June Moms - come in!

[pinotgrig]

So this whole "we're having a baby thing" is really starting to hit home. I've had a few mini freak outs the last few days that in just a few short weeks we will have a baby. A tiny person. Who probably won't sleep well (though I can dream, right?). And will completely change our lives. I'm thrilled but the reality is really starting to set in.

Other than that, out nursery is almost complete and we have so much stuff that finding places for it all is challenging.

I'm feeling great and my only complaints are swollen feet and hands. I have 3 pairs of shoes that fit now and can't wear my wedding rings. I am feeling a little anxious about my weight gain - it's somewhere around 40 lbs. :/ I honestly don't know where it's gone but am hoping it comes off quickly.

How are you feeling these days? Are you ready? Any other musings/rambling are welcome too!

[missbella]

It has definitely hit me in the last week that this is really going to happen. It's not just something we are talking about, it is real.

My shower is this weekend so I am looking forward to that and then plan on spending the next week washing, sorting, and organizing the nursery.

I have been feeling pretty good. The only things that are really bothering me are the fact that he is big and likes to stick his butt up against my rib cage which is pretty uncomfortable and my pubic bone/pelvis are sore when I try to roll over at night or get up off the couch.

People keep asking me if I'm ready for him to come and I'm like, "No." I'm not quite ready for him to be an outside baby yet, or to go through labor. Hopefully that changes in the next couple weeks.

[narockshard]

It is definitely crazy to think that next month we will have a tiny human to take care of all by ourselves. I still can't really wrap my mind around it!

We are about half ready with baby stuff, but the rest of what we have to do is nothing hard or too time consuming so I'm not really worried about it. I'm confident it'll get done in the next few weeks (I still have 6ish weeks to go). This includes installing the car seat, buying the rest of the stuff needed for baby and nursery (I plan on doing 1 big online order, so nothing difficult!), packing our hospital bags/making a list of the stuff to bring along, and finishing projects around the house. This is the part I'm most anxious about, I just want to have the house clean and in order before baby comes.

I'm having more rough days in the 3rd tri than I've had this whole pregnancy, although I know it could still be worse and overall I'm trying to keep a positive attitude. I'm much more emotional these days, but maybe it's all tied in to the fact that physically things are just rough right now. My pelvic area and hips hurt pretty constantly, I get winded really easily, and I can't be on my feet for very long without getting super tired or my feet hurting. They are now also swollen and look so bad lol. I used to like my ankles, and now I don't have any It's also super frustrating that due to the physical stuff I can't keep up with housework like I want to, and my messy house is driving me insane. That's probably the worst part; I just want a clean house dangit!

All that being said, I think there's a purpose in the pain because I'm actually looking forward to labor and delivery; I don't feel scared about it anymore. It will be bittersweet to not have him/her rolling around inside of me though. I know I'll really miss the closeness we have now. Despite all the discomfort, I love this connection with my baby!

[D2M]

37 weeks today, exactly! Gah! I am wearing one of my formerly flowy maternity tops today and it is practically spray painted onto my belly. I don't know how I managed to get even bigger than I was a few weeks ago. I feel mostly really good but baby dropped over the weekend, and it feels like there's an anvil sitting on my pubic bone. Walking is becoming... amusing. I feel REALLY good walking up stairs, though, probably because it opens my hips up a lot. My ILs gave me $ for pampering myself and I had a prenatal massage last night, which was magical.

As far as stuff, we have almost everything we need for the baby, except for diapers, wipes, and butt cream.

In the next few weeks, I'm trying to hang out with friends as much as possible because I imagine I'm going to be sequestered for a while. My social calendar is filling up fast. narockshard, I hear you on wanting everything spic and span before baby gets here. I went on a major purging tear at the beginning of the year and did a thorough spring cleaning a few weeks ago, but I'm losing steam on daily picking up. I'm calling my friend's housekeeper to come in for a one-time deep clean a week or so before my due date.

BTW, what's everyone's due date? I know I can look at that sticky thread, but I'm lazy. I'm June 5.

[pinotgrig]

narockshard - I hear you on the feet thing. I cannot wait to see my ankles again!!

My due date is June 20th. It seemed so far away in September... But here we are. Lol


@d2m - you are getting close! And you seem so calm!

[narockshard]

I'm due June 24. And D2M, I hear you on the maternity clothes! I never anticipated how big the belly could actually get. Shirts that I bought when I first started showing and I thought were way too big are now too small and short. I've also had to start wearing my husbands t-shirts for around the house because my old baggy t-shirts don't even fit! I probably need to reassess my clothes for the next few weeks and as much as I don't want to have to buy more, I might have no choice. There's still 6 weeks of growing to go :?

[pinotgrig]

I've been wearing H's t-shirts and pj pants for several weeks now. They're so comfy but even the medium shirts are staring to get really tight and don't completely cover the bottom part of my belly. :/

I absolutely refuse to buy more maternity clothes, though. Lol

[bowies]

I'm early July, but I'm answering anyways since I could have a June baby if he decides that 38 weeks is long enough.

I'm not remotely ready for him. It stresses me out that we don't really have any supplies for him. Not a single diaper, not a single wipe. We're holding out on purchases until after the baby shower, which isn't until June 1. It's a brunch shower (I think?) so immediately after it ends we'll probably drive over to BRU and go nuts. That's probably tacky as hell, but I need to feel prepared to lower my anxiety. I'm also constantly crunching our budget numbers so I feel comfortable with the idea of taking roughly 2 months unpaid leave.

Physically, I'd be happy to give birth at any point. I hit a wall a few days ago where I finally "got" how miserable my body can feel. The couch throw pillows have been moved to our bed so I can sleep at a big incline. My pelvis hurts all.the.time. He's located my ribs finally and sticks his feet under them. He's active a lot now and always at the worst times.

There's been a lot of good things with the pregnancy and I've mostly enjoyed it. I'd do it again. I could have done without the second tri drama with my client, but she's chilled out recently. Maybe she just needed to adjust. Or, more likely, she knows we're nearing the end of our tenure together and doesn't feel the need to assert herself anymore. Regardless, I'll be spending some time updating my resume, completing some certs, and applying for new jobs during my maternity leave. My H has a really flexible job, so he can take a day at home if I need to go take an exam or something. I've been with my company for 9 years and I'm ready for a change.

The only source of drama these days is between me and my mom. I don't want to get into it too much, but we're currently not on speaking terms. She's been completely uninterested in my pregnancy and only surface-level interested in the baby. She won't attend the shower (actually laughed at the very idea) and keeps cancelling trips/future plans with bullshit excuses. I need some time/distance to figure out how best to handle the situation, but I do feel some pressure to get it done before D Day. I'm very hurt and very angry, so I'm waiting until I can mellow out a bit. My hormones aren't making that easy, LOL.

Sorry for the novel I just wrote.

[pinotgrig]

Hugs bowies - you have a lot on your plate right now and are free to vent here anytime!

[narockshard]

bowies-I'm so sorry about your mom situation It's always sad to have a rough relationship with your mother, but it's got to be especially rough during pregnancy.

[bowies]

Thanks guys. I heavily suspect this isn't just a personality clash, but the start of some aging issues. My dad is too close to the forest to see the trees, I can't travel...it's a mess. I'm trying to get myself together since, if I'm right, I can't really go at her with my hurt/anger.

My H, the optimist, thinks the baby will be easy-peasy compared to everything else going on. He may be correct on that!

[chickadee77]

June 29 due date here, but I've been told that they'll likely induce me a couple days before that if I don't go on my own (AMA). Yes, reality is setting in.

We did an infant CPR/choking course the other night, and my H has been totally freaked out ever since. He's been so, so wonderful and supportive, but he has now gone to a whole other level because the reality is hitting him, hard. Poor guy, lol.

My back is killing me, as is my front. I don't feel kicks in my ribs, but I wonder if she maybe just sometimes braces her feet there? Because, ow. I go in for my first NST today, so I'm curious what that will be all about. Sounds uneventful, and I hope it is!

[D2M]

bowies, I'm sorry about your mom. I'd be crushed. If it's aging issues contributing to her behavior, I hope she gets some help soon. In the meantime, big hugs.

[hokiegirl82]

I'm accepting more each day that we will have a baby very soon (due 4 weeks from today, June 12), but a large part of me is still in denial that this is happening. Even with everything happening now - how big my belly is, how much movement I feel, how many questions I get every day from people about the baby, part of me still hasn't accepted what is happening, and it's a little scary to me. I look at the birth announcements on here and love seeing all of the pictures, but I still have a part of me that doesn't realize this will be us in just a very short time.

We are basically all prepared for the baby - we have bought everything, down to diapers and wipes, the nursery is all set up, I have my post-partum supplies, the hospital bag is packed with the stuff I don't need until then, car seat bases are installed in both cars, I just turned in my FMLA/STD paperwork to work today, so there isn't much more to do to prepare for baby except get my brain there - I don't think that will happen until he is actually here.

I feel 50/50 these days - sleeping sucks because I hate being on one side or another and getting up to pee every few hours sucks, but eh whatever. My back is starting to hurt a little bit by the end of the day, and I get more swelling in my calves/ankles/feet by the end of the day. But I could feel worse I guess. I'm starting to get excited about all of this, but damn, it's still so hard to accept how much our lives are going to change. I know one thing I'm super looking forward to is seeing H as a Dad - I can't wait to see him hold little dude for the first time - my big burly H holding a little baby is going to make me cry .

[pinotgrig]

chickadee77 - the NST is no big deal and sort of fun. I get to recline a recline chair and they hook two sensors up to my belly. One measures baby's heart rate and the other contractions. Although it doesn't measure intensity - you have to have an internal monitor for that. Even things like laughing or moving will cause it tick up a little bit, but as long as you aren't having regular "mountain" patterns (up, up, up followed by a descent to baseline) you're good. At least this is how it was explained to me.

Our guy likes to kick at the sensors which is funny to watch. It lasts about 20 minutes.

[chickadee77]

May 15, 2014 12:06:10 GMT -5 pinotgrig said:

chickadee77 - the NST is no big deal and sort of fun. I get to recline a recline chair and they hook two sensors up to my belly. One measures baby's heart rate and the other contractions. Although it doesn't measure intensity - you have to have an internal monitor for that. Even things like laughing or moving will cause it tick up a little bit, but as long as you aren't having regular "mountain" patterns (up, up, up followed by a descent to baseline) you're good. At least this is how it was explained to me.

Our guy likes to kick at the sensors which is funny to watch. It lasts about 20 minutes.

Okay, good - that's about what I was anticipating. The doctor said to bring a book, lol. Thanks!

[smock]

I can't believe it's almost June 3rd! And my doctor wants to schedule an induction for week 40 if I don't go into labor because I've had a few high blood pressure readings, so I will almost certainly have an outside baby three weeks from now.

I go back and forth between feeling excited and feeling anxious, and thinking that we're ready or completely unprepared. I'm a planner, and it's really hard not being able to plan when this baby will arrive! I'm doing my best to stay relaxed and calm about the whole situation.

Oh, and at my doctor's appointment today I confirmed a few things: 1. Yes, I have stretch marks (lol I sort of thought it was a rash, but my doctor disabused me of that notion). 2. Baby definitely dropped (not coincidentally, I felt her drop last Friday and then noticed the stretch marks on Saturday). 3. My cervix is doing things! I'm at 0cm dilated but 50% effaced, and baby is at zero station, i.e. banging into my cervix and hopefully helping it progress!

[bowies]

Holy shit smock, holy shit! I can't believe a smocklette is soon to appear.

Oh, and I'm going to be a MESS when I see my H hold the baby. He is just thrilled to pieces over this whole thing.

[pinotgrig]

I think smock will def be the first of us to have an outside baby! Squeee!!

I wish we could meet irl for a support group these last few weeks. I'm trying to keep it together but all the "are you ready yet" questions are getting to me.

[bowies]

We could have a virtual playgroup, LOL. Baby's first Skype.

[smock]

Hopefully you ladies will still invite me to the baby Skype even if I end up with a May baby!

[mannah]

Hi ladies! I'm late to the party but having any of the same feelings so I defintely wanted to join in. I'm due June 11. I feel like I've had a very easy pregnancy so far compared to what others have gone through and what I've read. My only issue is that I have rheumatoid arthritis which I stopped my meds for when I for my bfp. Some people go into remission when they're pregnant but unfortunately I'm not one of them! The joints that are most affected for me are my feet, my right index finger (random!) and left wrist. They get painful and sore especially in hhe mornings and after a long day of work, but it's totally manageable. A nurse and I'm on my feet all day bending and moving and reaching which so far has been ok--although when I come home I immediately crash on the couch for a good few hours. Only other issues are a small hemorrhoid blaaaaahh. I'm also constantly surprised by the amount of discharge I seem to be producing. I've gained about 30 pounds and hoping to stay under 40 by the end but I'm
good with whatever happens--i figure my body is doing what it need to do as long as I don't go too crazy with what I'm eating.

Baby wise we are pretty much ready to go--I finished up the nursery last night with the last few items we needed, and we just need to install the car seat which just came yesterday. I also have a random list of non baby related crap is like to get done if possible too, bit it wouldn't be a catastrophe if none of that happened. We do need to pack the birth bag though!

I'm actually getting really excited for the delivery. I can't wait to get my hands on this baby and like you guys all said--see my husband as a dad. I'm going to loose my shit. I'm getting all excited right now just writing that. It does seem super surreal that this time is already coming close.

Randomly last night was the first night in months that I didn't get up once to pee--weird! I think I was just exhausted.

Thanksnfor starting this thread. I love reading how you guys are doing!

[curbsideprophet]

Due June 17.

I have had a few meetings with my doula.

Even though he will not be sleeping in the nursery right away we need to finish some things in there. The front of the crib is still off from being DD's toddler bed and we need to clean out the closet.

We also need to decide on a name.