Hi ladies. I'm a longtime lurker of TN and GBCN -- used to post more regularly on MM back before the great migration, and on TK way back in 2005 around the time of my wedding.
I think that I'm pregnant, although it's still early. I debated for a while whether to post this on Getting Pregnant or Got Pregnant, but I think this is the right place. I took a test this morning (13 DPO, 1-2 days before my period is due), and I have a faint line (DH saw it as well). I also flew out of town this weekend and was weirdly nauseous for parts of both flights, even when the air was clear. I've never had that happen before, which is part of why I tested. Argh, I don't know. I'm going to test again tomorrow morning, see if the line darkens.
Anyway, about me/us. We've been married nearly 9 years (married at 22/23; I'm 31 now). We've been talking about kids for a while and sort of haphazardly trying (no temping or anything) for maybe 6 months. This is the first month that we've been more actively trying (OPK testing), so I'm kinda in shock that there might be a positive result so soon.
Emotions are mixed. I am a PhD student (and would LOVE to hear from anyone else in this boat), so if I'm really pregnant right now, then I'll be going on the job market while visibly showing. I'm worried that could screw over my chances of getting a job. At the same time, this was part of the conversation leading into this process... I know that if we wait till I have a tenure-track job to TTC, that could really affect my ability to have a child. And I think I'd resent my career choices heavily, for a long time. If I get pregnant and that affects the job situation, I truly believe I won't feel the same resentment. But the prospects still suck all around.
Oh, and when I asked DH how he felt about it after showing him the stick, his first answer was "conflicted." I get that... as much as we have been trying and as much as we waited until bills were paid off and stuff, I have some conflicted feelings of my own (mostly the PhD-related ones). But that is not what I needed to hear this morning.
It'll all work out. Best of luck with the job situation, and finishing your studies. Even in the best situation it takes a while for the news to sink in.
Well, I took a first response test just now, and it would appear that I'm definitely pregnant. I called the student health center for an appointment to figure out the next steps. I'm in shock.
Hi jm! Congrats on your BFP! I just finished my PhD in chemistry 1.5 years ago. It was a long, hard road and I couldn't have finished it with a newborn. But one of my labmates had a baby and still graduated in about five years (that's on the quick side in my field), so it really depends on your own progress in the program, your adviser, etc. Of course there's never a truly optimal time to have a baby. Now I'm pregnant and in my second year on the tenure track. I feel so fortunate to have landed this job, and I wonder if my reproductive plans put my future in my career in jeopardy. But hell if I was going to wait until I was 35 to start TTC on account of a job!
PM me any time if you want to talk. I don't know that I have any great advice for you, but I can commiserate about grad school with the best of them. I hope you're feeling well and continue the good progress toward your degree!
Well, I took a first response test just now, and it would appear that I'm definitely pregnant. I called the student health center for an appointment to figure out the next steps. I'm in shock.
Yep you are pregnant! Congrats!
I think once the shock wears off and you get to see you itty bitty on ultrasound you'll soon fall in love with the idea o having a baby. It really is the best thing ever.
But don't be afraid to be honest about your fears and concerns. It's healthy and normal. Your life is about to change and I would fully expect there to be conflicted emotions. Give it time though. Both of you are sure to come around.
Thanks ladies! I taught class this morning after I posted -- it was all I could do to keep focused on the topic at hand and not blurt out that there are more important things going on today. I'm waiting at the clinic now, since I need a referral to see an OB.
Congratulations! I don't have any advice about the PhD, but I can relate a little bit about the stress of juggling school and pregnancy, and timing. I start student teaching in the fall, and my due date is exactly 1 week after my last day of student teaching. If this baby comes early I don't know what I'm going to do!