Sticky shower etiquette q

[bernergirl]

So I invited my (local) aunt to my shower that my friends are throwing me. She texted me this morning and asked if she could RSVP for my grandma as well (totally fine, gram is visiting that weekend) but also asked if she could add her two daughters (ie my cousins, who are both HS age). The rest of the guest list are all adult women, there won't be any other "kids" there. How do I gracefully respond? I actually have another (adult) cousin who lives out here too that I didn't invite b/c she lives 3 hours away.

[FastHands]

If it doesn't add hassle for 2 more guests, I'd say let them come. Doesn't seem like a big deal.

[andthentherewere10]

I wouldn't really consider high school girls "kids" so I'd just let them come.

[MrsDarcy]

Yeah, id be cool with high schoolers. I'm not huge on little girls coming, especially if their moms let them run crazy.

[polarbearfans]

I would let them come. Not really kids

[VillainV]

As long as the host is cool with the extra guests, I would have no problem with two high-school aged girls. If you think it will cause friction with your other cousins, it could be an issue....

[curbsideprophet]

Send like they should have been invited anyways. They are certainly old enough to be invited to a baby shower.

If space is not an issue I would let them come.

[SJ]

High schoolers are plenty old enough. I would let them come.

[gerberdaisy]

I'd invite them, high schoolers aren't really kids. As far as the other cousin, if its possible she'll feel slighted just let her know that you didn't invite her because she's far away, but of course you'd love her to come. This is assuming, of course, that you have the space for the extra people. We aren't inviting anyone that would have to travel, but I found out my cousin happens to be in town so of course I'd love her to come.

[jeaniebueller]

Another vote for let them come as long as space isn't an issue.

[mrssandro]

I would allow them to come but I am in the more the merrier category.

[bernergirl]

So I asked the hostesses if it would be a big deal and they said it was fine, so I told my aunt OK (and ended up inviting my other cousin as well since it's still a few weeks away). I think what irritated me was how my aunt phrased the question- as though my hostesses had somehow "forgotten" to invite her daughters. They had nothing to do with it, it's my guest list and I invited who I wanted to invite (which did not include two teenage girls who will probably sit and play on their phones the entire time, just like they do every other time I do invite them to stuff). And, I could be just a little hormonal. . So, all's well in the end.

[FastHands]

In your aunt's shoes I would probably err on the side of saying "ooohhh, must've been an oversight by your hostesses" rather than say what I was thinking, "are my HS-aged girls seriously not invited...??"