Mortified - PG related (and sorta loss related)

[mrssandro]

Sorry to bring this here but I am positively close to tears. Wait to late.  Apparently there is some office gossip going around about me. My boss pulled me into his office to warn me that people where talking and asking questions about me being pg. He told me the reasons they suspect for example I didn't sign up for the 5k race, I use the restroom to many times, I am not drinking coffee...etc.

Obviously I have gained weight in my belly since 2nd time pg is no joke so I am sure that doesn't help. But WTF man. Who's business is it about my uterus. I just wish he didn't tell me but I understand why he did because he feels like he is uncomfortable spot. 

I am just so scared now that if someone goes wrong everyone will know. I just wanted to get past this NT scan and then announce it formally. I hate being the center of gossip. 

OMG why I am freaking about this? I think the PGAL is making me crazy. This is not a big deal but still it is.

[MrsMB]

MAJOR MAJOR ((HUGS)) for you! I am so sorry your office has decided to be that classless and discuss something so private and sacred for you. Shame on them!!!! Especially after what you have gone through.

I'm sending good thoughts and prayers your way.

Praying the NT scan is amazing and that you have no fears/concerns. Hold your head up high....they're being classless.

[spankswife]

Ugh. Sounds like your boss is part of the gossip circle. Just take a deep breath. Then another one. Then go on about your life, the way that you want to. Don't stress about it. People are probably just happy and excited for you, and when you announce, on your terms, everything will be great!

[melsamoony]

((((Hugs))))) remember this changes nothing. Everything is still ok. Ppl knowing/suspecting you are pregnant does not make you miscarry.

When is your NT scan?

[elliemonster21]

I hate people. Try not to let it get to you or stress you out. ((mrssandro))

[mrssandro]

Dang it they ruined a great make-up day.

[mrssandro]

Apr 11, 2014 8:50:56 GMT -5 melsamoony said:

((((Hugs))))) remember this changes nothing. Everything is still ok. Ppl knowing/suspecting you are pregnant does not make you miscarry.

When is your NT scan?

Next Thursday. 

[HoneySpider]

I'm sorry Lots of hugs!

[melsamoony]

((Hugs))!!! Remember this doesn't change anything you are still pregnant. Ppl knowing/suspecting things won't cause you to miscarry. I am so sorry this happened I know it must be stressful.

When is your NT scan?

[ewall]

I'm sorry! It's none of their business, but office gossip is brutal. And damn them for ruining your makeup!

Good luck on Thursday

[cactuscookie]

Ugh, WTF, what a weird situation. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

[mrssandro]

I have calmed down now. I am all like F*** Them at this point. Let them talk. They are not my REAL friends or my family because if they where they would come and ask me and I would have told them the truth.

[tacocat]

Ugh, I'm sorry you have to deal with this. It sucks they wouldn't just come talk to you or just not talk at all.

[awick14]

So many ((hugs)) Hun. I hope that next Thursday comes quickly for you.

Please ignore them and just remember that you are pregnant today.

[estrellita]

Lots of *hugs*! Why do people think this is any of their business?!

[mrssandro]

I do work for a small office. Over 4 years now. I am also the heath nut of the office and used to run 5k's all the time. I knew people would notice I did not sign up. I just don't want to go in untrained. I could have walked it but whatever..

Also the peeing thing gets on my nerves since yeah I do pee a lot but when I drank coffee I peed 10x as much.

Freaking stalkers.

[bk1]

So many ((hugs))!! People are so rude! I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. So many T&P your way.

[Deleted]

I am so angry on your behalf.

I'm sorry this happened.sending you all kinda of good thoughts and prayers for a day that starts looking up.

[luv2rn4fun]

HUGE ((hugs)) I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. It really is none of their business and they shouldn't be talking about you behind your back. Praying so hard for your NT scan next week! TODAY YOU ARE PREGNANT and they cannot take that joy away from you!

[D2M]

I'm with spankswife. Sounds like your boss is engaging in the gossip circle and that's so unprofessional and weird. I can't believe he told you people noticed that you're going to the bathroom more. I would be mortified if those words came out of my boss's mouth. Don't waste any more tears on those bozos. Hope your day gets better.

[MrsAggie]

Oh man. It's a terrible feeling when you find out that everyone is talking about you behind your back, regardless of what it's about. ((Hugs))

[mrssandro]

Apr 11, 2014 12:25:05 GMT -5 D2M said:

I'm with spankswife. Sounds like your boss is engaging in the gossip circle and that's so unprofessional and weird. I can't believe he told you people noticed that you're going to the bathroom more. I would be mortified if those words came out of my boss's mouth. Don't waste any more tears on those bozos. Hope your day gets better.

My boss is the CEO and owner of the company. He sees all and knows all. All of management report to him. He is just getting the usual questioning from his management team and I was unfortunately was the subject. I am almost 100% positive he just smiled it off and did not respond or said that really he hadn't noticed. He is not a gossiping type. 

[wanderingenough]

Lots of hugs! Sometimes I really don't like people

[winecheery]

I'm so sorry I think your boss was actually trying to be kind by trying to warn you of the nonsense people are saying. And you're right it's not their business and eff them if they don't have the balls to approach you and see how you're doing if it's a small group and you've been there a while. Asinine. Just look forward to your NT scan, and seeing your little bean grow!

[Blue Moon]

I'm sorry this happened. I had something similar happen. A close friend at work pulled me aside when I was around 11 weeks and told me there were rumors going around, and she just wanted me to know in case someone got ballsy and asked. Apparently people had noticed I had taken several personal days for doctor appointments and I hadn't been to the last couple of work happy hours. Sure enough, later that day someone did ask and I outright lied and said no, and quickly changed the subject. I truly think we should be able to announce when WE feel ready and comfortable and I wouldn't let anyone pressure me into announcing earlier. I did tell my principal around 12 weeks after a good NT scan, mainly because my baby is due on the first day of school and I knew he was going to need time to find someone because I teach a speciality.

Also loss related, but I had just had my ectopic pregnancy when school started this year. I dragged myself into the first few days of school before I was fully healed, but then had to take a full week off to properly recover. When I got back, well-meaning colleagues were inquiring about my absence and there were several "we were hoping it was because you are pregnant!" comments that sent me into the bathroom in tears. Because no one knew what had really happened, so many people then asked when I was going to have a baby over the next several weeks/months, and it hurt so bad. I kept thinking that even though I was still so nervous announcing this pg at 12 weeks, if something awful happened at least people would know and hopefully be sensitive enough to not ask questions. PGAL is really one big mindfuck, hang in there. Best of luck on Thursday!

[awick14]

((Blue Moon))