Post by catsarecute on May 11, 2014 19:38:47 GMT -5
I cried the entire way home from celebrating Mothers Day with our families. DH goes back to work tomorrow and I'm sad. I'm trying to plan some things to do each day since the baby (usually) does pretty well being out and about. Tomorrow involves going to Walmart to get my oil changed and my mom is coming up in the morning so I can take a nap.
My kid was a teething beast today. Happy frigging Mother's Day.
Also I got nothing from H. Our anniversary was Thursday so he kind of got me a joint gift but it was really not. I'm irritated. At least get a card, buddy.
My H keeps claiming that he has a card, but he needs Leo to wake up and "help" him with it...kid's 10 months. Have you secretly been teaching him to write? No? I'm curious where he's going with this excuse.
Post by zeewifeandmama on May 11, 2014 19:55:27 GMT -5
Today has been not horrible... But not great or what I was expecting. I feel like it was an afterthought ... Well everything except for the stuff I planned ( going to my Grandmas to celebrate with my family) I wasn't looking for fireworks or presents or the sun & moon. But fuck. I was just a solo parent for 5 days and after this week I'm going to be solo for another 6. I could have used a day to be special & celebrated and made to feel like I was appreciated. I know, I know those thoughts should be intrinsic and all that, but I'm bummed. Just sad.
My H feels pretty bad about not doing anything. He went to get me Culver's frozen custard for dessert, which was nice, but I told him what I wanted (single scoop of Flavor of the Day) and he brought me home something entirely different (Flavor of the Day concrete with hot fudge, which basically made it ice cream soup). Duuuuude.
I'm actually kind of okay with it being a shitty day because he feels guilty and my 30th birthday is in a month. I can ride guilt into a better birthday gift, LOL.
DH has to work a double today. I was really hoping it would be just morning, but they aren't letting him go home. I was thinking about taking DS out for sushi and Mother's Day discount frozen yogurt, but I already decided to drink instead so that won't be happening.
My H keeps claiming that he has a card, but he needs Leo to wake up and "help" him with it...kid's 10 months. Have you secretly been teaching him to write? No? I'm curious where he's going with this excuse.
Handprint?
Lol nope...he had Leo "hold" the pen while he signed his name. Haha
Post by wanderlustmom on May 11, 2014 20:57:37 GMT -5
Our day was nice and low key. The kids feted me with homemade gifts, I slept in and drank coffee and read in bed. We went to church, out for sushi at my favorite place and I got a cupcake. I went to yoga. The house still needed cleaned and lunches still needed packed-- but I was happy.
Post by AlpineSlide on May 11, 2014 21:00:06 GMT -5
DH did nothing which I expected. I made pancakes and bacon this morning and ate alone (w/ DS), and then DH walked into the kitchen and asked if he could have some. I said no (deadpan) and he looked so sad. ha! I enjoyed it for a second and then told him to help himself. lol. But I was still pissed about him not helping me the night before (or ever TBH).
#grudgeholder. no one does it better than me. (and yes I realize that we have issues.)
Post by humpforfree on May 11, 2014 21:08:41 GMT -5
Today blows. I wasnt expecting anything since I knew DH was going to have to work on the house all day (and he says he for me something but it's not coming until tomorrow...), but I spent the morning cooking to bring food to his mom's house for supper, felt like I was ignoring/neglecting the baby all morning because I was rushed to cook. Then.. Home Depot trip.. Not even for fun stuff.
Then the day was wrapped up at MILs house where everyone else stole my baby from me and we had sandwiches for supper. Sandwiches are the worst, most obnoxious supper ever for a large group of people- nothing gets passed, everyone wants the same things at once and she only had like 5 slices of cheese out for 20 people. Wtf.
So.. I barely got to see my kid, have a pile of dishes in the sink for tomorrow. Sweet. I don't think I would be so bitter if I hadn't read everywhere about everyone else's awesome Mother's Days. At least it is only this year until the house is done and DH has a very clear understanding that this is not how future mothers days will be. Lol.
Post by mollybrown on May 11, 2014 21:13:09 GMT -5
My day was not traditional, but perfect for me. I had cake and champagne as breakfast in bed, and then H took the kids out so I could spend the day alone. My only request on MD is alone time. No cards, no flowers, no going out. I'll have brunch with MIL and SIL next week. Again, no kids. I feel somewhat judged when I tell people I enjoy getting a break from my kids on MD. Oh well!
Post by teatimefor2 on May 11, 2014 21:15:45 GMT -5
My day was okay, but busy due my sister. I spent give hours in the car for her this weekend and I'm tired. She did babysit H on Saturday night so DH and I could go to dinner, but it wasn't how I ideally wanted to spend my weekend.
DH and H each gave me a card. H's card was perfect. He signed it, but it also came with a kit and included an updated hand and foot print. It's so adorable, I'm going to frame it. DH gave me a framed photo of him and H. It is one of my favorite photos, but he said it's for when you go back to work in a few years.
Okay..... I'm 15 weeks pregnant with our second child and we haven't decided if we want two or three kids and we've agreed that we want me to SAH until the youngest is at least two. His reasoning was, I'm going to want to have baby photos on H. The whole thing was odd. DH means well, but gift giving has never been his strong suit.
And now he's staining a piece of wood, why he decided to do this now, is beyond me. I'm tired. Let's go to bed,
Today was really wonderful. My 30th b-day was the suck, so this made up for it.
Earlier today we took M to the park for his first time on the swings. I was so excited and he was having a blast. Then this little 5 or 6 year old girl came up and pushed her way in front of me and started trying to push him on the swing. She then followed us all over, kept touching him and grabbing his hands and face. I was getting really annoyed and didn't know what to do. What the heck? Where were her parents?
This is something the kid I was venting about would do. You have to just tell them to cut the behavior out, nicely first and firmly if they don't stop. Final tactic is pick up your toy, bike, kid, etc, and leave. It so frustrating when we just want to practice bike riding without the other kid darting all around, cutting DS off, etc, plus I don't want to be responsible for him when he doesn't listen. I've started having to take DS to the side street on the other side of the condo complex when we want to ride alone.
Just to make the day really super terrific and Amazing our power has now been out for over 90 minutes. Fanfuckingtastic! I've got house guests, an infant, and a husband who has to sleep with a breathing machine. This is going to be one long ass night.
Post by scribellesam on May 11, 2014 21:29:10 GMT -5
Just got back from my last minute Mother's Day "present" - a movie by myself. I saw Bears because it's about a mother bear and it seemed more fitting than my other choice, that Seth Rogen frat house movie. It was super cute but not really worth seeing in a theater. I should have banked my gift until Maleficent comes out! Oh well, the popcorn was delicious and I brought us home Coldstone for later.
Today has also been so-so. I went into it with low expectations, and got the same low-caliber day in return. DH didn't time anything properly, so he was doing something else (that he should have finished earlier) instead of making Mother's Day brunch for me & my mom (so I made it). He "couldn't handle" DS and the dog while cooking dinner, so I had to leave my comfy couch and wine to help. Welcome to EVERY NIGHT OF MY LIFE DH. It sucks, but somehow I do it!
On the bright side, I did get a nice card, roses, and there's chocolate cake later. The last one I bought myself, because priorities.
(Yes I'm quoting myself). DH spent the rest of the day being extremely pissy about god knows what. I called him out on it, he opened his mouth to say something but then clamped it shut (good call DH) and said "I'm just tired." Okaaay then. He proceeded to give me a perfunctory kiss and stomp upstairs. Good night to you too dude.
Over all our day was pretty good. We didn't do anything extravagant, just grabbed pizza downtown for lunch and I woke up to flowers next to the bed. I jokingly told H I didn't want to be on diaper duty today. I asked him to change a poopy diaper and it was like I asked him for a million dollars. He practically laughed at me. That didn't sit well with me. Other than that, great day!
Post by turtlegirl on May 11, 2014 22:25:44 GMT -5
DH was gone for 9 hours today doing homework at the school library. He walked in right at bedtime and I said, " you are putting them to bed!" And left the room.
It's been about 10 mins, so I'll probably wait a few more before checking and seeing how they are all doing.
I, uh... I did pretty well for myself today? Made waffles because I wanted to, mowed the lawn because I wanted to, finally got a bike because I've been figuring for months that I would only be able to exercise if I did it as part of my commute. I even got (myself) a nice necklace, labradorite, which I love.
Other people... I don't know. I just wish I didn't have to do this stuff for myself? It wasn't even that bad of a day once I got on my bike to ride home.
Post by waterchurch on May 11, 2014 23:59:51 GMT -5
Pretty good day. DH and DS had to go to two different donut shops because our usual place was closed. I got some pretty tulips too. Then we lounged around for a bit and went to a Renaissance Faire for the afternoon. It was windy and dusty, so we're filthy but it was fun. Some jugglers tossed flaming torches around DH and I ate a delicious artichoke. Then we came home and ate more donuts while watching Oliver & Company. Good day!
I, uh... I did pretty well for myself today? Made waffles because I wanted to, mowed the lawn because I wanted to, finally got a bike because I've been figuring for months that I would only be able to exercise if I did it as part of my commute. I even got (myself) a nice necklace, labradorite, which I love.
Other people... I don't know. I just wish I didn't have to do this stuff for myself? It wasn't even that bad of a day once I got on my bike to ride home.
I mean, I couldn't have done any of those things if he wasn't watching the baby or holding the monitor. So he uh helped me to help myself? Anyway GIRL STOP STARTING SHIT.
I, uh... I did pretty well for myself today? Made waffles because I wanted to, mowed the lawn because I wanted to, finally got a bike because I've been figuring for months that I would only be able to exercise if I did it as part of my commute. I even got (myself) a nice necklace, labradorite, which I love.
Other people... I don't know. I just wish I didn't have to do this stuff for myself? It wasn't even that bad of a day once I got on my bike to ride home.
So, for anyone keeping track - power finally came back on after being off for 7 hours. DS is wide awake (we all are ) at. 3:45 am. He's well fed, but just so thrown off , I'm sure.
Now, for the second time in less than a week I have to go through the fridge/freezer and determine what's salvageable. As soon as the power came back on I ran down to check the fridge and everything still felt cold. That's a sign everything is ok, right?? We never opened the door while it was out.
Who wants a cookie? Because J brought home a grocery bag full of them, from a local cookie company-the restaurant he works at gives them to moms on Mothers Day and they overordered this year. (Central Ohioans, yes I'm talking about Cheryl's) You best believe I was shoving three of them in my mouth when he got home from work at 2am. j is off today so I predict the rest will be history by tomorrow morning.
OMG yes. Leaving takes as long as the actual meal!
I've never heard this before but it is SO my IL's. I had rage when we were trying to leave brunch after Easter and they took like 30 minutes to go from table to car.
I had a great day but it started out rough. DH is never the issue, it's always my mom. She wanted to go out to the restaurant my where my little brother works, but it wouldn't have been good. No reservations, hours of wait times, across town. I had agreed the night before that we could go if we went early, like when they opened. I spent a good 30 minutes tip toeing around her in negotiations yesterday morning, she didn't want to go thaat early, her friend was going to be there with her son at 1....
Three small children, mom, three. If you want to see your friend, go with her, because no matter what you want, if it doesn't work for my kids, it's not going to be pleasant. But I bit my tongue, Mother's Day and all.
We went to church with the plan of grabbing coffee at my favorite place on the east side and then going to a park while my mom got to this shit hole early to wait for a table, calling us at the 30 minute mark for us to join her.
We were half way to the coffee shop when she called and had a complete change of heart. I don't know if my brother was really able to drill into her that it was going to be insane and not worth it or what, but she ended up just coming over to our house around 2:30, we picked up some filets and grilled out it was all around wonderful. Exactly what I wanted. I cooked everything, brunch for our little family and then dinner for us all, but DH did allllll the dishes and I love cooking so it worked out. I was able to have someone who cares about all my gardening and decor projects around to ooh and ahh over it, the kids napped well so I was able to get some deep cleaning accomplished. DH gave me my gift Saturday (a new bad ass washer! And he got a smoking deal on it, a man who knows me well ) and he was responsible for all cards this year so mine was cute, he mailed one to his mother all on his own and even picked out a nice one for my mom.
I need to know if UnderProtest got another orange coat this year.
Ugh. Ready for word vomit??? It wasn't an orange coat, but it was similarly thoughtless endeavor. So weeks ago he asked me what I wanted and I said a massage or spa day. Yes, I am one of those who wants to be away from the kids on Mother's Day. We just moved, the kids aren't in preschool anymore, I'm with them 24/7 and haven't been able to explore because it's hard to get around with a double stroller here. I just wanted some time alone and something to help my back given our uncomfortable new bed. He hasn't asked since then, but his coworker was talking about us needing to go out and we should see a show. He even volunteered to babysit. So my husband bought tickets to a show I have no interest in seeing without asking me if that is what I wanted to do on a Saturday night as my "Mother's Day present." Uhmmm, I told you what I wanted, I never mentioned wanting to see a show, much less a show of all music HE likes. I'm overwhelmed and shutting down and don't want to spend my child free time concentrating on something else. Oh, and his brilliant idea on Saturday afternoon was to walk all over the city so we got back to the house late, the kids didn't get a nap and we were rushing to get out the door to the show (which he knows drives me nuts). I love the idea of going out childless, but would have been much happier going to a nice dinner.
So then on Sunday morning he gets the kids up but then brings them to our room and leaves them with me while he takes a shower. So I end up feeding them breakfast, unloading the dishwasher and cleaning up the kitchen while he showers. Then he says he will take the kids to get a cake from a shop down the street which he doesn't know what they have or when it's open. Okay, whatever. So he takes the kids and I go to shower. He comes back with a bunch of different cupcakes, brownies and such and some flowers and a card. Uhm, yeah a little late buddy. Oh and then he asks me what I want to do. Well, I had told him I wanted to go to the department store for a new doormat, but his brilliant suggestions are the natural history museum or something else equally difficult. So yeah, we didn't do anything. He didn't plan anything for dinner and I had to research a place to go.
So we had yet another come to Jesus talk last night and he was so full of excuses. He tried to act like he didn't do the card, flowers, sweets thing completely last minute and he really had it all planned out. He claimed it was because he was sick all week. Having a man cold doesn't prevent you from using amazon or the internet. He said he thought I wanted to see the show despite my showing absolutely no indication of it. I flat out said that he asked me what I wanted and I told him and still he ignored it. Oh, and that life doesn't revolve around him and his work (yeah, our after show drink discussion was all about his job). Then the discussion spiraled into all the other ways he doesn't help (like figuring out the doctor thing or the preschool thing). All in all, it was a pretty bad day. I think I would have rather had another orange coat. At least it would have showed that he knew my love language is gifts. Blah, I sound like a bitch.
So, for anyone keeping track - power finally came back on after being off for 7 hours. DS is wide awake (we all are ) at. 3:45 am. He's well fed, but just so thrown off , I'm sure.
Now, for the second time in less than a week I have to go through the fridge/freezer and determine what's salvageable. As soon as the power came back on I ran down to check the fridge and everything still felt cold. That's a sign everything is ok, right?? We never opened the door while it was out.
If you didn't open the door, the fridge should be okay for 12 hours, the top of fridge-freezer combo is okay for 24, and a dedicated chest/upright freezer for 48. So I think you're fine.
-Signed, lives in an 1800s farmhouse who loses power all the goddamn time
You don't sound like a bitch UnderProtest! I would be annoyed too. I'm sorry you didn't get the day you wanted. I didn't either (see my two previous vents).
You don't sound like a bitch UnderProtest! I would be annoyed too. I'm sorry you didn't get the day you wanted. I didn't either (see my two previous vents).
What is with our husbands? Are they incapable of any sort of multitasking or a rational thought?