I understand that a complete picture can't be painted in a short post but even when the OP came back and said, no tone and context made it clear, people are still like, you took it wrong. Ummmmm, ok.
I'm sorry she got her feelings hurt. But really, life is too damn short to be so sensitive about every comment people make in here and IRL.
I just feel like there's a lot of "Soandso said" on here lately and someone is all upset Why? What for? I mean really who cares? If I didn't let half the sh*t go people tell me about my parenting or life in general I'd never sleep at night. Even in my real life I try to assume people mean well and are just trying to help me out, not take everything people tell me the complete "bad" way off the bat.
And we talk all day long about supporting other moms, not tearing them down etc. etc. blah blah. But then someone hands out some advice or talks about what's useful to them and all of a sudden they're the "mean girl." I don't get it. Why do people to tend to assume that their "right" is "automatically" your wrong. Spinning someone else's advice the wrong way isn't supportive either.
I learned a long time ago on here that if I don't want the advice, I don't ask for it.
And this place is tame. Shall we remember the Bump?
A-freaking-men.
Half the time I don't even post what I am thinking in response to posts, because it's generally a chill the eff out post, this really isn't a big deal.
The further along I get into life and into parenting, the more I've learned to nod, smile, and move on. If an opinion contradicts yours, so be it.
Post by curbsideprophet on May 13, 2014 19:15:12 GMT -5
I think the biggest problem with this post is the title. If you had said weaning vent or someone shamed me for weaning you would have gotten different replies.
You were not shamed for breastfeeding, so everyone latched on to that.
Sorry you felt like she was shaming you. I agree that she had no way to know you want to wean based on what you said.
I weaned DD myself (when she would have been happy to keep nursing) and would probably still say something like "sometimes they're just not ready to stop" to another mom who was experiencing frustration at the weaning process. I still don't get how that's judgmental of someone not letting the child direct the weaning process? I really do think there are kids who don't want to stop nursing, without this being any indication of whether their mothers did things "right" or "wrong."
Maybe this is a bitch eating crackers situation if the woman just oozes self-importance all the time.
ETA: sorry, @dontcallmeshirley1, you called bitch eating crackers first. I didn't notice until I hit post on my reply.
I weaned DD myself (when she would have been happy to keep nursing)
This is off topic, but the other morning I decided to drop the wake up nursing session, and as M tried to convince me it was bedtime, I thought of your struggle with dropping the morning session. Thanks for sharing back then, because it helped.