New Therapist.....

[emma245]

So today I started with a new therapist as mine was out of network and I could not afford the out of pocket rate anymore. I loved my old therapist because she had been married once before her current marriage and is my age.

Anyways, I started with the new therapist today and it seemed like she was way more focused on looking at past traumas (parents divorce, parent moving out of state, raised by nanny) issues more than looking at current issues.

This is a totally different approach than my last therapist who really was looking at my divorce and how it affected my current relationship but Im starting to think this new therapist is onto something by looking at old traumas being linked to new issues beyond my divorce.

If anyone is comfortable sharing, Im curious. Has anyones therapist taken this approach?

[beans]

I am a therapist, and it sounds like they come from different theoretical orientations. I think looking at both sides of that coin are important, especially if you agree that old things contributed to issues in your relationship and want to look into that.

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Yes in fact all of my therapists have. I know several of my non ex specific related issues are a result of my childhood. And also me ending up with ex is a result of those. I tend to find issues snowball on themselves and therapy is like an onion. You have to keep peeling away all the layers.

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It is a very logical approach. If you have had an issue with relationships from childhood for various reasons of course it can lead to present day issues.

[explorer2001]

Jul 17, 2012 17:35:59 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Yes in fact all of my therapists have. I know several of my non ex specific related issues are a result of my childhood. And also me ending up with ex is a result of those. I tend to find issues snowball on themselves and therapy is like an onion. You have to keep peeling away all the layers.

Very well said.

My therapist started working on my then marriage, then on getting me out and healthy and the ex specific abuse, then it evolved into looking at the beliefs that lead me to put up with/think it was normal that my ex was abusive. This lead to a review of my family's abusive behavior and treatment for my entire life. Now it is at a point of deciding when, how and how much to deal with them. Beyond that I have made tons of progress and out side of my family still being fed up, I'm doing great career wise, friends wise, life wise, happy, etc.

[emma245]

Ok these all make sense. Im just scared that its going to take years to get through all my childhood issues.....