Why don't people RSVP anymore?

[ProfessorArtNerd]

I made it easy- email.  You don't have to call some random person and TALK to them.  Just shoot me an email.

this is the second year I'm going to send out a "hey, could you please, for fucks' sake, let me know if you're coming to Lucy's party?" note after the RSVP date.

/stossle out

[snipsnsnails]

Yes! This drives me batty!

[cuddlyevil]

Because they're stupid jerks?

They're talking about charging no shows for an event at work.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

I just get so nervous, like, I was really shy in school, and never asked for a party. I hope people come, you guys

[katfco]

That's one reason I was so happy Abby wanted the family to go hiking for her birthday instead of a friend party (to be honest, I strongly encouraged it). I don't know any of the parents in her class and with her birthday being a week after school lets out, I'd be so afraid no one would RSVP (or worse, say they're coming and not show up) and I'd hate to deal with her disappointment of not having kids come to her party.

[Deleted]

I hate that not RSVP-ing is the new norm. It stresses me out too, I feel your pain.

[Muddled]

I send out a reminder email and then I swear that I'm only making enough food for those who RSVPed to make a point and at the last minute, I freak out that it won't be enough and I make more.

[Booze Raccoon]

I just had to do this too.  I don't get it.  

[Jalapeñomel]

So annoying.


Possibly for the same reason people don't write thank you notes?

[Eagles]

I have to do this for a baby shower I'm hosting. The RSVP date is 6/1 but I'm guessing that I'm going to have to chase down the same 10 people I had to chase for the bridal shower. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS EMAIL ME, PEOPLE. OR TEXT.

[nightandday]

I had to do this for H's graduation party. RSVP date was May 17th so I could call the caterer. I got a response to my e-mail yesterday. RAAAAAGE!

[gmail]

OMG

Don't even get me started on my motherfucking students and their inability to RSVP for ANYTHING


::throws a chair, Bobby Knight style::

[bonquiqui]

Assholes

One thing that annoys me are fb invites. My friend had sent invites via fb, and was complaining at the lack of rsvp's. I honestly had no idea i had gotten one. It is so easy to miss

[Deleted]

It drives me crazy. Not one freakin person RSVPed this year, yet everyone showed up. It's so, so annoying.

[pinkplasticdoll]

because they are assholes.

[flex]

May 30, 2014 8:18:22 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

because they are assholes. absolute assholes.
I'd send a cheery "well, since we didn't hear back from you that you could come, we're going to have to see you next time! thanks anyway; have a nice weekend!"
Don't beg people to come. Fuck them if they can't give you a decent response; THATS a response, in and of itself, the non-response.

I wish I could "like" this post a bazillion times.

Since the DAWN OF TIME people have not RSVP'ed.  And for the life of me, I cannot understand this behavior.  I RSVP instantly whenever I get an invitation.  INSTANTLY!

[mushmouse]

It's really strange. I know sometimes people just forget. I've definitely forgotten to reply a couple of times. But it can't be that everyone forgets. I keep seeing posts like this where the majority of people haven't responded and I don't know what's up with that. The same people seem to want rsvps for their own parties but think they don't have to respond for others.

[escrow]

Ugh I'm in the same boat, but I put my cell in the invite and said just text me! Party is in a week and 0 people have texted me

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[silva]

Battling that right now as well. booo.

[stephm0188]

This is one of my biggest pet peeves. The first two birthday parties were painful. No one RSVP'd, and I was concerned we wouldn't have enough kids to meet the minimums at the party place we had booked.

This year was stressful for an entirely different reason. We invited his entire class plus his neighborhood, because I expected only maybe 2-3 from his class to actually attend. Go figure- all but two kids RSVP'd yes. Way more kids than I expected, but it was a lot of fun.

[Deleted]

One of my biggest pet peeves. And I HATE IT when people open the evite, clearly more than once, and DON'T BOTHER RESPONDING. WTF IS WITH THAT??

[janetplanet20]

Ugh, I hate this too!

I am dealing with non-RSVP issues myself right now. My son's birthday party is tomorrow and we still have a few people who have not RSVPed, despite being a part of the initial FB invite, sent a mailed paper invite (which asked for RSVPs via email, phone or text), and a private FB reminder message! One of the people who hasn't RSVPed has 3 kids...I'd like to make sure there are enough favor bags. Another is my cousin, and is she comes, it will be an additional 4 adults. She actually messaged me back last week to say she wasn't sure yet if they were coming or not. I really wanted to reply "Are you holding out for an invite to a better event?"

Sorry, I totally went off on a rant there. But it is SO ANNOYING when people don't RSVP, especially when given multiple opportunities/methods to do so.

[Deleted]

May 30, 2014 8:18:11 GMT -5 ProfessorArtNerd said:

I just get so nervous, like, I was really shy in school, and never asked for a party. I hope people come, you guys

Awww, I am sure her little friends will come.  I hate when parents are assholes, though.  I had 100% opposite experiences with DD's and DS's birthday parties - for DD's, everyone RSVPed within 24 hours.  It was glorious.  For DS's, I was chasing people down.  It makes me want to have a million parties with DD's friends, I admit. 

[montereybride]

I'm convinced people no longer RSVP because they don't want to commit and then miss out on something they think will be better.

In other words, they're assholes.

Just fucking make a choice. Yes or no.

Dickheads

[janetplanet20]

May 30, 2014 10:45:17 GMT -5 montereybride said:

I'm convinced people no longer RSVP because they don't want to commit and then miss out on something they think will be better.

I totally agree with you. I hate when people say they're not sure if they can attend something because 9 times out of 10 you know they're just waiting to see what else they get invited to.

Even worse is when people do RSVP that they will attend an event, but then back out at the last minute when they decide to do something else.

I can understand work schedule conflicts or emergency type situations, but other than that, those people are just being asses.

[SugarKane]

I got so annoyed with my BIL yesterday. One of his and DH's friends is getting married next weekend and BIL knows he's not comin, but hasn't let them know officially yet even though I told him over 2 weeks ago to give them an answer. Yesterday I got a text from the bride asking me to get BIL to RSVP. I texted him and his reply to me was along the lines of "well if I RSVP then I'll be coming and I'm not si I don't need to RSVP". I responded to him with the definition of what RSVP means.

I don't know how somebody can be almost 40 years old and think that not responding to an invitation either way is acceptable

[KKD]

We'll come if you need some fillers! lol.

I have good luck with evites but still usually have to follow-up with a couple non-responders. It's not that hard, people!

[Eagles]

If you decline an invitation, even if it's because you just don't want to go, do you think it's polite to say "Sorry, I can't make it!" as opposed to "I won't be attending"? I feel like I should at least fake regret instead of just flat out shutting down the invitation. Maybe I overthink things.

[Alyssa]

Or the people who actually do RSVP and then flake out.

[nomad100]

May 30, 2014 10:17:09 GMT -5 escrow said:

Ugh I'm in the same boat, but I put my cell in the invite and said just text me! Party is in a week and 0 people have texted me

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Since I am a bitch, I would email everyone and say "sorry, party is off since no one RSVP'd.  We're taking the money we would have spent on the party and heading to Vegas.  See you when we get back, assholes!"