This drives me insane! I had sooo many people show up to David's 4th birthday that didn't RSVP or even respond to my inquiries. Like, we had ten more kids than we planned. Then for his 5th we thought we had 30 kids and only like 12 came. I give up!
Apparently, a relative on my husband's side had enough of my purported lack of RSVPs to her parties that she confronted me in person all agitated. I was also informed that she had been bad-mouthing me to everybody, saying that I thought I was too good to go to her events.
Post by Dumbledork on May 30, 2014 13:36:37 GMT -5
I'm an asshole. I hate RSVP'ing. I'm going to blame my social anxiety.
I try to do it even though I hate it, but sometimes I just nervously put it off and put it off and put it off because I don't know if I'll have the guts to actually go. Then it seems like it's too late and they'll be mad regardless of what they hear from me so I just don't say anything and hide and/or smile innocently whenever I see them. But I don't show up if I haven't RSVP'd that I'll be there. Just consider me a no unless you hear otherwise. It's especially bad with random invites from other parents that I've never even met.
Ugh I'm in the same boat, but I put my cell in the invite and said just text me! Party is in a week and 0 people have texted me
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Since I am a bitch, I would email everyone and say "sorry, party is off since no one RSVP'd. We're taking the money we would have spent on the party and heading to Vegas. See you when we get back, assholes!"
I can't even do that because a lot of the invites went to kids in dd's preschool class, I just left the invites pinned to the kids' sign in sheets so the parents see them (that is always how I get invites to parties for dd). So I don't even have the parents numbers or emails to tell them to eff off! Another kid in the class is having a party this weekend, I guess I can go ask all the parents there if they are coming to dd's haha
Shane's birthday is tomorrow. 12 kids from his class class are currently unaccounted for. I have no way to double check since we just dropped invites into cubbies. I'm pissed. I got three invited yesterday from other kids in his class and I've already RSVPd. It's not that fucking hard!!!
Post by orangeglow on May 30, 2014 15:47:34 GMT -5
SIL bitched while wedding planning about this. Then she said to me last week, "oops I forgot to RSVP to cousin's wedding." Wedding is tomorrow. OMG seriously?? It was even "yes" "no". With postage!!
I'm convinced people no longer RSVP because they don't want to commit and then miss out on something they think will be better.
In other words, they're assholes.
Just fucking make a choice. Yes or no.
Dickheads
I was going to say this exactly. I know with our "social circle" or whatever you want to call it, that's the vibe I get a lot. Like, "Well, I MIGHT go to your bridal shower IF there isn't an awesome pool party or something that comes up last minute instead." Huge jerks, all of the people who do that. Just commit to something and follow through with that commitment like a decent person.
I held a shower in Feb and sent 24 paper invites. I got 4 RSVPs. 10 people showed up and brought 4 kids who were not even actually invited (not that that part mattered too much too me.)
I got about 50% responded to my sister's shower and another 25% after I sent a text asking for responses.
People have trouble even responding to texts anymore when I know they text all.the.time.