attend every single time, especially since most of my appts are early in the am. He gets DD ready for daycare and handles dropoffs on my appt days.