I shared a teeny taste of caviar with my dogs and they're mad for it of course. It's too salty to give them any more but obviously totally okay for us. lol
Fancy dogs!
Heh, don't I know it! If you can't have a fancy baby, have fancy dogs! If only they could appreciate how spoiled and pampered they are, but I suppose that's the point. They did not, however, get any champagne. I do draw the line somewhere, lol.
We just put the crib together. There are 8 extra bolts. I wish I had counted the actual number of each when we started like I ALWAYS do. There is absolutely nowhere else for 1 bolt to go, let alone 8, so I'm sure it's just extra, but it's fucking with me!
H's grandmother has regressed to the point where she remembers almost nothing, has cut off family members who have tried to help her and acted like a sullen toddler at dinner the last time we saw her. At the end of the meal, she decided she was done and got up to leave without saying goodbye to H even though we'd driven 6+ hours to see her.
I would be ok if I didn't see her again before she died at this point.
Are you actually taking her dementia personally? It's not about you. Grow up and care for their person who cared for people you loved; even if carrying means spending a dinner or two listening to stories for the 8th time.
So much THIS.
For the first time, my mom didn't recognize me at one point last weekend. I'm sure it will happen more frequently. Should I just skip visiting her in the future because she has an awful, untreatable disease? I suspect that if I had no clue where I was, or who I wad with, or why I was there I might act a but weirdly too. Wow.
talked to my mom this morning on skype and hinted to her we're considering stopping at 1 child. she was so disappointed and said "don't be stupid you have to have at least 1 more. it's our only happiness is grandkids." fuck if that didn't give me major guilt. even at 36 i am very much swayed by what my parents think and want.
I know how hard dealing with the guilt trip is, but ultimately your happiness needs to come first when it comes to a decision like this.
Post by VeryViolet on Apr 20, 2014 19:20:23 GMT -5
I am lying on the couch while my mom and DH clean up the turkey dinner I decided was an awesome idea to make. I have laundry that is about to reach the ceiling and a filthy house that has been filthy since at least Wednesday becuase of our hospital visit. I cannot care enough to get off the couch so I am just going to lay here and GBCN. I may even fake sleep if someone comes in the room.
We just put the crib together. There are 8 extra bolts. I wish I had counted the actual number of each when we started like I ALWAYS do. There is absolutely nowhere else for 1 bolt to go, let alone 8, so I'm sure it's just extra, but it's fucking with me!
Does your crib convert to a daybed/toddler bed? We had leftover bolts, too, and realized they were for attaching the rail thingie to convert it.
Post by noodleskooze on Apr 20, 2014 20:06:44 GMT -5
I am so down about my weight/body shape recently, but I deserve it because I make no effort to eat healthier or to exercise. I just want to get in shape without having to give up things I like (food) and with continuing to avoid things I hate (gym)!
I told my Mom we weren't coming down for Easter (she was ok with it) and we didn't go visit my H's family for Easter. Instead we went shopping and went out to dinner. This is the first Holiday we have "skipped".
I am so down about my weight/body shape recently, but I deserve it because I make no effort to eat healthier or to exercise. I just want to get in shape without having to give up things I like (food) and with continuing to avoid things I hate (gym)!
I'm sitting here with you. When you figure out how to be in shape without giving up food and without exercise, let me know.
In the mean time, I am sitting on the couch eating Easter candy and drinking wine.
We just put the crib together. There are 8 extra bolts. I wish I had counted the actual number of each when we started like I ALWAYS do. There is absolutely nowhere else for 1 bolt to go, let alone 8, so I'm sure it's just extra, but it's fucking with me!
Does your crib convert to a daybed/toddler bed? We had leftover bolts, too, and realized they were for attaching the rail thingie to convert it.
Yes, but we have the bolts for that PLUS 8 more. Lol
The weather has been very nice this weekend (55) but everything's dirty and there's no green grass or leaves on the trees yet--that'll happen in another couple weeks. And then I can start buying hanging baskets and bedding plants. Woo hoo!
But this nice weather is making me miss my family in Oregon and having a nice Easter egg hunt OUTDOORS! ::sigh::
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
H's grandmother has regressed to the point where she remembers almost nothing, has cut off family members who have tried to help her and acted like a sullen toddler at dinner the last time we saw her. At the end of the meal, she decided she was done and got up to leave without saying goodbye to H even though we'd driven 6+ hours to see her.
I would be ok if I didn't see her again before she died at this point.
Post by mrsjuleshs on Apr 20, 2014 22:26:43 GMT -5
I've been completely annoyed with my best friend, dds aunt. Between the whole engine thing and all the hours since then Dh has had to spend cleaning up that mess and taking the engine to a scrap yard with no thanks from her, this weekend she decided I'm going to take pics of all the kids and sorry I'm not going to just be her photographer on call any time she wants them done. So now she's pissed I had a "headache" yesterday. I love her but it's become so one sided and now she wants me to go to court to testify against my nieces baby daddy who is dd's bio uncle. Even though I hate that family, I'm not jeopardizing my kids future and what money he is actually paying. My ex has made things very clear and while i have full custody, i cant get involved with this whole mess without risking a major shit storm for my kid. I can't do that to my kid and while I love her, really my niece deserves better than either of them can give her.
talked to my mom this morning on skype and hinted to her we're considering stopping at 1 child. she was so disappointed and said "don't be stupid you have to have at least 1 more. it's our only happiness is grandkids." fuck if that didn't give me major guilt. even at 36 i am very much swayed by what my parents think and want.
Yeah, but you have to give birth to it and raise it. And if that's their only happiness, then they have serious issues. What if you couldn't have another? Are they then going to be depressed or angry? Tell them to get over themselves.
lime's post is exactly why Alzheimer's and dementia scare me so much. I'm afraid of someday having it and being all alone because nobody thinks I'm worth the bother anymore.
I just cannot fathom knowing it's happening. Knowing people are talking slowly and loudly to you, and still not remembering enough, or understanding enough. And then with people being angry with you.
Sorry to unload here, but yes. This was one of the most devastating parts of day to day life with my Grandmom - her moments of lucidity when she was terrified and heartbroken about what was happening to her. I've mentioned this here before, but my mom and dad cared for her around the clock for the last year or so of her life (whenever she began needing constant care), and, while I can't even begin to imagine the toll that took on them, and while I saw and understood how frustrating she could be, it was absolutely infuriating to hear the way my dad spoke to and about her sometimes. I don't think a lot of people realize that people with dementia or Alzheimer's spend much of their time feeling scared and overwhelmed about what's happening to them. The very last thing they need is anyone being annoyed with them or acting like "what's the point, they're pretty much gone anyway." Disgusting.
I appreciate that you're trying to give the flip side of the argument Saint Monica. But lime's comments were reprehensible. I think she needs to reevaluate why her and her H traveled to see her grandmother in the first place.
This makes me feel better noodleskooze. I did adorable pictures of Hart for his first Easter. I may have to post some, they're too much.
But we're not particularly religious, we didn't go to church and really just used Sunday as a running errands day with a big meal at grandma's in the middle. Still, I like the opportunity to aw my kid on the internet.
On the one hand, I can almost (and that's a pretty big almost) understand where lime is coming from. It was very hard for the whole family when my grandmother had no idea who we were and got belligerent. It was upsetting and sad and I wished I didn't have to deal with it. But seeing her was worth it, if just for those two minutes she was lucid or "happily delusional" (like when she thought we were all on a cruise ship.
Post by nodontdothat on Apr 21, 2014 7:28:18 GMT -5
RE: Alzheimer's & dementia-people who suffer from these live in an escalated state of fear, confusion, and anxiety. Which means they need love, support, and compassion no matter how difficult they are.