I'm having a pity-party kind of day

[bowies]

My anxiety has been off the charts this week.  Our house has needed a crap-ton of repairs so far this year and there's no sign of it tapering off.  Things we know need to be addressed are still on the to-do list because other things have broken and demanded our attention.  I know we have a mold problem in one of our master bathroom walls but it's going to have to stay there for a while.

Then, because I'm a masochist, I decided to add up the cost of our registry today and nearly had a heart attack over the number.  It's roughly double what I thought it would be.  H and I talked about what we should do with our list and we had pretty much decided to just go ahead and purchase everything we needed since I've basically been told that a baby shower just isn't going to happen prior to mid-June (when I'm 37w).  I'm a planner by nature and that's just cutting it way too close for comfort.  I'm tempted to just tell them to forget it entirely.

Plus our parents haven't exactly been overly involved or enthused over the baby (first grandchild for both).  I expected that from my ILs since they aren't the maternal or paternal types, but thought my parents would be all about it.  Newp.  No "how you doing?" phone calls or emails, and I've caught wind that my mom is experiencing some gender disappointment.  Plus her weirdness with the books which is still...weird.  

Also, heartburn.  Blah.        

[pinotgrig]

I'm sorry, bowies. I don't think you're out of line to feel that way at all. Hugs.

As far as the registry, hopefully ppl will start buying things a few weeks ahead of time and that will give you a better idea of what will left for you all to take care of. If not, you can always return duplicates and buy things you'll need later or use to buy diapers.

[melsamoony]

bowies I am sorry. For the registry I would buy the things I needed to make myself feel good/prepared like crib/basinet/car seat. I would leave the rest for later especially if you are having a shower eventually. Just buy the necessities, things you cannot live without.

((HUGS))

[MrsDarcy]

Ugh, I'm sorry about all that. Feel free to have a pity party!

[hokiegirl82]

Hugs bowies. I'm sorry your dealing with so much right now.

As far as the registry, tackle it one bit at a time and just get the basics for now. Babies don't really need much at the beginning so try to focus on stuff you'll really need the first few weeks to get you by.

[D2M]

Sorry you're stressed and that your parents aren't expressing excitement about the baby. That would bum me out a lot.

As for the shower/registry, I would make sure the baby has a place to sleep when he/she comes home and stock up on diapers and wipes. Then, I'd proceed as usual. See if the hosts can send out the invitations earlier than normal and then you can monitor what items get purchased, and hopefully freak out a little bit less about what you need. My shower's at 36 weeks, so only a week before yours is planned. The invitations have gone out and already some generous attendees have already bought some of our bigger-ticket items.

[narockshard]

Sorry about everything you are dealing with   Have you considered checking out any mom-to-mom sales or anything? Not sure how you feel about used items, but I know different areas have these sales all the time, and if you go to one in a nice town you can probably find some really good stuff for cheap.

[bowies]

Thanks all. I had myself a good cry and feel better. I'm hoping some of this is just hormonal, LOL. My H talked me off the ledge too...somewhat. I have a feeling this will be our normal dynamic in a few short months.

A children's resale shop opened up near our neighborhood recently and I really need to get in there and scope it out. Even if we weren't sticking to a budget I'd be in there since I prefer shopping small/local where I can.

[mannah]

Hang in there bowies <3