Freak outs

[blushing]

Do you ever have freak outs where you start to think to yourself 'What have I done?'? Please don't get me wrong, I am very happy to be pregnant, I wanted this desperately, but I have moments of weakness where I start to freak out.

We are a happy little family unit. DS is a really happy kid, and I then when I freak out I worry that I will mess up the dynamic of our family.

Am I making any sense?

I am hoping that it will be like when I was pregnant with DS, I could not imagine having a baby but once he was here I could not imagine life without him.

[mrssandro]

I wouldn't say freak out but I wonder how I am going to be able to manage two. Especially when DD is being a pill. I know there is going to be a major adjustment period and I have to just keep reminding myself that I will survive and billions of people have done it.

[vtdiamond]

Yup!!

DH and I were talking this weekend about what a HUGE adjustment it is going to be when the babies arrive.

[azurely]

No freak outs, but I do worry about how life will be with a baby and if we'll be good parents, and we TTC for 3.5 years and ended up doing IVF to get pregnant, so we had pleeeeenty of time to think about what we were getting ourselves into.

It's our first, and I worry about the lack of sleep, costs, going back to work post baby, and managing our time. I know it will be fine though, and we both want this baby more than anything, so any hard parts will be well worth it.

[aqualuv]

I hear you. I haven't had a complete freak out but I often think about how our life will change. We are having our first kid so it will be a huge adjustment. Plus we've been together for 12 years, and will be married for 7 years in August. We have been used to just us and our dog. I'm more nervous about how it will affect my work out schedule than anything. Lol!

[ewall]

Oh yeah. The anxiety hits me after my middle of the night wake up to pee. Just laying in bed, unable to sleep, thinking about everything that could possibly go wrong or poorly.

[silva]

for sure! We have a perfect soon to be 6 year old and I can't picture how this child will make our family. Of course it will all come together but it's hard to jump to the future when all you see is now.

[bluelikejazz]

Mostly I freak out when I think about labor/delivery/recovery - I don't know how well I'm going to do.

[gretchenindisguise]

Yup.

I have "holy shit, what have we done" moments just about daily.

[emsumm]

Oh yeah. Lol.
It'll be ok of there's just one.

[nessness]

Yep. We decided to TTC almost spur-of-the-moment, and then got pregnant right away so I definitely have moments of "what were we thinking? Why didn't we wait for XYZ?"

But in reality there's never a perfect time, and this time is as good as any for us.

[miss.colorado]

I haven't freaked out...yet. It's more along the lines of "are they sure?" Little nausea, good energy, and I mostly feel 100% normal. Other than super sore boobs, I often ask myself if this is real. Maybe when I start showing it'll feel more legit.

PS- we've had 2 U/S and I've seen the heartbeat twice...it's real!

[scribellesam]

Yes! Especially now that I know what I'm getting into, plus added anxiety for not knowing how we'll handle having a toddler and an infant at the same time. I'm happy for this pregnancy to go as slowly as possible.

[anna7602]

Yes. I had very few moments of true mommy guilt until recently. Working, leaving my kid overnight, feeding DD pre-packaged crap when time was short, etc., were all things I was able to do with a fairly clean conscience. But the idea of not being able to do a bunch of stuff I am used to doing solo with DD genuinely makes me feel sad and guilt-ridden. I have us "booked" to do all kinds of activities like go to the ballet together and travel out of town during my third trimester in an effort to assuage this guilt and get as much in before the baby is here.

I know that sharing me with a sibling will be a good life lesson for DD, but I'm anxious about how I will deal with sharing myself, if you know what I mean. Plus, it's just so much easier to do certain things with an older child than with a baby. The idea of having to travel with a darned infant car seat again kills me.

[bowies]

Yes, I freak out occasionally. It's going to be weird having another human in the house. I almost think this would have been easier if we had done it younger. I'm not a person who naturally gravitates towards kids or feels comfortable around them. So yeah, I'm afraid my kid's first word is going to be "PHONY!"

[pinotgrig]

Yep! I worry about being a good mom and maintaining a great relationship with h. Also, balancing being a mom and working FT and not being one of those moms who loses her identify and becomes nothing more than "so and so's mom".

There are definitely days I have mini panic attacks and have trouble believing anyone will let us actually take him home from the hospital. Lol

[Odonata]

I had one freak out. I remember it vividly - it came out of nowhere when I was cleaning my kitchen. I realized that I'm finally having a baby and there is absolutely no going back now. At all.

I freaked the hell out and couldn't breathe and had to sit down. It was like I changed my mind and really really really really wanted to go back. It lasted about 10 minute and I was able to calm myself down.

Which I don't get because I went through so much to get here and was before having a life crisis where I didn't know how I would live the rest of my life if I had to accept never having kids. I spent so much time worrying that I would miscarry this one, too, and here I was going "oh fuck! I can't ever go back!"

Other than that, I haven't freaked out that bad again. I do often worry about how life will change and think "god, what did we do, am I ready for this?" but it's more jitters than a total sense of dread and regret.

[anaps28]

I am a little worried. My DS has A LOT of energy. He talks non stop and is always on the move. I had zero patience before I had him and now I would say I have a little more patience but I still get frustrated or frazzled easy sometimes. I am nervous about how I'm going to be there for him and the demands of a newborn but people do it all the time so I guess I will survive.

[Odonata]

May 12, 2014 10:58:49 GMT -5 bluelikejazz said:

Mostly I freak out when I think about labor/delivery/recovery - I don't know how well I'm going to do.

I have this as well but then I started paying more attention when I'm out to women walking around with small infants and I think "look, that woman went through L&D not too long ago and here she is, fine, walking around.  

My friend just gave birth last week and she was also freaking out about L&D.  But she did it so she's on the list of "see?  she did it and she's just fine."

Sometimes I see women REALLY younger than me and I think "if they can do it, I can".  

It's something we all gotta go through at some point - and as long as there is a healthy mom and baby at the end, I would consider that as doing "well".  (Even if i end up screaming obscenities so loud they can hear me down the hallway and abandon all grace during the process, haha)

[gretchenindisguise]

May 12, 2014 14:23:13 GMT -5 Odonata said:

May 12, 2014 10:58:49 GMT -5 bluelikejazz said:

Mostly I freak out when I think about labor/delivery/recovery - I don't know how well I'm going to do.

I have this as well but then I started paying more attention when I'm out to women walking around with small infants and I think "look, that woman went through L&D not too long ago and here she is, fine, walking around.  

My friend just gave birth last week and she was also freaking out about L&D.  But she did it so she's on the list of "see?  she did it and she's just fine."

Sometimes I see women REALLY younger than me and I think "if they can do it, I can".  

It's something we all gotta go through at some point - and as long as there is a healthy mom and baby at the end, I would consider that as doing "well".  (Even if i end up screaming obscenities so loud they can hear me down the hallway and abandon all grace during the process, haha)

I watched a lot of 16 and pregnant when I was pregnant with L and always thought "dude, if these girls can do it - I can do it no problem."

[gretchenindisguise]

May 12, 2014 11:19:42 GMT -5 emsumm said:

Oh yeah. Lol.
It'll be ok of there's just one.

Did I miss an announcement?!

[Deleted]

I had a freak out about a couple of weeks ago thinking "omg, what have I done? I have never held a newborn baby before, I am surely going to drop my child. What have I doneeeeeeeee!!!"

[KaraOrNot]

Yes, pretty much everytime I think about it. Actually, my first thought after getting a positive test was "what did we do?" And we had been trying for a long time and I wanted this more to anything. I just think that it is too hard to imagine what birth and life after baby will be like, so I freak out over the unknown.

gretchenindisguise  - The 16 and Pregnant thing is one of the things that calms me down.  I had stopped watching it, but started again once I found out. If they can do it, so can we! 

[zarapipe]

Definately. We are perfect with dd. I wonder, other than the obvious reason that we want a other child, why did we do this. Are we messing with something great, are we screwing up a good thing that we have, etc.

[mrspost08]

I completely understand!!! Last night I was laying in bed & I got scared. I have these moments where I get this homesick feeling (only way I know how to describe it). I get worried with having a baby our lives will be nuts.

[phdprocrastinator]

Yes! I think it's made worse because, despite feeling gross all the time, I keep forgetting that I'm pregnant. Then I remember and freak out that we're totally not ready for this. It's going to rock DD's world. I'm going to be working full time soon after baby arrives (I'm currently a student) and won't be able to dedicate as much time to mothering. What have we done?!?!?!