Dammit! we got outted on FB.

[flamingeaux]

DH's SM outted us on her page.  She didn't tag us, so none of our friends saw it, but it's the principal of the thing.  I wanted to wait until after the first appointment, to make sure things were going as they should, before doing any large scale announcements.  But now everyone is telling me, "oh, everything will be fine." "Stop worrying." I'd love to not worry, but I can't help it. Anyway, I just went and posted to it to my FB, so at least I could tell some people first. :?

I didn't tell her to take it down, because I don't want to to put more tension into what is a happy event, and a confrontation would be more stress on me than it's worth, when they're right, everything is likely fine, and I'll be cuddling my lil peanut on Christmas Morning.

[Odonata]

I'm sorry. Some people don't think because they are so excited.

My father did this to me with my first pregnancy. I gave him the job to Un - tell everyone when it didn't work out.

[IndiaInk]

People suck. That's pretty inconsiderate. I'm sorry that happened to you! Sounds like you're handling it very diplomatically.

[vtdiamond]

Ugh that sucks. I am so worried my MIL is going to do the same thing.

[pinotgrig]

We had an aunt who did that! H asked her to take it down. This was after we had told them like 5 times not to put anything on FB. Sorry you're having to deal with that - it's frustrating.

[azurely]

Ugh that sucks.

I can sort of relate. We struggled with IF/miscarriage and got pregnant through IVF, so my parents asked their Bible study to pray for us throughout the process. I was fine with this, but he told me last night that he showed them my 8 week ultrasound picture this week. We've already told my parents (obviously) and my brother/his fiancee, and my two best friends, but that's it. I am not ready to share ultrasound pictures beyond that yet, so I'm a little annoyed my dad did. I know they won't tell anyone, but it's just the idea, I guess.

[curbsideprophet]

Did you specifically ask her not to tell anyone or put in on FB? I think once you start telling people it can be very hard to control the info. So if you don't want people to know, don't tell anyone.

[JayhawkGirl]

If it were me, they'd be losing their access to any early info from here on. That's really crappy of them.

[konapoppy]

Ugh I am sorry.

I am grateful that no one in my immediate family uses Facebook.

[flamingeaux]

Apr 12, 2014 13:22:36 GMT -5 curbsideprophet said:

Did you specifically ask her not to tell anyone or put in on FB? I think once you start telling people it can be very hard to control the info. So if you don't want people to know, don't tell anyone.

Dh, specifically did, he said. I was fine with close people knowing already, but I just wanted to wait on the larger scale announcement, .....just in case. This is their first grandchild, so I get the excitement. Maybe this will help me relax and not worry as much, since everyone is so happy.

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[awick14]

I'm sorry people suck sometimes.

[mrssandro]

I would be raging it my step mother did that.
RAGING!

I have a bad history and luckily my family is super supportive of keeping it hush hush.

[mannah]

Yeahhhhhh that's so annoying. Good job staying positive about it and picking your battles.

[luv2rn4fun]

So sorry you are dealing with this. People just don't think sometimes. We also have a history of losses and I would be livid if someone posted on FB before I was ready. We had similar issues with our second pregnancy...MIL thought it was her right to spill the news to my DH's aunt. I was angry/frustrated and made sure she understood that it was not acceptable, etc. She finally "got it" when we lost that baby as well.

Luckily everyone is super supportive and knows that it's my news to tell when I'm ready to tell. I have told quite a few people already but an not ready for the world to know quite yet...and probably won't be until we get through at least our 10 week appointment.

((hugs)) you really are handling it well!

[forthelove959]

Ugh, I'm sorry. That sucks.

You seem like you're handling it well. I would've lost my mind. There would have been some people with hurt feelings when I was done, too.

[loira]

Apr 12, 2014 14:34:22 GMT -5 JayhawkGirl said:

If it were me, they'd be losing their access to any early info from here on. That's really crappy of them.

This exactly.

My MIL decided to 'strongly hint' to my BIL and SIL that I was pregnant, even after we had explicitly told them not to share this information. She knew firsthand WHY I was very reluctant to tell anyone else this time around since she was the one who had to drive me over the border to have emergency surgery when I had my ectopic pregnancy the last time. I know she didn't tell them out of malice, and she was just excited, but it doesn't matter. H and I have decided that she will not be given access to early or sensitive information in future.