Had a belly rub today - did not freak out

[Odonata]

A coworker (who is just SO SO SO SWEET) came up to me during lunch, looked at my belly and said "Ohhhh, look at you!  You're just too adorable!"  and then gave my belly (my gas belly, lol) a little rub.

I thought this would freak me out.  But I didn't realize it happened until after.  I walked away from that conversation thinking "oh wait, I just had an unsolicited belly touch!"

So I know so many feel this is a no no - and I do too, I would never do it to anyone - is there anyone else out there that found out they don't mind the intrusive belly rub?  

Maybe if it was some random person I would feel differently!  

[IndiaInk]

It hasn't happened to me much and I always appreciate when people ask first, but no - the belly rubs don't bother me as much in real life as they do in theory. I always thought I'd be pretty annoyed but mostly people are sweet about it.

[purrbox]

My best friend has patted my belly ever since I told her I was expecting. It's a little weird, but I definitely don't find it offensive.

I think it matters who the belly rubber is. I would get agitated if I didn't like the person, lol.


Edit: I also don't get many rubs because I have a tiny 20 week bump, so fortunately I don't get any random people doing this. I would hate that!

[andthentherewere10]

not a fan. and my students sneak feels. I slap hands of coworkers, strangers, and students away. I have let two people who asked do it. plus my dad who is just too excited to be a gpa.

from my phone

[bluelikejazz]

I need my personal space, and have already decided when/if people rub my belly without asking, I'm going to rub theirs back.

*I may chicken out when the time comes, but this is my current plan.

[MrsDarcy]

It's really never bothered me at all. I'm not a "don't touch me" person, though.

[andthentherewere10]

Apr 16, 2014 19:15:11 GMT -5 bricco said:

Apr 16, 2014 18:52:25 GMT -5 andthentherewere10 said:

not a fan. and my students sneak feels. I slap hands of coworkers, strangers, and students away. I have let two people who asked do it. plus my dad who is just too excited to be a gpa.

from my phone

How old are your students? I teach eighth grade and I'd have been extra unhappy if any of them had tried touching!


on the app, sorry for any typos

10th grade!! creepy kids.

[pinotgrig]

Apr 16, 2014 17:25:35 GMT -5 IndiaInk said:

It hasn't happened to me much and I always appreciate when people ask first, but no - the belly rubs don't bother me as much in real life as they do in theory. I always thought I'd be pretty annoyed but mostly people are sweet about it.

This is where I'm at. I've also had surprisingly few unsolicited touches, so this probably helps.

[nessness]

I got my first belly pat yesterday (from someone other than DH), but it was from a six-year-old, so it was adorable.

[picksthemusic]

If I know you, touch away (I mean, don't get handsy, but a quick pat/rub is fine). Like family, friends, CWs, that's fine. If you're a random stranger? I'll be asking politely to please have them keep their hands to themselves. Or reaching over and touching their belly so they know what it feels like, whatever. LOL

[FastHands]

My line is hugging. If we don't see each other for some time (say two weeks?) and then we see each other again, would we hug? If no, do not touch me. Obviously if we are close enough that we'd hug even without a 2-week absence, g'head and rub 'er up. But strangers, coworkers, acquaintances? Please no.

I've only had one, and it was someone I had literally just met (at least a good friend of DH's, but still..), and I was only 10 weeks and had actually lost a lb at that point. Lady, you rubbin WINE. lol. I was in the process of putting on my coat and couldn't move away, so I just smiled and made a hasty exit. I don't find it super offensive, just extremely awkward.

[mannah]

This has also only happened to me one time unsolicited and I was super early like 9 weeks and I HATED it but was too caught off guard to do or say anything other than stand there and feel violated. It was a CW I don't care for which made it worse.

I don't mind at all when it's close friends or my mom or something.

[Odonata]

Apr 17, 2014 16:35:37 GMT -5 FastHands said:

My line is hugging. If we don't see each other for some time (say two weeks?) and then we see each other again, would we hug? If no, do not touch me. Obviously if we are close enough that we'd hug even without a 2-week absence, g'head and rub 'er up. But strangers, coworkers, acquaintances? Please no.

I've only had one, and it was someone I had literally just met (at least a good friend of DH's, but still..), and I was only 10 weeks and had actually lost a lb at that point. Lady, you rubbin WINE. lol. I was in the process of putting on my coat and couldn't move away, so I just smiled and made a hasty exit. I don't find it super offensive, just extremely awkward.

Yeah I had to laugh because she was rubbing bloat and gas. Lol. No baby that high yet!

Awww look at your methane bubble! How cute. *rub*

[MamaMaui24]

I don't mind, as long as it's baby and not my first trimester gut.

[Odonata]

Apr 17, 2014 20:22:08 GMT -5 MamaMaui24 said:

I don't mind, as long as it's baby and not my first trimester gut.

Lol. That's exactly what she was touching. Gut.