Communion Wine

[chedominique]

Easter is on Sunday and my church is having Communion.  They give us a little thimble size cups of wine for this but I was wondering if it is safe to drink.  The wine they have burns my throat and I'm so close to just avoiding it all together.  I've gotten mixed reviews from Dr. Google so far and I don't know if it's stupid to ask my OBGYN this question.

Thanks!

[linz]

I wouldnt be scared to drink it. Its not much that you'll have. I personally hate my churchs wine and its optional to take to I never drink it anyway.

[shekels1222]

You'll be fine. The baby will be fine. Have a happy Easter.

I avoided drinking wine during Passover this year but only because you are obligated to drink 4 glasses during Seder. I thought that was a bit much. A thimble? That's fine.

[rbp]

Communion wine is fine. Though ever since my pastor found out I was pg, he always serves me the grape juice. I want to be like "GIVE ME MY DAMN COMMUNION WINE" LOL. Pregnant lady rage.

[flamingeaux]

I've always seen it mixed with water, so a thimble full of half water/ half not that strong anyway wine, wouldn't bother me. But do what you're comfy with.

[Odonata]

You should be fine. I take sips if my husband's beer all the time.

[picksthemusic]

Do they have a grape juice alternative (my old church had this - you may want to ask)? Otherwise, a thimble of wine is not going to hurt anything. I promise.

[mrssandro]

I wouldn't even question this. Apparently you can have a 4 oz glass a day if you want. Enjoy.

[chedominique]

Apr 18, 2014 10:04:04 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

Do they have a grape juice alternative (my old church had this - you may want to ask)? Otherwise, a thimble of wine is not going to hurt anything. I promise.

I don't know if they do or not.  If they did, A LOT of people would have opted for it, because that wine is gross.

But I feel a lot better now.  I will drink water afterwards to kinda filter the taste.  Thanks everyone!

[Alwaysabridesmaidf]

I would bring tums! Red wine gives me so much heartburn. I'm guessing pregnancy may make it worse!

[Odonata]

Apr 18, 2014 10:12:50 GMT -5 mrssandro said:

I wouldn't even question this. Apparently you can have a 4 oz glass a day if you want. Enjoy.

I am hesitant about this, but would LOVE a glass of wine right now.  I'm about to be making a chicken marinade and need to open a bottle of dry white. I was planning to take the rest to dinner Sunday night for Easter b/c, well, what am I going to do with an open bottle of white wine for 6 months?  

I think I want to wait until I'm well into my 2nd tri before I have more than one sip....but to enjoy a "glass" would be so lovely....

[mrssandro]

Apr 18, 2014 11:03:23 GMT -5 Odonata said:

Apr 18, 2014 10:12:50 GMT -5 mrssandro said:

I wouldn't even question this. Apparently you can have a 4 oz glass a day if you want. Enjoy.

I am hesitant about this, but would LOVE a glass of wine right now.  I'm about to be making a chicken marinade and need to open a bottle of dry white. I was planning to take the rest to dinner Sunday night for Easter b/c, well, what am I going to do with an open bottle of white wine for 6 months?  

I think I want to wait until I'm well into my 2nd tri before I have more than one sip....but to enjoy a "glass" would be so lovely....

Okay. To each their own. 

[Odonata]

Apr 18, 2014 11:16:40 GMT -5 mrssandro said:

Apr 18, 2014 11:03:23 GMT -5 Odonata said:

I am hesitant about this, but would LOVE a glass of wine right now.  I'm about to be making a chicken marinade and need to open a bottle of dry white. I was planning to take the rest to dinner Sunday night for Easter b/c, well, what am I going to do with an open bottle of white wine for 6 months?  

I think I want to wait until I'm well into my 2nd tri before I have more than one sip....but to enjoy a "glass" would be so lovely....

Okay. To each their own. 

I'm not saying I am suggesting anyone wait and that it's not OK.  I really want a glass of wine now but am still too scared to have one!  

[ngdgtco]

I would not blink at that much wine. We're still using it to cook, and I've had sips of my husband's drinks.

ETA: Also, this reminded me; Carolyn Hax had a letter today about a mom who is sooo concerned about her daughter's drinking while TTC. It would not be pretty if someone had tried to police me like that when I wasn't even pregnant yet. www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/carolyn-hax-martinis-and-maternity-raise-a-red-flag-for-worried-mom-of-adult-daughter/2014/04/17/806df670-b9bb-11e3-9a05-c739f29ccb08_story.html

[Odonata]

Apr 18, 2014 11:45:57 GMT -5 ngdgtco said:

I would not blink at that much wine. We're still using it to cook, and I've had sips of my husband's drinks.

ETA: Also, this reminded me; Carolyn Hax had a letter today about a mom who is sooo concerned about her daughter's drinking while TTC. It would not be pretty if someone had tried to police me like that when I wasn't even pregnant yet. www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/carolyn-hax-martinis-and-maternity-raise-a-red-flag-for-worried-mom-of-adult-daughter/2014/04/17/806df670-b9bb-11e3-9a05-c739f29ccb08_story.html

I was told that I drink too much and that is why I was having TTTC - because I'll have a glass of wine with dinner most nights.  One glass, MAYBE two over the weekend.  

I'm Italian, it's what we do!  But it was suggested (by an intrusive, non-medical friend of my mother's) that I stop drinking alcohol all together and coffee, too.

It took us almost 3 years to get pregnant.  Was I suppose to spend those three difficult emotional years acting like I was already pregnant?  

And then she added I also needed to "relax".  Well, wine does that, so....

[rbp]

Apr 18, 2014 11:03:23 GMT -5 Odonata said:

Apr 18, 2014 10:12:50 GMT -5 mrssandro said:

I wouldn't even question this. Apparently you can have a 4 oz glass a day if you want. Enjoy.

I am hesitant about this, but would LOVE a glass of wine right now.  I'm about to be making a chicken marinade and need to open a bottle of dry white. I was planning to take the rest to dinner Sunday night for Easter b/c, well, what am I going to do with an open bottle of white wine for 6 months?  

I think I want to wait until I'm well into my 2nd tri before I have more than one sip....but to enjoy a "glass" would be so lovely....

At 24 weeks, I know that there should be nothing wrong with having a glass of wine here and there. I wouldn't bat an eyelash at another pregnant woman having a glass of wine.

But now that I've gone so long without alcohol, it seems kind of weird to just drink. I guess I feel like it would have to be a super special occasion to make it worthwhile. I also worry that people will judge me (I know, I know).

Maybe I will have a mimosa at brunch on Sunday. We are going out with a couple, and the woman said "you can drink! I drank while I was pregnant!" We are going on vacation to Mexico next month, and I definitely plan to have a few drinks then.

[rbp]

Apr 18, 2014 11:45:57 GMT -5 ngdgtco said:

I would not blink at that much wine. We're still using it to cook, and I've had sips of my husband's drinks.

ETA: Also, this reminded me; Carolyn Hax had a letter today about a mom who is sooo concerned about her daughter's drinking while TTC. It would not be pretty if someone had tried to police me like that when I wasn't even pregnant yet. www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/carolyn-hax-martinis-and-maternity-raise-a-red-flag-for-worried-mom-of-adult-daughter/2014/04/17/806df670-b9bb-11e3-9a05-c739f29ccb08_story.html

OMG. RAGE. I get irritated enough when someone suggests that I can't drink while BF. Sorry, but if I have two kids, I'm not exactly interested in being sober for four years. 

But telling your daughter she can't drink while TTC?  :-# Yeesh. If I were that girl, I wouldn't be telling my mom shit. 

ETA: Maybe this makes me a lush, but I disagree with this advice: "Drinking 'fairly heavily' while trying to get pregnant is just a head-shaker." (a) Who knows what that harpy considers "fairly heavily." Two glasses of wine? (b) If you're having trouble TTC, then cutting back on alcohol is a good move because it can make it more difficult to conceive. Otherwise, I'm not sure why this is a problem. When are you going to get to drink again? LOL

[chickadee77]

OP, often, in the tray of cups, the center ones will be grape juice if you're really concerned (though I wouldn't be). A lot of churches will do that for recovering alcoholics or people that choose not to imbibe for whatever reason. Just an FYI.

[rbp]

Apr 18, 2014 13:44:56 GMT -5 chickadee77 said:

OP, often, in the tray of cups, the center ones will be grape juice if you're really concerned (though I wouldn't be). A lot of churches will do that for recovering alcoholics or people that choose not to imbibe for whatever reason. Just an FYI.

Our grape juice is white to distinguish it from the wine. So maybe you will be able to tell the difference visually?

[laurack]

I can't even believe this is a real question.

but I am Irish, so there's that

[rbp]

Apr 18, 2014 13:54:01 GMT -5 laurack said:

I can't even believe this is a real question.

but I am Irish, so there's that

I actually kind of freaked out when I was 6w pregnant and absentmindedly drank the communion wine. 

[vtdiamond]

Wow, the mom in that article is ridiculous!!

OP, I would have no problem with drinking that small of an amount of communion wine.

I'm looking forward to have a small glass of wine this weekend with our anniversary dinner

[laurack]

Apr 18, 2014 13:55:47 GMT -5 rbp said:

Apr 18, 2014 13:54:01 GMT -5 laurack said:

I can't even believe this is a real question.

but I am Irish, so there's that

I actually kind of freaked out when I was 6w pregnant and absentmindedly drank the communion wine. 

I did avoid alcohol in the first trimester. Not that I thought anything would happen because of having some but its just.. you know the first tri paranoia. I didn't want the guilt however nonsensical if something happened

I kept drinking coffee even in the first tri though. Because..  Exhaustion

[Odonata]

Apr 18, 2014 13:34:48 GMT -5 rbp said:

Apr 18, 2014 11:03:23 GMT -5 Odonata said:

I am hesitant about this, but would LOVE a glass of wine right now.  I'm about to be making a chicken marinade and need to open a bottle of dry white. I was planning to take the rest to dinner Sunday night for Easter b/c, well, what am I going to do with an open bottle of white wine for 6 months?  

I think I want to wait until I'm well into my 2nd tri before I have more than one sip....but to enjoy a "glass" would be so lovely....

At 24 weeks, I know that there should be nothing wrong with having a glass of wine here and there. I wouldn't bat an eyelash at another pregnant woman having a glass of wine.

But now that I've gone so long without alcohol, it seems kind of weird to just drink. I guess I feel like it would have to be a super special occasion to make it worthwhile. I also worry that people will judge me (I know, I know).

Maybe I will have a mimosa at brunch on Sunday. We are going out with a couple, and the woman said "you can drink! I drank while I was pregnant!" We are going on vacation to Mexico next month, and I definitely plan to have a few drinks then.

Actually, I was thinking of having a glass with dinner when I go to my family's for Easter, but oh! the gasps and lecturing I would get from the family would not be worth it.  My husband even side eyes me when I sip his beer (ShockTop has this Pretzel Wheat beer that is SO AMAZING and is limited so it won't be around in 6 months.  I'm a beer snob.).  

These people all have been on my case for everything:  eating fish, having sushi sometimes, exercising (which I told my Dr. I was doing and he was thrilled).  All of them are old fashioned.

Oh!  Get this one!!  So I was telling my grandmother that I planned to visit my friend in upstate NY (3 hr drive) and she was worried.  She said "my girlfriend and her husband went on a road trip where she was sitting for a long time.  They lost the baby."  

Trying not to make my 93 year old grandmother feel too bad, I had to explain that sitting in the car for 3+ hours will not cause a miscarriage.  Oh, old wive's tales, how I hate you.  

[rbp]

Apr 18, 2014 14:05:26 GMT -5 Odonata said:

Apr 18, 2014 13:34:48 GMT -5 rbp said:

At 24 weeks, I know that there should be nothing wrong with having a glass of wine here and there. I wouldn't bat an eyelash at another pregnant woman having a glass of wine.

But now that I've gone so long without alcohol, it seems kind of weird to just drink. I guess I feel like it would have to be a super special occasion to make it worthwhile. I also worry that people will judge me (I know, I know).

Maybe I will have a mimosa at brunch on Sunday. We are going out with a couple, and the woman said "you can drink! I drank while I was pregnant!" We are going on vacation to Mexico next month, and I definitely plan to have a few drinks then.

Actually, I was thinking of having a glass with dinner when I go to my family's for Easter, but oh! the gasps and lecturing I would get from the family would not be worth it.  My husband even side eyes me when I sip his beer (ShockTop has this Pretzel Wheat beer that is SO AMAZING and is limited so it won't be around in 6 months.  I'm a beer snob.).  

These people all have been on my case for everything:  eating fish, having sushi sometimes, exercising (which I told my Dr. I was doing and he was thrilled).  All of them are old fashioned.

Oh!  Get this one!!  So I was telling my grandmother that I planned to visit my friend in upstate NY (3 hr drive) and she was worried.  She said "my girlfriend and her husband went on a road trip where she was sitting for a long time.  They lost the baby."  

Trying not to make my 93 year old grandmother feel too bad, I had to explain that sitting in the car for 3+ hours will not cause a miscarriage.  Oh, old wive's tales, how I hate you.  

My FIL said something about locking me up in a padded room to make sure I don't overexert myself. I just rolled my eyes. He means well, but he talks WAY TOO MUCH. 

[Odonata]

lol, when I called my mom about the betas (nice high numbers, unlike my first two pregnancies) she said "OH GOOD! Ok, sit down, don't move, don't do anything! Don't clean today. Just don't move." lol.