and I feel horrible saying this, but I really don't want to be pregnant anymore. I feel like every day is long, every night is longer, and I'm just ready to have this kid out in the world with us and to have my body back to being mine. Between the heartburn, peeing constantly, always being tired, back aches, swollen ankles, blah blah blah, I'm just ready to be done and have him here.
I feel horrible saying this because I know there are a lot of women who would give anything to be pregnant and dealing with these things, but aren't pregnant, I'm just having a hard time the past few days dealing mentally with the fact that I basically feel kinda like crap most of the time.
I'm with you and I still have 10 weeks to go. The third trimester is generally miserable, it's definitely ok to feel over it! I'm trying to remind myself that inside babies are still easier to care for than outside babies.
Don't feel horrible. Pregnancy is tough, and it's long. Just because someone would love to be in your shoes doesn't mean your shoes are necessarily comfortable, yeno?
It's ok, pregnancy is not for the faint of heart, and not everyone is fortunate enough to go through the whole shebang without some sort of complaints. It'll be over before you know it!
Sorry you're having a rough time. I'm only 22 weeks and I'm already starting to feel this way a little bit. I know by the time I hit third tri I'll be ready for her to be out, lol.
Post by hokiegirl82 on May 5, 2014 11:36:40 GMT -5
Thanks ladies. I hate being a whiner, but I'm already in a bad mood because this is going to be the slowest week on earth at work and I hate being bored - it makes the feeling crappy even worse.
So you have hit the stage where I'm-sick-of-being-pregnant. This is a normal stage that many women go through. The reasons for this are: the heartburn, the peeing constantly, the always being tired, the back aches, the swollen ankles and the always thirsty. Many women who went through challenges to get pregnant and were initially delighted to be pregnant also go through the I'm-sick-of-being-pregnant stage. It is totally normal and do not beat yourself up about reaching this stage. It will pass and you will be excited to be a mom.
I hear far more stories of the "urrrggggghhhh this sucks" variety than the serene Earth Mother variety. I was bitching about it to my H over the weekend - that I didn't think I was going to miss being PG at.all. I'm not having a horrific pregnancy or anything, just over this whole sharing-a-body thing. Not that BFing eases that feeling, LOL.
That being said, I'd willingly sign up to do this again soon. I might be crazy.
Post by theatre4life on May 5, 2014 12:15:53 GMT -5
Ditto pp's. I definitely think it's normal to feel this way, and you shouldn't feel bad about it. **hugs** I do hope it eases for you soon, and that you can relax some.
I know how you feel, although I'm not quite ready for him to come. The heartburn, no food sounding good, not being able to bend and sore pelvis, ligaments, etc.. are definitely getting to me. And fwiw, I had TTTC and it has taken me 3 years to get to this point and I am still miserable. And I never ever blamed anyone for complaining about pregnancy even when I was at my lowest point thinking it would never happen.
I waited my entire life to be pregnant. I have no idea what I thought it would be but it is nothing like I expected. I fought so hard to get pregnant....5 long years. Pregnancy is not for me. I just want this baby boy here screaming lol Last night I couldn't breath very well no matter how I laid, the heartburn, acid reflux, migraines......this is a lot of work! I have 19 more weeks to go.
Don't feel bad at all. I wanted nothing more to be a mother and had such a hard time getting here. But you know what? I HATE being pregnant. I've had some *gasps* when I answer this way after people ask me if I'm enjoying my pregnancy. After all, all those years of crying and stressing and failed attempts I should be LOVING being pregnant.
But it's hard. I hate the restrictions. I hate being tired. I hate being hyper and then tired and then hungry and then nauseous. I hate the shitty comments from people and I hate that I'll have to go through labor one day. I use to feel guilty about it given my dealings with IF but hey, no one said I had to enjoy growing a human in my abdomen. It's my damn body cavity, give it back!
I always maintain that it's hard. It beats the shit out of you. I want more than anything in the world to be a MOMMY, but I can do without the pregnancy. I joke that H is having our next one! haha. But I still frantically check my underwear for blood when I pee, or freak out when they try to find a HB on the Doppler - JIC they can't find it. Because god forbid anything were to happen to this pregnancy I would be devastated.
And you know what? I'm 10,000% sure that when I am a mom things will be so hard I wish I wasn't at times. Because being a mom isn't always sunshine and rainbows either. But would I trade it for anything? Nope.
I'm assuming these feelings are all normal so being guilty about them is just more negativity to have. Hang in there!
Just because you want to have a child doesn't mean you have to love being pregnant. That's silly - just because I love to go to the beach doesn't mean I have to enjoy the car ride there, lol.
I know where you're coming from (I'm PGAL myself) but there's a difference between constant bitching and simply acknowleding that it's tough, or not what you expected, or you don't feel well.
I also think that the end of pregnancy is probably miserable so that we don't dread actual labor as much - it just becomes, "Okay, I'm done, get out," lol.
This is where I am at a cross roads. As DH puts it, I am bad at being pregnant. I am either happy or miserable. There is no inbetween. And I am so ready for the aches and pains and yuckiness to go away, but at the same time I know this is my last pregnancy, I want to savour it. I don't want to wish it away, I want to enjoy every last minute of it. I just wish pregnancy was as easy as my mom says hers was.
Post by greeneyedgirl on May 6, 2014 23:22:29 GMT -5
I decided after my DS that this stage is what makes you face the reality that the baby has to come out somehow and you really become ok with labor and delivery. Suddenly contractions seem like a better option than being pregnant any longer .
I have easy pregnancies, yet I still don't enjoy it at all. I'm pretty annoyed by it this time around. 9 months is a freaking long time to have your body hijacked. And I'm only half way done!
Post by hokiegirl82 on May 7, 2014 13:22:37 GMT -5
Some days I feel more ok with being pregnant than others. Like today I've felt good and don't mind being pregnant and then I have bad days where everything seems so uncomfortable and never ending. Sadly the bad days are slowly starting to out number the good days but at least each day is one day closer to birth and not being pregnant anymore.
Post by phdprocrastinator on May 7, 2014 19:29:29 GMT -5
First of all, pregnancy sucks and you should feel free to hate it even if other people would love to be pregnant.
Second of all, sometimes being a parent sucks and you should feel free to hate those moments even if other people would love to have kids.
Sure, there will be plenty of moments to make up for the crappy ones. And in those moments, you can thank your lucky stars, feel grateful, etc., etc. Because it's really, really worth it. But there are some moments that just aren't that great. For example:
-Not being able to get up in time to get to the bathroom for another middle of the night pee. -Trying to figure out what to wear to hide your compression hose. And you hate all of your maternity clothes! -Waking up with a newborn who can't latch, who doesn't understand that s/he should sleep when it's dark, and you've only had 2-3 hours of consecutive sleep in several days. -Getting poop on your hand, not noticing, and wiping poop all over you clothes. After just finishing laundry. -Being covered in spit up, while out, with no change of clothes. And you also just finished laundry (luckily, you will soon learn laundry is never finished and this will stop bothering you so much).
Those are just some of my personal experiences from the final few weeks of pregnancy/early few weeks of motherhood.
It is all totally worth it though. Remembering that can help me deal with the crappy moment.