Would this be inappropriate?

[softspot]

I nannied for a family before I had O and have stayed close with them. The husband died almost 2 months ago in a scuba accident. I'm seeing the wife & daughter at the end of the month and wanted to get them a "thinking of you" gift. I already know what I'll give the kiddo since it's something I've been eyeing for a while for her. The mom loves Starbucks so I was thinking of getting a gift card & reusable cup from there. Is that weird? Inappropriate? WWYD?

[prettyinpink]

I think that would be just fine. She is probably not done a lot of things for herself since her H died, so even if its running out and getting a cup of coffee on someone elses dime that would be a good thing for her.

[beans]

Giving someone a thoughtful gift to let them know you are thinking about them and you care is always appropriate. Especially when they're dealing with grief.

[softspot]

Jul 13, 2012 14:58:10 GMT -5 beans said:

Giving someone a thoughtful gift to let them know you are thinking about them and you care is always appropriate. Especially when they're dealing with grief.

I guess I feel like its just not enough. Too simple maybe? YKWIM? I would do a massage/pedi gift but I don't think she wants to be away from the kiddo, understandably.

[blueshirt2003]

I think that's a great gift and she'll appreciate it a lot I bet.

[beans]

Jul 13, 2012 15:04:39 GMT -5 softspot said:

Jul 13, 2012 14:58:10 GMT -5 beans said:

Giving someone a thoughtful gift to let them know you are thinking about them and you care is always appropriate. Especially when they're dealing with grief.

I guess I feel like its just not enough. Too simple maybe? YKWIM? I would do a massage/pedi gift but I don't think she wants to be away from the kiddo, understandably.

yeah, that makes sense. When I worked with people at both grief centers, even small things were majorly appreciated. I think what you are planning is sweet and from the heart, which is what she needs.

[G22]

Jul 13, 2012 14:58:10 GMT -5 beans said:

Giving someone a thoughtful gift to let them know you are thinking about them and you care is always appropriate. Especially when they're dealing with grief.

:Y: this

[basilosaurus]

I think it would be weird on its own, but it would be lovely in a heartfelt card.

[iluvmytxrgr]

How old is her daughter? My girls have loved getting their toes done since they were little. My 5 yr old will insist upon it when her toes start to "get funky". Maybe you could give them a special day together with mani/pedis and lunch together at a cute local place. My daughters love going to tea rooms.

[softspot]

Jul 13, 2012 21:26:32 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

I think it would be weird on its own, but it would be lovely in a heartfelt card.

I will definitely include a card.

Jul 14, 2012 19:48:34 GMT -5 iluvmytxrgr said:

How old is her daughter? My girls have loved getting their toes done since they were little. My 5 yr old will insist upon it when her toes start to "get funky". Maybe you could give them a special day together with mani/pedis and lunch together at a cute local place. My daughters love going to tea rooms.

She's only 2.