OMG what a doucher. And a huge PITA for you. So sorry this happened. I'm glad you're getting him to pay most of it back, but his comment about 'talk nice' or he won't pay, pffft, I'd kick him in the balls for you if I could. That's just his way of trying to hold something over you and show you he's in control. A grown up version of neener-neener.
I had a similar thing during my split. We had a joint money market account. It was technically my account, but his name had to be on it since he was the one that made a majority of the stock trades for me. When I was 'giving him space' and staying in another town for a short period, it finally got back to me through friends and family that he was telling them all we were done. So of course, in an effort to save my money, I tried to put a hold on the account so that he couldn't drain it. But being that I didn't have my account number with me (stupid move on my part #1), they wouldn't allow me to do that without going into a branch in person. The closest one was 2.5 hours away.
Stupid move #2, I texted him asking for my account number. As soon as I sent that text I realized I shouldn't have done that. He told me he was out of the house most of the day and would get it to me that evening. Yeah right. Within minutes I was in the car on the way to that closest branch. I told them the situation, that I was afraid he'd try to transfer money and I needed a hold put on immediately. They confirmed my balance, put on the hold, but as I'm walking out to my car, one of them comes running after me. They just saw in their system that he had pretty much drained everything out of the account...5 minutes after I texted him. Dirty SOB.
Anyway, ramble ramble... I hope you get the money back soon and get that account closed down right away!
Hmm yeah, as much as he is an ass, he could pretty much say that he wont give you a penny for it and you would have to suck it up.
Chalk it up to not wanting to rock the boat. Close the account and process child support through the state. Wage garnishment is a beautiful I tell you!
Post by usedtobebear on Jul 17, 2012 10:21:43 GMT -5
I am sorry you are dealing with that, he sounds like he's just trying to make your life hard. You did teach me a lesson, I haven't taken DH off my account, I always assume that he doesn't know how to access them anyway, but I really should do it pronto.