s/o breastfeeding-- wwyd?

[212]

I have an out of town bachelorette party this weekend. I'm still nursing my 21 month old (2-4 times/day) and I haven't pumped since I was away in December. I can leave the pump at home, right? I really don't want to pump around this crowd (I'd be mocked), but I also don't want my tits to explode.

Any suggestions?

[Deleted]

Hand pump along just in case. Pump and dump in bathroom?

[212]

May 12, 2014 20:30:10 GMT -5 @ojo said:

Do you have a hand pump or are you efficient at hand expressing if the need arises?

I'm giving the stink eye to the fuckers who would mock this.

I have a hand pump (somewhere in the rubble of the move) that I can try to find. I'm not a bad hand expresser, but I'm definitely not what I'd call "efficient." Or tidy, for that matter.

A few attending this weekend were at another bach party last summer (when I had a 12 month old) and I was openly ridiculed. It fucking sucked and I regretted attending. I'm a bridesmaid, and it's a different group dynamic, but I'm sure it will be even worse if those people catch wind.

[Deleted]

Ditto a manual pump. I have a Medela Harmony, it breaks apart small, and easily fit into my purse.

And fuck those "friends", what a bunch of assholes. Sorry, I know they're you're friends (supposedly), but it doesn't sound like they actually are.

[chicago]

I have nothing to contribute, but why do you hang out with people who'd mock you for breastfeeding?  I don't say that in a judgmental way, it just sounds like they might be assholes.

[212]

May 12, 2014 21:01:17 GMT -5 chicago said:

I have nothing to contribute, but why do you hang out with people who'd mock you for breastfeeding?

They're not my friends! It's not my bachelorette party, I can't dictate who is invited. I didn't expect the judgment last summer (I wouldn't have attended), and I'm a bridesmaid in this current situation. Trust me, these people are not my friends.

[cinco]

I was usually fine with hand expressing in the shower, but brought the hand pump just in case. I used it when I went away for 4 days, but on shorter trips I never had to (once my kids were 18m+)

[212]

May 12, 2014 21:00:33 GMT -5 @supergreen said:

Ditto a manual pump. I have a Medela Harmony, it breaks apart small, and easily fit into my purse.

And fuck those "friends", what a bunch of assholes. Sorry, I know they're you're friends (supposedly), but it doesn't sound like they actually are.

Nope, not my friends. You're safe in labeling them assholes. Haha.

[curbsideprophet]

I would definitely bring a pump. I don't think you would need to pump often so hopefully you could do it without much hassle.

[Jalapeñomel]

May 12, 2014 20:38:23 GMT -5 212 said:

May 12, 2014 20:30:10 GMT -5 @ojo said:

Do you have a hand pump or are you efficient at hand expressing if the need arises?

I'm giving the stink eye to the fuckers who would mock this.

I have a hand pump (somewhere in the rubble of the move) that I can try to find. I'm not a bad hand expresser, but I'm definitely not what I'd call "efficient." Or tidy, for that matter.

A few attending this weekend were at another bach party last summer (when I had a 12 month old) and I was openly ridiculed. It fucking sucked and I regretted attending. I'm a bridesmaid, and it's a different group dynamic, but I'm sure it will be even worse if those people catch wind.

Those women are assholes.

[h]

I went away for a girls weekend when DS2 was around the same age and nursing the same amount, and I still took a pump and pumped once a day. I would be nervous to travel without a pump if your kiddo is still nursing 2-4 times daily.

If these people are judgmental and you don't want to subject yourself to their ridicule, pump in the bathroom. But if you know they suck and they aren't even your friends, then just brush it off if they mock you. You certainly shouldn't walk around with painfully engorged breasts because of the opinions of some bitchy, uninformed women you don't even like. They sound horrible, so chances are they will do something that annoys you over the course of the weekend regardless.

Who are these people? Is this a family member's wedding or is the bride a friend who has willingly chosen these people as her other friends? Because the latter would have me seriously questioning said friend.

[CloudBee]

Find your hand pump, or grab one somewhere. Keep it in your purse.

[AHappierHour]

Who cares what those Snots think. I would bring my pump and go about my business. It will be faster then hand pumping and you will feel better.

[212]

May 13, 2014 9:27:38 GMT -5 h said:

Who are these people? Is this a family member's wedding or is the bride a friend who has willingly chosen these people as her other friends? Because the latter would have me seriously questioning said friend.

Bride is a friend. We grew up together but ran in different circles and became very close when she moved here after college. These are her friends from childhood...we all grew up together but like I said, these are not my friends. Lol. I'm the only one with a kid, so a few are just clueless and insensitive and assholey.

[lilac05]

May 13, 2014 9:41:44 GMT -5 AHappierHour said:

Who cares what those Snots think. I would bring my pump and go about my business. It will be faster then hand pumping and you will feel better.

This is what I would do.  I'd rather ignore idiots than spend extra time hand expressing or feeling uncomfortable...or risk a clogged duct/mastitis.  Can you get your own hotel room?  
It makes me angry that anyone would be openly ridiculed for pumping!  I understand that not everyone "gets" extended Breastfeeding, but keep your opinions to yourself!

[karinothing]

I went away on a girls weekend around 25 months, DS only nursed once a day at that point. I did not bring a pump and I was fine, I had no issues. Since he is nursing 4 times a day though, you might have more milk than I did

[212]

May 13, 2014 9:46:35 GMT -5 lilac05 said:

May 13, 2014 9:41:44 GMT -5 AHappierHour said:

Who cares what those Snots think. I would bring my pump and go about my business. It will be faster then hand pumping and you will feel better.

This is what I would do.  I'd rather ignore idiots than spend extra time hand expressing or feeling uncomfortable...or risk a clogged duct/mastitis.  Can you get your own hotel room?  
It makes me angry that anyone would be openly ridiculed for pumping!  I understand that not everyone "gets" extended Breastfeeding, but keep your opinions to yourself!

I wish-- we're staying in a house allllllllll together. Doesn't this sound fun?

I called the MOH this morning (I didn't want to put the bride in the middle of this) and requested a room far away from the common area. I'm bringing my pump. You girls are right. Fuck. Them.

[londoncalling]

Good for you for bringing your pump. 2-4 times per day could still be a lot of milk to not get out. You don't want to make yourself uncomfortable, or get a clogged duct or mastitis because of those bitches. You're 1000000% right. fuck. them.

[mswax]

Honestly, I don't know if you are ready to wean, but if not I'd pump just to keep your supply up. I also think that if you are still nursing 3-4 times a day, you will need to pump to avaid engorgement issues.

Good luck, and screw anyone who gives you a hard time!

[Ashley&Scott]

May 12, 2014 20:30:10 GMT -5 @ojo said:

Do you have a hand pump or are you efficient at hand expressing if the need arises?

I'm giving the stink eye to the fuckers who would mock this.

This!

[Deleted]

May 13, 2014 9:50:54 GMT -5 212 said:

I called the MOH this morning (I didn't want to put the bride in the middle of this) and requested a room far away from the common area. I'm bringing my pump. You girls are right. Fuck. Them.

[pig's eye]

WTF? Who mocks someone for pumping?? Fuck those girls. 

I'm going away for three nights at the end of the summer and plan on bringing my pump if DD2 is still  nursing. Right now she nurses 3-4 times a day during the workdays and more than that on the weekends when I'm with her. I'd rather pump a few times than be engorged. That shit hurts!

[meltoine]

Glad you decided to bring it. I went away for a weekend when DS1 was about that age. I pumped 2x on Saturday, then when I got up to drive home on Sunday I said "fuck it" because I didn't feel like it and I was going home to nurse him anyway.

Big mistake. My breasts nearly exploded on the way.

Who cares what your friends think. You do you.