I thought I could deal with "size" comments

[Odonata]

but considering my size right now is not due to a baby being there, it's really starting to piss me off.

Like, people don't fucking get it.  I'm only 12 weeks.  The baby isn't past my navel.  In fact, at 20 weeks the baby is just at the navel.  

I'm really thin so of course any bloating is going to show on me.  But my stomach (from just under my boobs to just under my navel) is dissented.  I look like those poor children who are starving with the bloated stomachs - OR - like I'm 6-7 months pregnant.  I've always had a hard time dealing with digesting complex carbs so I've avoided them but first trimester nausea blew that right out the window.  I went for my NT scan and the radiologist said I have the most gas she's ever seen in a pregnant woman before.  The doctor advised that I cut out fiber.  It's ugly, uncomfortable, and NOT a baby.  I'm seeing my GI Dr. about it later this week because it is also very painful.

But I keep getting "OH!  I can't believe you're showing already!" and "oh, it has to be a boy b/c you're carrying high!"

No matter how many times I explain "no, I'm not showing, this is gas ,not a baby" everyone laughs it off saying "of course it's a baby!"  

Why am I so mad at this?  I wouldn't mind these comments if there was actually a baby pushing out my belly, but there isn't so now I'm so depressed about it.

I mean, should I stop explaining what my huge bulge really is and start saying "I know!  I'm carrying high" or something?  I mean I actually had my first inappropriate touch yesterday and THERE ISN'T EVEN A BABY THERE!  She was trying to "feel the baby" but was just touching belly fat and GAS.

Make me feel better, please.  

I've gone back to cutting out complex carbs where I can, am taking beno and gas-x.  I'm hoping it goes away soon and I can enjoy it when the baby FINALLY does move up past my naval.

[SJ]

I'm sorry!

I would definitely not explain or tell people it's gas. Just smile & nod if you can.

[rbp]

People made comments about my size before I was showing as well. It pissed me off to no end. Since when is it ok to call a woman fat??

[speckledfrog]

You are too early on to be going crazy over these comments. Seriously. You have a very long stretch of time ahead of you where people will be making all sorts of unsolicited and inane comments about your pregnancy. It will serve you well to learn to let it roll of you and understand that most people are just making banal chit chat.

[Odonata]

Apr 8, 2014 11:05:24 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

You are too early on to be going crazy over these comments. Seriously. You have a very long stretch of time ahead of you where people will be making all sorts of unsolicited and inane comments about your pregnancy. It will serve you well to learn to let it roll of you and understand that most people are just making banal chit chat.

I think it won't bother me to be called big if it was actually because the baby was in there.

Ah, I don't know.  It's annoying.  

[Odonata]

Apr 8, 2014 11:38:51 GMT -5 cab1217 said:

I get this all the time. I usually say "Oh that's not baby, that's gas." If I have to be uncomfortable because of your comments, THAN SO DO YOU ASSHOLES.

lol, that's totally how I feel. 

What I think really pisses me off MORE is when I do explain, "Oh, no, not yet.  That's just gas.  The baby is small and way down here still" they TELL ME I'M WRONG.

I think THAT is what is driving me up the freaking wall.

Plus, I'm sensitive to it b/c I had this problem with digesting complex carbs for a while and became dissented before and people assumed I was pregnant - and this was after my second m/c.  

Hey, I'm growing a human, you know?  I GET that I'm going to have a huge belly.  I can't wait until I have my baby belly.  I just am really self conscious about the gas baby I have right now.  

OH - and now that I'm watching what I eat to try and reduce the bloat (so no carbs at all except veggies and no fruit or milk) people are giving me grief for that too.  "Oh, you're pregnant, you're suppose to gain weight!".

[chickadee77]

Just go with it. If you don't feel like it's anyone's business, then certainly don't explain it, because that makes it their business and a topic of conversation.

I also agree that you've got a long row to hoe if inane comments are pissing you off this early - learn the art of smiling, nodding, and changing the subject.

[rbp]

Apr 8, 2014 10:01:26 GMT -5 bricco said:

Aw, so many hugs.

I definitely wouldn't even try to explain it to people. They don't need to know, and truthfully--they don't care to know. Your belly IS distended because of the baby (even though it's gas.. it's gas that's there because of the hormones in your system because you're GROWING A HUMAN!).

I'd just play it off, but I would totally wear my bitchface to avoid touches. I swear I kind of walk with my arms in a guarded position if people get to close to me. LOL.

Size comments suck no matter what. When the cafeteria lady commented on the size of my belly for the 1029381290381290381290th time, I finally looked at her and said "Why would you say that, to any woman, ever?" and it stopped her from commenting for like.. a week or something. I took it as a personal victory.

I think my favorite thing about being off work right now is NOT dealing with the size comments from the people there! Haha.

My resting bitchface is out of control in the absence of such ridiculous comments. Maybe people know better than to mess with me LOL.

[teeah22]

Apr 8, 2014 11:28:53 GMT -5 Odonata said:

Apr 8, 2014 11:05:24 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

You are too early on to be going crazy over these comments. Seriously. You have a very long stretch of time ahead of you where people will be making all sorts of unsolicited and inane comments about your pregnancy. It will serve you well to learn to let it roll of you and understand that most people are just making banal chit chat.

I think it won't bother me to be called big if it was actually because the baby was in there.

Ah, I don't know.  It's annoying.  

People think pregnant bellies are cute, that's why they comment.  You're the only one who knows it's gas expanding your belly right now and not the size of the baby, but there is a baby in there and ultimately the baby is what's causing the belly.  There's no need for further explanation.

I've been told that my face is fuller, I look heavier, and that I need bigger shoes (my feet are swelling).  These are obnoxious comments.  "Look at your belly!" is meant to be a compliment.

[sillygoosegirl]

*hugs*

I'm only at 8 weeks, but I'm gaining weight faster than I should be, because eating is the only thing that settles my stomach. I never understood why pregnant ladies complained about the body image thing... I mean, we're *supposed* to get big when we are pregnant: it's natural and healthy. But here I am, bloating up and gaining weight faster than I should, and not knowing WTF to do about it. I just find myself acutely aware of the fact that while I am supposed to get big, I'm not supposed to get this big this fast! It sucks... and I've got a feeling it's only gonna get worse.

I hope the gas subsides for you soon... that sounds super uncomfortable.

[Odonata]

Apr 8, 2014 19:39:29 GMT -5 sillygoosegirl said:

*hugs*

I'm only at 8 weeks, but I'm gaining weight faster than I should be, because eating is the only thing that settles my stomach. I never understood why pregnant ladies complained about the body image thing... I mean, we're *supposed* to get big when we are pregnant: it's natural and healthy. But here I am, bloating up and gaining weight faster than I should, and not knowing WTF to do about it. I just find myself acutely aware of the fact that while I am supposed to get big, I'm not supposed to get this big this fast! It sucks... and I've got a feeling it's only gonna get worse.

I hope the gas subsides for you soon... that sounds super uncomfortable.

You totally summed up what I am feeling. I know I'm suppose to get big but not this fast. It's hard when people draw attention to it. It also means I can't keep it a secret as long as others might.

[Deleted]

Even if the baby isn't up very high, the growing uterus does push up other organs which can cause a bump to appear earlier. If it isn't the baby that they are seeing, the growth of the baby can cause the bump (in addition to the bloating!) So just roll with it! They don't need to know that really all you want to do is secretly pass gas in their office and then leave them to enjoy it!

You will still be annoyed later when people comment on your size Whether they ask about twins or question you if you are feeding your baby because you don't look big enough. People are really annoying when it comes to pregnancy and size and no matter what you do, it will never be right. I am still getting comments about me showing more now...well no shit! I'm 9 months pregnant!

[smock]

It's hard not to feel self-conscious when people comment on your body, IMO. I've had lots of "you're so small!" comments, and a few "OMG did the doctor move your due date up because you're HUGE" comments as well. Both really bother me. I just want to be told I look great, dammit!

[rbp]

Apr 9, 2014 6:15:33 GMT -5 smock said:

It's hard not to feel self-conscious when people comment on your body, IMO. I've had lots of "you're so small!" comments, and a few "OMG did the doctor move your due date up because you're HUGE" comments as well. Both really bother me. I just want to be told I look great, dammit!

Seriously. In the future, this is the only thing I will ever say about a pregnant woman's appearance.

[melsamoony]

I started showing at exactly the same time as you. It was really hard to adjust to the early size comments. I even got the are you sure you aren't having twins comments.

The comments have slowed now that I am a little further along. I tried to be excited about showing but showing early can be tough.