books for starting over?

[walterismydog]

(crossposted from ML, I didn't think to come here...duh)

I don't post often, but I was wondering if anyone had any good recommendations for a book about starting over. My six year relationship just ended and I'm just feeling really lost. My friends are awesome and are helping as much as they can, but none of them have really been through this in this way, so it's hard for them to know what to say.
I'm feeling very sad/scared. It wasn't this difficult when I went through my divorce at 24 because...well..I was 24. I still had a lot of growing up to do. Hell I guess I still have a lot of growing to do, but it just feels a lot different this time. I know it'll pass, but I just need something to help me through this. I cannot afford counseling right now. In a few months I should be back on my feet financially and I'll look into therapy then, but for now I am just looking to self-help.

Thanks a bunch

[trafficgirl]

I don't have any book recs, but just wanted to say I'm sorry, and welcome. Also, you may get more responses tomorrow morning - the board dies down a bit in the afternoon/evening.

[explorer2001]

Welcome. I don't have any general book recommendations. However I have a lot on getting over and out of an abusive relationship.

Hang in there. Hugs.

[walterismydog]

Thank you guys. I heard y'all were a rad bunch from ML, so I look forward to getting to know you all.

[starburst604]

I really like Getting Past Your Breakup.

[missbetty1]

Jul 12, 2012 18:07:48 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

I really like Getting Past Your Breakup.

:Y: This book was life changing for me. Here is the link on Amazon

www.amazon.com/Getting-Past-Your-Breakup-Devastating/dp/0738213284/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1342134810&sr=8-1&keywords=getting+past+your+break+up

[hobs209]

Jul 12, 2012 18:14:56 GMT -5 @missbetty1 said:

Jul 12, 2012 18:07:48 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

I really like Getting Past Your Breakup.

This book was life changing for me. Here is the link on Amazon

www.amazon.com/Getting-Past-Your-Breakup-Devastating/dp/0738213284/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1342134810&sr=8-1&keywords=getting+past+your+break+up

Same here. I credit this book, this board, and therapy with helping me to move on so well.

Hugs. It will get better.

[doriswe]

Hi!!! All of the books I read were about infidelity, so I can't speak to general starting over books. However, I think this board, therapy and amazing friends really helped me sort things out. Oh and I also blogged the good, the bad and most definately the ugly!!

[walterismydog]

Awesome! Thanks guys! I have put that book on my list.
I would love to keep coming here. Anything I should know about this board? I was on ML for...lord...9 years. Ha! Mostly lurk now, but I hope to have time to be a more active poster. Thank you for the kind welcome!

[bullygirl979]

Jul 13, 2012 8:05:12 GMT -5 walterismydog said:

Awesome! Thanks guys! I have put that book on my list.
I would love to keep coming here. Anything I should know about this board? I was on ML for...lord...9 years. Ha! Mostly lurk now, but I hope to have time to be a more active poster. Thank you for the kind welcome!

Yeah, Doris is a major bitch. I kid, I kid! I actually adore that woman! No, this board is pretty chill and very welcoming to new members. So post away!

FWIW, I know exactly how you feel. I just ended my relationship with my XBF and it is WAY harder than my divorce. I also bought "getting past your breakup" and have been enjoying it thus far. FYI, there are many counselors that will work on a sliding scale for people who are struggling financially....not sure if this is something you would be interested in exploring.

[walterismydog]

Jul 13, 2012 8:33:15 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Jul 13, 2012 8:05:12 GMT -5 walterismydog said:

Awesome! Thanks guys! I have put that book on my list.
I would love to keep coming here. Anything I should know about this board? I was on ML for...lord...9 years. Ha! Mostly lurk now, but I hope to have time to be a more active poster. Thank you for the kind welcome!

Yeah, Doris is a major bitch. I kid, I kid! I actually adore that woman! No, this board is pretty chill and very welcoming to new members. So post away!

FWIW, I know exactly how you feel. I just ended my relationship with my XBF and it is WAY harder than my divorce. I also bought "getting past your breakup" and have been enjoying it thus far. FYI, there are many counselors that will work on a sliding scale for people who are struggling financially....not sure if this is something you would be interested in exploring.

RE: Doris. Noted! lol

Isn't it weird how that is? I will look into finding a counselor with a sliding scale. Today is day 2 and I had a great night with my girls last night, so I'm feeling pretty positive about it today. I think the part that is making this hardest for me is that he is my best friend. That was not the case with my XH. XBF and I get along amazingly well and have a ton in common, but we are horrible as a couple. I think that is making it the most difficult. Well, that and I am really so sad for my dog. He has so much fun with and loves xbf so much.

[bullygirl979]

Ugh. XBF and I adopted a dog together but we had agreed that I would keep her if we ever split. I feel like SUCH a biatch about it because he loves that dog so much. And yes, Doris/GOZF/Starryfish/RiverPestie/JM I know I shouldn't give a shit, lol.

[doriswe]

Jul 13, 2012 8:33:15 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Jul 13, 2012 8:05:12 GMT -5 walterismydog said:

Awesome! Thanks guys! I have put that book on my list.
I would love to keep coming here. Anything I should know about this board? I was on ML for...lord...9 years. Ha! Mostly lurk now, but I hope to have time to be a more active poster. Thank you for the kind welcome!

Yeah, Doris is a major bitch. I kid, I kid! I actually adore that woman! No, this board is pretty chill and very welcoming to new members. So post away!

FWIW, I know exactly how you feel. I just ended my relationship with my XBF and it is WAY harder than my divorce. I also bought "getting past your breakup" and have been enjoying it thus far. FYI, there are many counselors that will work on a sliding scale for people who are struggling financially....not sure if this is something you would be interested in exploring.

Watch your mouth or I'll bite you again!!

[doriswe]

Jul 13, 2012 8:54:39 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Ugh. XBF and I adopted a dog together but we had agreed that I would keep her if we ever split. I feel like SUCH a biatch about it because he loves that dog so much. And yes, Doris/GOZF/Starryfish/RiverPestie/JM I know I shouldn't give a shit, lol.

He can get a new one....fuck him if he can't take a joke!!