This is dorky, but we say our vows to each other (not exactly the same ones, but some variation of them) every year. It's just us. No big production or anything.
We would consider a vow renewal way down the line (like 25 years) but family and super close friends only. And it probably would be more like a really kick ass party than anything ceremonial.
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you know, I think I might talk to DH about doing it next year, for our tenth. It would be a midweek no frills thing, perhaps bring the kids, maybe just us and the minister. Not even really scheduled, just pop in when it works for him (the minister).
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Post by Captain Serious on Apr 21, 2014 1:29:41 GMT -5
We did it once, in Vegas, by Elvis, after 2.5 years. It was a blast. It was also meaningful, as we had a bit of a bumpy ride for about a year of that. We did it as a fluke. My husband was in Vegas for a conference, I tagged along, and some of his coworkers and our friends joined in the fun. It was a blast.
We're now coming up on 10 years married, with no plans of doing it again. It the circumstances are right, though, we'd likely do it again in a heartbeat. For us, it's not about new weddings or celebrations with friends, just about a fun way to profess and renew/rekindle? our love for one another. Anyone who wants to join in for fun is welcome, but it's really about the two of us.
What I'd really like to do is buy a great, great wedding dress, and wear it around the house when no one is home.
I wore an Indian wedding outfit for my wedding, and it was gorgeous (red with embroidery) but I'd love to get a big white wedding dress and wear that one day. So, perhaps I should do a vow renewal, this time in England and wearing white. My friends could come to this side of the pond.
The only reason I'd really care to renew my vows is to have an excuse to throw a fun party. And if that's the case, I'd rather just throw an anniversary party and skip the vow renewal.
We were married by Elvis in Vegas, so we plan to go back on our 10th anniversary and renew our vows at the same place. But we plan to do it alone this time.
I don't see the point. Particularly if there's a big spectacle to go with it.
If I were in a situation where I found it necessary (I'm thinking reconciliation after a separation), I'd do it in private with just a minister and us.
It's a few years away, but we've talked about having a nice vacation for our 10th (all inclusive or cruise) and renew vows then. No one there really, no gifts or attention. Just C and ourselves as a landmarker/reminder kind of thing.
I don't see the point. Particularly if there's a big spectacle to go with it.
If I were in a situation where I found it necessary (I'm thinking reconciliation after a separation), I'd do it in private with just a minister and us.
This is where I fall.
I will say - my ILs will be married 50 years this year. If they were to do something like a renewal and have a party, I probably wouldn't blink. 50 years is a LONG time.
Whatever you want to do w/ just the 2 of you - have at it. But this idea that people do fancy vow renewals for 5, 10, 15 years and invite others to come.... sorry, but it falls in the AWish category for me.
There was a time I thought I'd like to do one for our five year, but that's next year and at this point I feel like we're good, we've been through nothing that would need us to re-commit to each other, so I just don't see any reason.
This is dorky, but we say our vows to each other (not exactly the same ones, but some variation of them) every year. It's just us. No big production or anything.
We would consider a vow renewal way down the line (like 25 years) but family and super close friends only. And it probably would be more like a really kick ass party than anything ceremonial.