Dmnds just doesn't stop

[prettyinpearls]

SMH because that's all I can do.

community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/67262854.aspx

[sparkles17]

I know that this is pretty much understood, but there is seriously something wrong with that girl.

[dakotadangerdog]

LOL Good response PiP. I like how she ran away. What a pussy. When will she learn?

Oh, that's right. Never.

[roselis]

Nope, I don't think she will.

[bowies]

The idea that sometimes you need a man to get over another one is a load of bullshit. I hate that someone said that to her, because that will be what she gloms on to. She's such a co-dependent mess.

If I was her XFI, I'd sue for custody.

[formerlyak]

That post is still going? I responded to it sometime last week! She is a nutbag!

[Deleted]

I don't have kids so perhaps my view is off but do both parents really need to be at the childs immunization? It's not like he is graduating HS or getting married or anything, the kid is getting a shot! I don't see why the father (or anyone except her for that matter) need to be there.

[roselis]

Jul 17, 2012 7:11:59 GMT -5 @kjewell said:

I don't have kids so perhaps my view is off but do both parents really need to be at the childs immunization? It's not like he is graduating HS or getting married or anything, the kid is getting a shot! I don't see why the father (or anyone except her for that matter) need to be there.

I always let XH know when DS's appointments are. We both like to be there for them. Mostly so we can both get the information from the dr and ask any questions. While we do pass on the info to the other parent if they can't be there, there is always something that will be missed or a question not asked, or something. It's easier if both parents are there in my opinon.

[doriswe]

Jul 17, 2012 7:11:59 GMT -5 @kjewell said:

I don't have kids so perhaps my view is off but do both parents really need to be at the childs immunization? It's not like he is graduating HS or getting married or anything, the kid is getting a shot! I don't see why the father (or anyone except her for that matter) need to be there.

I've always taken my kids to appointments alone, with the exception of one when XH and I went to talk to the doctor about DS's ADD, because we both needed to be on the same page with meds and stuff.

I think it's a little ridiculous to invite others along to that type of appointment.

[prettyinpearls]

Jul 17, 2012 7:34:55 GMT -5 @roselis said:

Jul 17, 2012 7:11:59 GMT -5 @kjewell said:

I don't have kids so perhaps my view is off but do both parents really need to be at the childs immunization? It's not like he is graduating HS or getting married or anything, the kid is getting a shot! I don't see why the father (or anyone except her for that matter) need to be there.

I always let XH know when DS's appointments are. We both like to be there for them. Mostly so we can both get the information from the dr and ask any questions. While we do pass on the info to the other parent if they can't be there, there is always something that will be missed or a question not asked, or something. It's easier if both parents are there in my opinon.

I don't bother to let XH know if DS has an appt, because I know he won't make the effort to come. He knows when DS' birthday is, and he should know he'll have a checkup in the week or two surrounding that date. He's free to reach out to me to confirm the appointment so he can attend, but that's his responsibility. He also has full access to DS' medical records at the doctor, so he's free to look up any information as he feels necessary. Of course he never does this, but he does have that option.

IMO, there's no reason for both parents to be present at a routine doctor's visit, ESPECIALLY in her situation where there is so much animosity and drama. And what chaps my ass with her is the damn double standard of how her BF can be at the appointment but her X's GF can't be there.

[roselis]

Jul 17, 2012 7:45:57 GMT -5 prettyinpearls said:

Jul 17, 2012 7:34:55 GMT -5 @roselis said:

I always let XH know when DS's appointments are. We both like to be there for them. Mostly so we can both get the information from the dr and ask any questions. While we do pass on the info to the other parent if they can't be there, there is always something that will be missed or a question not asked, or something. It's easier if both parents are there in my opinon.

I don't bother to let XH know if DS has an appt, because I know he won't make the effort to come. He knows when DS' birthday is, and he should know he'll have a checkup in the week or two surrounding that date. He's free to reach out to me to confirm the appointment so he can attend, but that's his responsibility. He also has full access to DS' medical records at the doctor, so he's free to look up any information as he feels necessary. Of course he never does this, but he does have that option.

IMO, there's no reason for both parents to be present at a routine doctor's visit, ESPECIALLY in her situation where there is so much animosity and drama. And what chaps my ass with her is the damn double standard of how her BF can be at the appointment but her X's GF can't be there.

I agree with the bolded part completely. It has been a year. She needs to work on moving on. My XH had an affair too. He is with her still too. I look at what she says and wonder how she can still be THAT angry. XH doesn't bring his GF to the appts and I won't bring a BF to the appts. DS is our son and we are the ones that need to know what the dr says, not them. I can understand not wanting the GF there, but I agree that her BF does not need to be there either.

[jojoandleo]

I hate how she puts so much blame on the OW. She had no commitment to DMNDS, and you never know what he told the OW (They were breaking up, she was a crazy psycho-which let's face it, is true). She is clinging to ANYTHING to keep XFI in her life. There is no reason he has to come to the immunizations. Sure, invite him, if he wants to come fine. With her,though, if he doesn't come, it means he doesn't care about their son. It's not major surgery! She needs a new therapist, but i bet you 1 million GBCN dollars she doesn't tell her therapist the truth/leaves shit out. Is it fine for her to still be hurt, sure, but she's not just hurt, she is actively making his, the OW, and probably her child's lives miserable. Also, any therapist worth her degree would know this woman needs to be single. You can't move on and date when you are still so obviously obsessed with your ex. She needs to get some self-worth and move on first.

P.S.-she is still dating the guy who shared a bed with his teenage daughter/she sat on his lap and they had a generally inappropriate relationship, correct?

[doriswe]

Jul 17, 2012 8:03:14 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

P.S.-she is still dating the guy who shared a bed with his teenage daughter/she sat on his lap and they had a generally inappropriate relationship, correct?

She is...and she talks about how her bf is a better dad to her kid than her X.

[jojoandleo]

Jul 17, 2012 8:39:16 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Jul 17, 2012 8:03:14 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

P.S.-she is still dating the guy who shared a bed with his teenage daughter/she sat on his lap and they had a generally inappropriate relationship, correct?

She is...and she talks about how her bf is a better dad to her kid than her X.

OF COURSE he is a better dad! HE goes to the immunizations and doesn't bring the OW.

I also love how she is all "HOW COULD HE DO THIS TO ME!?!" When XFI has kids from another women and she didn't care about THAT family breaking up and not being a "core family".

All in all, I feel bad for her son. You know she is the type that when they go for the immunizations she will say to him, "I guess your father doesn't care about you enough to come. He is probably too busy with his WHORE!" She makes me shanky.

[belichick]

Jul 17, 2012 8:35:01 GMT -5 Cloverfield said:

can you c&p for those of us that cant see thenest/bump

How did you stop caring?

It has been close to a year since my break up. I loved my exfi with everything I am. Yes, we had problems, but I always thought all couples had disagreements and we would work through it. In fact a few months before things ended he gave me a card for mothers day that said our love woud get us through anything.

When he left me I went into such a deep depression. I'm in couseling and in the beginning took anxitey meds.

Everytime I have to see him, or argue with him, or see his GF it more frequently than not just takes me back to the devastation I felt a year ago. I am just so tired of hurting.

Today my son has an appt for his immunizations. I sent my ex a calendar meeting request for this about a month ago and never heard a thing from him. I don't know if he will be there or not. And I certainly hope if he is he doesn't bring his GF. Most likely he won't show up so instead of my son's dad being there for him it will be me and my BF. I just wish I could accept the way things are but I was so set on having a nuclear family where the mom and dad raise their children together.


She then goes on about how yes, she is super dependent on her bf, but that's ok. That he is welcome at Dr's appointments but the gf of her ex is not and that she thinks a judge will agree since she was the 'other woman'

To answer a PP's question about both parents at Dr's appointments - I find it weird. I am married & we have 3 kids, one takes the child with the appointment, the other stays home with the other two kids. I understand a couple that's not together won't have the same communication that we do, but I still don't get being super worked up over it.

[turtle1120]

Jul 17, 2012 7:11:59 GMT -5 @kjewell said:

I don't have kids so perhaps my view is off but do both parents really need to be at the childs immunization? It's not like he is graduating HS or getting married or anything, the kid is getting a shot! I don't see why the father (or anyone except her for that matter) need to be there.

No, there's no need for people to attend routine appointments. The only exception I could see would be if the child had some sort of medical condition and required special treatment and both parents wanted to hear opinions and discuss options/treatments with the doctor.

My Ex has never once attended an appointment, asked how one went, etc., so I don't bother informing him because he doesn't seem interested. If he asked, I wouldn't have much to report anyways. Again, if there was a problem or concern with DD's health I'd let him know.

IMO neither Dmnds BF or baby daddy's GF have any business being at the appointment. If both parents need to be there, fine, I guess they have the right. SO's shouldn't be going.

[jojoandleo]

Jul 17, 2012 10:20:30 GMT -5 belichick said:

Jul 17, 2012 8:35:01 GMT -5 Cloverfield said:

can you c&p for those of us that cant see thenest/bump

To answer a PP's question about both parents at Dr's appointments - I find it weird. I am married & we have 3 kids, one takes the child with the appointment, the other stays home with the other two kids. I understand a couple that's not together won't have the same communication that we do, but I still don't get being super worked up over it.

But, if he doesn't show, then he isn't there for his son! Immunizations are a big deal, yo!