Um I need Advice...Awkward Situation!

[compassrose]

I'd comment on it, laugh about it since it seems innocent enough, and ask if he meant for it to be public...and then further down the line have a more serious conversation about porn and sex and see where he stands

[stephbfan]

I think that before you say anything, you need to decide where you stand on this. Is it a deal breaker for you or is just something that you find distasteful?

Then you bring it up because this is really making you upset and see what he says and then go from there.

Also how come does he have his account on this website linked to his FB account? lol

[blondnearby]

Are you sure it's not a virus or spam? I know there is a video watching site that when you watch an innocent video on hummingbirds or the such for example, it shows a sexy video on the person's wall.

[omeomi]

Like steph said, you need to resolve where you stand on the porn issue first. Do you want your SO to never look at/watch it? Only occasionally? Only with you? Once you 'come to terms' so to speak with exactly how you feel about it, then it will be (assumingly) much easier for you to have the convo with him about both of your feelings on the matter and whether they're on the same plane or not.

[mayflowers22]

I'd just notify him that it's public and address the situation later.

[hobs209]

Isn't nudity against FB's TOS? I'm inclined to think it's very likely his account was hacked but agree you need to think about your feelings on the topic and then discuss it.

[jojoandleo]

Jul 14, 2012 22:40:49 GMT -5 jade28 said:

Hmm I don't know if I believe the hacking thing or not but for now it's ok. I really don't know where I stand on porn...but obviously having it public like that was not fun. I think down the road we can actually talk about it but eh for now I don't really know what to think about porn and all that so not ready to have a convo. It's not a deal breaker.

It's actually pretty common. If you click "okay" on facebook to allow it to upload videos, etc. It has happened to my mom and I am 120% sure she doesn't watch porn. She still doesn't watch the sex scenes in Pretty Woman. Is there a reason not to believe him or are you just trying to create issues that don't exist? (I am guilty of this early in a relationship if I feel things are "too good" or moving too fast.)

[EllieArroway]

That is a very common virus. And if you clicked on it you probably have it now.

[Deleted]

If this issue really bothers you, you need to discuss it NOW. Do not igonre what might have been a hack or not. And if it isnt a deal breaker now,....will it be 1 year from now when you find his porn stash>? Ignoring it will not make it go away.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry but if you were ok with porn in theory, this wouldn't have been such an issue for you. Yes, it can become a problem, but when he has a beer do you think he may become an alcoholic?
It's ok not to be ok with porn, but you are not being honest with yourself. All your comments have stated that you arent ok with it...even in theory.

[stephbfan]

Jul 15, 2012 10:37:44 GMT -5 mags said:

I'm sorry but if you were ok with porn in theory, this wouldn't have been such an issue for you. Yes, it can become a problem, but when he has a beer do you think he may become an alcoholic?
It's ok not to be ok with porn, but you are not being honest with yourself. All your comments have stated that you arent ok with it...even in theory.

This is what I think about this issue.

The way I see it, you think you "should" be Ok with porn but in reality you are not. When you say I'm fine with it as long as he doesn't "insert a whole bunch of situations here".

If you are not OK with porn just accept it. Its just a matter of preferences and opinions and you are totally entitled to have them. Just be honest with yourself.

If he has a porn stash, he most likely watches it frequently and if you are not comfortable with that, then he is not a good match for you even if he is perfect in any other aspect.

TBH I think is good this video on FB thing as it is making you think about your take on an important issue.