Post by marylennox on Apr 24, 2014 19:47:02 GMT -5
I think it sounds like a good idea. I would love to do something like this even if we weren't in a rough spot, but especially if we were. If you are both on board I say go for it. Sounds like it could be cool.
We just got from a Worldwide Marriage Encounter and it has saved our marriage. It really focused on communication and talking about our feelings I terms that the other could relate to. It also brought up the point that we are a unit, and our lives have become too separate. The price is whatever you can pay. The weekend is paid for already, and the fee is paying for future couples.
Can you, sewpinkgal and jillianashley6 come back and tell me more about it? How does the 'faith' part play into things? What kind of exercises did you do? I see it is open to anyone regardless of faith so how does that work? I'd love to hear more info!
we had had prayers every night and before,but it wasn't overly religious, and several couples were not catholic. In feel like in ohio, or maybe just Columbus, that the Catholic Churches are very welcoming and try to not exclude. We also did an engagement encounter weekend prior to getting married, and it was more focused on us than religion.
Basically the leader couples would share a situation, and their example of a dialogue. A different way of communicating feelings, and a better understanding of a situation. So, person A would share how something made them feel, not what they think the other person did wrong, and person B would share a feeling to gain understanding. Either person A would say, yes that is exactly how I feel, or no it's more... And then B would share another situation. It's one thing to say your are angry but another thing for the other person to understand the level.
we would then break apart to write about a topic the the couples we reconnect in their rooms to share with their spouse and dialogue.
we now set aside time to talk even if it isn't as structured as at the retreat, and we are more mindful of our words and describe how we are feeling.
It is is hard to describe but I am glad we did it. We also enjoyed most of the people we met. Sorry if this is hard to read or full of typos. I'm not using the app and I have to scroll all around on my phone. Sorry so late! I hope your situation is improving.
Post by polarbearfans on Jun 13, 2014 21:59:38 GMT -5
I should mention that I got ahold of the door lock code and we snuck out to a Walgreens for gummy worms and redbull when we were supposed to dialoging lol. Very bonding.
I should mention that I got ahold of the door lock code and we snuck out to a Walgreens for gummy worms and redbull when we were supposed to dialoging lol. Very bonding.
Lol this is good timing to revive an old thread - we are going next weekend! Should be an experience. Hopefully it's a good one.
Good luck moneypit! I can't wait to hear how it goes. I did a couple of retreats growing up and while they weren't for marriage they were definitely wonderful and helped me learn a lot about myself.
Post by polarbearfans on Jun 14, 2014 6:14:51 GMT -5
Haha not locked in, but the door was self locking to keep others out, and no way back in unless someone was nearby to open up. We were also encouraged to ignore the outside world and it's distractions for the weekend.
We were close enough (about 40 minutes) that my husband went home to get my favorite pillow and blanket because I was having trouble sleeping lol I sat near the door that night to let him back in and heard one of the leaders tell another the code.
Have fun! We really enjoyed the weekend even though it challenged us at times.
Post by themoneytree on Jun 14, 2014 13:23:15 GMT -5
We decided to pony up and do the non faith based one this time. We'll see how it goes. I wouldn't rule out doing a faith based one in the future - it might actually be fun to compare them.
I'm not really sure what to expect - I hope it will be good for us. Things have actually been much better, but we're still not where we were pre baby and I definitely think it's worth a shot to try and get back to a really good place.
I am also having some resentment that he's digging his heels in on only having 1 kid. I think we need some ways to deal with this issue because right now I feel like he's pretty dismissive about it. It's not that I expect him to change his mind but I don't think he realizes how big a thing this is for me.