Who else has roommates?

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Have you always had roommates since you separated? Do you plan to continue to have roommates? Any horror stories? I read an article recently that more and more people in their late 30s and 40s are having roommates since the COL is increasing. Roommates are pretty normal among my single friends.

After my ex and I split, I moved to a new country and immediately had roommates because my job paid for my housing. So I lived with 5 other people for a year and it was great. I was glad to have instant friends and we got along well. Then, a little over a year later my boyfriend and I moved in together with a roommate, also great situation. Now I'm back in the US and will be moving in with 2 girls next month and I think it'll work out well as I like the social aspect of having roommates. We'll see what happens when I move for residency. The only thing I worry about then is my schedule is going to be weird with weird sleeping patterns so having a roommate might not be the best situation.

All in all, for now, I think I prefer having roommates over living alone. 

[kitkat1502]

I don't have a roommate, but I've given it some thought for when I'll need to move in January. I think if I stay in my city it would be pretty easy to find another 30-something who works in NYC and has a similar lifestyle to mine. It would for sure have to be a 2-bath and in a building similar to mine with amenities.

[llh0211]

I had roommates before exh. Overall it was good. Nothing major either way. I agree that the social aspect is nice. When I moved back after leaving exh, I moved in with my brother. It was fun, I liked living with him, but now that I'm in my own place I wonder how the heck I handled living with someone else for do long. I really prefer living alone.

[btay]

I lived with my brother after I moved out of my parents, and then I moved in with H. I need to try this whole living alone thing so I am going to go at least one year and see how it goes. I'm a huge introvert so I feel like living alone is going to be pretty amazing, but financially I think I will need either a massive raise or a roommate in the next few years.

[les]

I currently live alone, but will be moving in with two women in June. I am actually looking forward to living with other people, although I am sure having less privacy will bother me at times.

I have numerous horror stories involving roommates when I was in the military. I had no trouble getting along with them, but they were dramatic, impulsive people with whom I would not have lived if I were given a choice in the matter.

[becwheat]

My brother lives with me. He has an IL suite in my basement so it works well. We share the kitchen only. It has also been great for DD to have him around. I know she will miss him when he moves out.

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Oh another pro for me living with roommates is that I'm much more organized! I never leave dishes in the sink with roommates but living alone, I let that shit like up pretending like some magical maid is going to clean up behind me

[MauMau]

When I'm settled and financially able to move out to my apartment. I don't plan to have roommates. I felt very controlled what I could and couldn't have/do in the apartment I shared with stbx.

It will give me a sense of pride to have something to call my own. Call my own shots. It helps that I will be living in a low coat of living area. I would think about roommates if I was able to get a job in the big city. But I'm on the fence if I will pursue that or not.

[ri49ers4life]

I have always lived with a SO or with my parents, so this is my first time living alone. So far not bad

[mcc]

I prefer living alone. I lived with roommates in college and alone in law school then with XH, then with my parents and alone again. I love living alone

[jigsy]

I have had roommates for a long time...most of my married life included roommates. I like having people around, but they have always been people I knew before living together. Now I am looking at moving out, and I don't know what to do. I've been looking at craigslist, and everyone seems kind of like a creeper. I kind of think it would be nice to just get a little studio, but then again, I might feel so alone.

[berbles]

I have never NOT had roommates.  Yay Bay Area COL.  Currently I'm living with my step sister and her husband and their 22 month old.

A big stressor in my marriage was that before we were even engaged, his parents (who own real estate/are landlords) loaned him the down payment on a 4 bedroom house.  They honestly thought that it would be a good thing for us to have roommates and use their rent to pay for the house.  Except we were barely able to afford the house with roommates; there was no way we could afford to live there alone.  So we were facing a perpetual house-sharing situation.  It was a major reason we waited so long to even think about having kids.  And is was an even more major reason I ended up feeling so burdened as the primary earner and the only one who felt like the house was my responsibility.  

When we split, my mom mentioned to his mom (they are still friendly) that the house was part of the problem for us and his mom offered to take over the mortgage/rent it out for us.  My mom was like, uhh, I think we're way past that now.  That offer also speaks volumes about how my ex handles difficulties in his life.  His parents just bail him out of anything/everything.