Bridesmaid dress related-would this be weird?

[eliza22]

I'm in a friend's wedding in a few months and she told me I could choose my dress. I have a bridesmaid dress from another friend's wedding that I think would be perfect but feel a little weird about asking her if that would be ok? (The two friends are also friends but there would probably only be a few people that attend both weddings and the first wedding I wore it in was 6 or 7 years ago.)
I honestly don't mind buying something new but this dress is so obviously perfect.
Weird to re-wear or acceptable?

[bimbi284]

I think since it was 6-7 years ago it should be fine as long as the bride doesn't mind.

[NachoProblem]

If she told you that you could pick your own dress, I think that means that it's a possibility you would wear something you already had. Did she give you a color guideline? If I was the bride I wouldn't care.

[glw]

I don't think that would be weird.

[mrssavy42112]

I don't think it's weird at all. I told my BM to pick out any dress in pink & she also had a pink dress from a previous wedding. I had no problem with it. She decided to get it altered & change the shape a bit because she wasn't 100% crazy about it, but loved it once tailored. Why should I make her spend more $ just because it was in someone else's wedding? I can't hurt to ask the bride.

[magdala9]

If I were the bride, I would mind. For that reason, I would not ask my friend and would buy a new dress.

[eliza22]

Thanks for all the input, I appreciate it!

[wazup]

Jul 16, 2012 15:52:17 GMT -5 magdala9 said:

If I were the bride, I would mind. For that reason, I would not ask my friend and would buy a new dress.

Why would you mind? Just curious.

[fashionx]

I wouldn't mind. I am guessing that brides who let their bridesmaids choose any dress are more laid back about that aspect of their wedding, and wouldn't mind. It doesn't hurt to ask, but I don't think it's a big deal, especially with such a huge gap in between the 2 friends' weddings. No one other than the other bride (maybe) will recognize what dress you wore.

[futurepivko]

The first wedding was 6-7 years ago..is it a classic style?

I wouldn't mind, if I was the bride.

[eliza22]

The first wedding was 6-7 years ago..is it a classic style?

Yes, the dress is very plain and classic.

[karebear304]

I wouldn't mind as the bride, but I told my girls to pick their dress (there were only two of them so they did match).

I think you could do different accessories and it would be totally fine.

[mrsacornblue]

I think it's fine. Those dresses are so expensive and if you already have a dress that will work and you like, wear it again. I'm not sure why the bride would even care...

[onomatopoeia]

Jul 16, 2012 16:32:37 GMT -5 wazup said:

Jul 16, 2012 15:52:17 GMT -5 magdala9 said:

If I were the bride, I would mind. For that reason, I would not ask my friend and would buy a new dress.

Why would you mind? Just curious.

I can't speak for Magdala, but some brides might feel it was more of "I'll just wear this old thing" (indicating a lack of effort), rather than the fact that you really felt it would be the perfect dress. I don't see anything wrong with asking your friend if it's okay with her though, emphasizing that you think it would be just right.

[peach]

The bride whose wedding you wore it in first would be the one I would worry about. I would be shocked and maybe a bit annoyed if I went to a wedding and the bridesmaid was wearing a dress recycled from my wedding.

[bimbi284]

Jul 17, 2012 13:15:00 GMT -5 peach said:

The bride whose wedding you wore it in first would be the one I would worry about. I would be shocked and maybe a bit annoyed if I went to a wedding and the bridesmaid was wearing a dress recycled from my wedding.

Really??

I would be flattered that she actually liked the dress I chose so much that she is wearing it more than once! If I were the bride from the first wedding, I would be really excited to see you wearing it again.

[awick14]

Jul 17, 2012 13:17:04 GMT -5 bimbi284 said:

Really??

I would be flattered that she actually liked the dress I chose so much that she is wearing it more than once! If I were the bride from the first wedding, I would be really excited to see you wearing it again.

I agree with this. The dresses I chose for my bridesmaids were chosen so they would wear the dress again. (all the girls loved the dresses) I would be so happy if I saw them wearing it again, in another wedding or not.

[mrssavy42112]

Jul 17, 2012 13:15:00 GMT -5 peach said:

The bride whose wedding you wore it in first would be the one I would worry about. I would be shocked and maybe a bit annoyed if I went to a wedding and the bridesmaid was wearing a dress recycled from my wedding.

Really? This puzzles me. I know that my MOH has worn her dress since then for events & since she's pretty broke, I'm sure she'll try to wear it in someone else's wedding if asked. I don't see the issue. It's not like it's a custom made, one-of-a-kind piece that people will KNOW came from my wedding. It's a dress that millions of other people have the access to buy. So if anyone actually had a strong enough memory to know she wore it to my wedding, they wouldn't really know it was the exact same dress from that day.