A girlfriends September wedding

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One of my long long time girlfriends is getting married in September. I know her whole family, but not her friends. I'm invited with a guest and I'm not dating anyone and no potential guy friends to take as a date. I'm uncomfortable going alone. So my question is...do I bring a girlfriend or my mom? My mom knows her, but my parents weren't invited due to a tight guest list. WWYD?
ETA:a single girlfriend

[ECB]

A "guest" is just that - a guest. So yes, if you want, take a friend or your mom.

[awick14]

Bring a single girlfriend. (I have a single friend who either brings her sister, or a single girlfriend with her to events like this.)

To me this would be normal though!

[Deleted]

If she invited you with a guest you can bring whoever you choose. However if it was me, I would feel strange taking my mom or friend.

[doriswe]

Jul 15, 2012 20:06:11 GMT -5 @kjewell said:

If she invited you with a guest you can bring whoever you choose. However if it was me, I would feel strange taking my mom or friend.

Out of total curiousity, why would you feel strange??

[marynjoe]

I'd feel odd bringing anyone other than a significant other. To me, the 'and guest' is for that reason, not your mom or a girl friend. But, since it doesn't say that, you can bring either. If you're going that route, bring your girl friend. You might have more fun dancing and flirting with single groomsmen. I however, would go alone. And have fun!

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I just feel awkward going alone because I don't know anyone there. I went to one wedding alone, but I was with a ton of coworkers both single and married and I was completely comfortable.
In this situation, I may bring my single girlfriend rather than mom because it will be easier to dance and possibly mingle with single guys that way.

[jade28]

I would not assume and guest means you can bring anyone. My bro and his fiancee gave people guests specifically for a date. Of course, they only gave people a guest if they knew they were dating someone (but of course breakups can occur anytime). I was told I could not bring a girlfriend. They don't want people there who don't even know them or who they didn't invite.

[blackkitty]

I would definitely go alone.
When I was single and went alone to a friend's wedding she had a "singles table" and I happened to be the only girl. So that was fun!

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I might check with the bride, just because there are varying opinions on this. But honestly if you are invited with a guest you get to bring who you want. I think it's ridiculous when people use the "they don't want people they don't know at their wedding." Well, then they shouldn't have invited you with a guest. I don't really see what difference it makes who you take.

Also I totally understand not wanting to go to weddings alone. I think it would be nice if everyone realized not everyone has the same level of comfort in social situations. For those who are more outgoing it's easy to say "Go Alone! You'll meet people! I had a blast!" Good for you and be happy that you have that kind of personality. But not everyone can do that. I get very anxious (and yes I'm working it, but I don't think it will ever fully go away) and having someone I know there helps me relax and meet others.

Also I've yet to go to a wedding where there was singles table, which I actually agree would make it easier. I'm always sat with couples. And I've noticed there are increasingly fewer and fewer single people. The last wedding I went to, there were three single girls and NO single men out of close to 100 people.

Sorry, I'm a little ranty today.

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Jul 16, 2012 11:48:56 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I might check with the bride, just because there are varying opinions on this. But honestly if you are invited with a guest you get to bring who you want. I think it's ridiculous when people use the "they don't want people they don't know at their wedding." Well, then they shouldn't have invited you with a guest. I don't really see what difference it makes who you take.

Also I totally understand not wanting to go to weddings alone. I think it would be nice if everyone realized not everyone has the same level of comfort in social situations. For those who are more outgoing it's easy to say "Go Alone! You'll meet people! I had a blast!" Good for you and be happy that you have that kind of personality. But not everyone can do that. I get very anxious (and yes I'm working it, but I don't think it will ever fully go away) and having someone I know there helps me relax and meet others.

Also I've yet to go to a wedding where there was singles table, which I actually agree would make it easier. I'm always sat with couples. And I've noticed there are increasingly fewer and fewer single people. The last wedding I went to, there were three single girls and NO single men out of close to 100 people.

Sorry, I'm a little ranty today.

Thank you! I think a guest is a guest...I guess some people may feel comfortable going alone. Not me...I also have anxiety in these situations.