I hate this board war between WC and TTTC. I post on both so I hate to see fighting. and I don't appreciate being one of "those fools." TTTC is generally a very welcoming place and I think things have been misconstrued. ahhhh! why can't we all just hug it out and say TTC sucks, whether you've been trying 6 months or 2 years plus?
Ugg I just want this thing rented. Should I wait a bit then text her and are what happened?
I'm a fairly strict landlord. I'd write her off. My current tenant was late the first couple of meetings, and he has been late with rent EVERY. MONTH. since then. we pay both of our mortgages on the first of the month, so we need his check asap. DH deals with our tenant mostly and has allowed this even though I told him in the beginning not to. Nothing I can do about it now, the lease is up this month.
Post by melsamoony on Apr 22, 2014 13:53:14 GMT -5
pooh8402 I am sorry if my comment was offensive, that was not my intent. It wasn't my intention to call the board as a whole fools...I feel that the callout was unnecessary which is what I was speaking to. I do not classify people by labels such as fools/whatever especially not based on a board you choose to post on. I am not trying to continue/start a board war I am just trying to say that we should all be a little more understanding of people. The end.
While I see MrsMB side and trying to ignore it and hope it goes away it's just not a terrific solution because I think all of the tension just builds up again over time.
That is where I see pooh8402 points on trying to figure the best method that we can all just get along.
Lets talk it out ladies!
I can see where some tension is coming from with the lurking. But I also see lots of people are probably lurking that board because not everyone wants to talk about their personal situations. Or maybe they don't know enough to understand or add input. I know for me a person who gets pg after trying/not trying just one time really can't offer or understand anything about IVF but 100% empathize and want to support several of the posters who are having trouble. We all have one common ultimate goal in mind and that is having a child to take home. We all in different places when it comes to this and we just need to be careful how we deal with each other.
As I said in my previous post I genuinely feel excited when a TTTC receives good news. Especially for those who I have seen struggle over the years. I just hope we can get along and support each other even if we are on two different boards.
Post by whiskeyandwine on Apr 22, 2014 16:33:53 GMT -5
Somebody saying something that is unpopular does not make this a war. Lord.
And the "those fools" comment was offensive. And if it wasn't directed at the board as a whole but rather at the call out/caller out then that would be me and so still offensive.
::Sigh:: This damn lurking issue. I understand the sensitive nature but I have yet to see anyone post something like, "In my spare time, I love observing the infertiles". People who lurk are usually at a state where they feel like its headed in that direction. Instead of assuming the worst and calling them out, what if we just politely invited them to do an intro?
::Sigh:: This damn lurking issue. I understand the sensitive nature but I have yet to see anyone post something like, "In my spare time, I love observing the infertiles". People who lurk are usually at a state where they feel like its headed in that direction. Instead of assuming the worst and calling them out, what if we just politely invited them to do an intro?
YES, thank you, that would have been great. Or maybe, ya know, not assume you know my LYFE lol.
Post by melsamoony on Apr 22, 2014 16:57:25 GMT -5
This is so out of hand it isn't even funny. As I said, I apologize for any one who was offended by my comment whiskeyandwine. I merely was trying to say the call out was unnecessary especially considering most of the posters who posted complaints with it are not regulars on this board anyways...kind of funny calling out a lurker when you yourself seem to be doing the same thing. ANYWAYS if we could get back to our regularly scheduled randoms and general chit chat I think we would all be much happier.
::Sigh:: This damn lurking issue. I understand the sensitive nature but I have yet to see anyone post something like, "In my spare time, I love observing the infertiles". People who lurk are usually at a state where they feel like its headed in that direction. Instead of assuming the worst and calling them out, what if we just politely invited them to do an intro?
Did you read my "call out"? Because I DID invite her to into. Really nicely. Which is what makes this all so "weird".
::Sigh:: This damn lurking issue. I understand the sensitive nature but I have yet to see anyone post something like, "In my spare time, I love observing the infertiles". People who lurk are usually at a state where they feel like its headed in that direction. Instead of assuming the worst and calling them out, what if we just politely invited them to do an intro?
YES, thank you, that would have been great. Or maybe, ya know, not assume you know my LYFE lol.
Again. Go re-read this "call out" and tell me in all honesty that 1-it was even a call out and 2-I didn't ask you to jump in and even make a joke while doing it.
If this has gotten out of hand it is bc of those of you pretending there is some big drama and "war" going on rather than just a differing if opinions.
Post by melsamoony on Apr 22, 2014 17:07:40 GMT -5
I decided to go get myself a coke zero today and of course picked the five minutes that it decided to rain to walk to the deli. Bad choice so I rewarded myself with gummy bears for surviving the journey. I had to, however, fight the rack to get the gummy bears as they were clipped on very awkwardly, even the cashier was struggling with it. No worries though I got them and still have some left over for tomorrow.
I have to go back on Monday for an ultrasound. The doctor did a quick exam and said that it is most likely a tumor or a cyst. The ultrasound should tell us whether it needs to be biopsied. It's about 2cm x 1.5cm and doesn't seem to be attached to anything. She didn't really give me an idea of how likely it is that they would recommend a biopsy and I didn't get a chance to ask any questions, which I understand because she was on call and not my regular doctor, so I'm just trying to focus on not worrying between now and Monday. H is already really stressed and scared about it, so I'm staying calm and level-headed to keep him calm and level-headed. 9 times out of 10 it's a benign tumor or a cyst, so there's no reason to get worked up at this point.
I did go and see my mom after my appointment, though. She's been through this whole process before (she was diagnosed six years ago), and she always seems to know exactly what to say to help me in situations like this.
katespade good luck at your ultrasound! Most of the time lumps do turn out to be cysts, but that doesn't make it any less stressful and worrisome. Based on my experience, they tend to biopsy it anyway. I think it falls under better safe than sorry in their minds. Needle biopsies are no big deal, even the full on biopsy under general anesthesia wasn't bad. Hope you have good news soon.
ewallHoneySpidermelsamoony - Thank you guys. I did not expect to have to worry about this in my mid-twenties.
I'm crossing my fingers that somehow there is something magical on the u/s that makes them decide I don't need a biopsy. Haha. I'm kind of getting the impression, though, that the u/s is more for them to tell whether it needs a needle biopsy or a full biopsy, since there is no question about the lump being there and they do tend to lean toward better safe than sorry.
I've been watching PBS for the past two hours. Probably more public broadcast than I've watched in the past ten years combined. I don't even know who I am anymore...
Post by melsamoony on Apr 22, 2014 20:47:22 GMT -5
katespade it sucks but lumps and breast cancer run in my family. My poor mom had her first biopsy at 22. She is being followed by a benign breast clinic right now and like I said earlier although she has had several biopsies she has never had any positives. If you need to chat PM me. Try to focus on the fact that your healthcare providers are doing everything they can to keep you healthy. For now this is just a precaution. Try to do something fun to keep your mind off this best you can.
ewall - Is there anything good on or are you using it for background noise?
There was a documentary of sorts on medical dramas. It interviewed the cast of "ER" which is one of my all time favorite shows. Then there was an Earth Day special on with a segment about Love Canal.
katespade GL at your ultrasound. Praying that it is nothing.
@mrschicken I'm so sorry that your DH and you are dealing with all of this. Depression has been a big problem for me the past year and I don't feel like myself. My DH is going through the same thing. It's so hard to deal with and making being "us" much more difficult.
mrssandro I miss all the good things! I hope revealing on fb went well for you!