Joint custody

[mel]

Joint custody sucks sometimes. I am feeling really emotional tonight and just really missing DS. It's a double-edge knife. It's nice to have "me" time but it sucks so much not to have him with me. That and then the last time that I saw him last week he cried and didn't want to come with me. I just want to hold him close.

[WinterIsComing]

((Hugs))

I'm sorry your sad I don't have kids so I can't directly relate but I can say that holidays seem to make sadness even worse. Try to relish the "you" time tonight - have a drink, take a bath, whatever is something that can be just for you.

[athena3210]

I can totally relate to this...<big hugs>

[1confused1]

I'm so sorry.

I can tell you the other side of the coin sucks too. My ex hasn't seen the kids in 8 weeks and OMG, I need a break.

[sherbanator]

((mel))

[mel]

Thanks guys! I'm totally grateful that I get a break every other week but at the same time it's so hard to let him go. I've had him for one overnight in the last 3 weeks because of the way the vacation schedules worked out this year and it's just been tough. I'll see him soon though.

[LoveBug]

Ugh I'm sorry. I dread this when our custody/visitation papers are drawn up. In the meantime, MH never sees DD and while I would love a break I realize how much I will miss her.

[cuddlyevil]

I'm sorry mel.

[LoveBug]

Jul 5, 2014 0:51:27 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

I'm so sorry.

I can tell you the other side of the coin sucks too. My ex hasn't seen the kids in 8 weeks and OMG, I need a break.

Why hasn't he seen them?

[1confused1]

Jul 5, 2014 12:19:05 GMT -5 LoveBug said:

Jul 5, 2014 0:51:27 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

I'm so sorry.

I can tell you the other side of the coin sucks too. My ex hasn't seen the kids in 8 weeks and OMG, I need a break.

Why hasn't he seen them?

He has supervised visitation and his supervisors haven't been available.  His supervisors are his parents or his brother.  Not sure why they don't have time to see their grandkids/niece and nephew.

[DirtySouth]

It helps me to focus on knowing that this is what is best for DS, that he loves his dad very much and enjoys spending a lot of time with him, and is lucky to have two parents who both want to be as involved as possible. I also keep myself really busy when DS is with his dad and use the time to get a lot done around the house, meet up with friends, go shopping, etc.

I haven't yet experienced a long stretch of time without him due to vacation or holidays. I'm sure that's really hard. I'm sorry.

[prettyinpearls]

It's very hard...big hugs.

[LoveBug]

Jul 5, 2014 12:35:57 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Jul 5, 2014 12:19:05 GMT -5 LoveBug said:

Why hasn't he seen them?

He has supervised visitation and his supervisors haven't been available.  His supervisors are his parents or his brother.  Not sure why they don't have time to see their grandkids/niece and nephew.

I see. Sorry. Hope I didn't bring up a touchy subject. That's certainly a long time for them to not see their father, and for you to not have a break.

[1confused1]

Jul 7, 2014 11:26:55 GMT -5 LoveBug said:

Jul 5, 2014 12:35:57 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

He has supervised visitation and his supervisors haven't been available.  His supervisors are his parents or his brother.  Not sure why they don't have time to see their grandkids/niece and nephew.

I see. Sorry. Hope I didn't bring up a touchy subject. That's certainly a long time for them to not see their father, and for you to not have a break.

No worries!!  It's not a touchy subject, I just don't understand how he can go that long without seeing them.

[LoveBug]

Jul 7, 2014 13:08:57 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Jul 7, 2014 11:26:55 GMT -5 LoveBug said:

I see. Sorry. Hope I didn't bring up a touchy subject. That's certainly a long time for them to not see their father, and for you to not have a break.

No worries!!  It's not a touchy subject, I just don't understand how he can go that long without seeing them.

I feel the same. My X is still across country and can't even commit to face timing DD on time. It breaks my heart for her. He blames his problems on how his parents were growing up....I want to punch him in the throat and ask why he thinks it's okay to be like this to her then?....

[1confused1]

Jul 7, 2014 13:17:27 GMT -5 LoveBug said:

Jul 7, 2014 13:08:57 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

No worries!!  It's not a touchy subject, I just don't understand how he can go that long without seeing them.

I feel the same. My X is still across country and can't even commit to face timing DD on time. It breaks my heart for her. He blames his problems on how his parents were growing up....I want to punch him in the throat and ask why he thinks it's okay to be like this to her then?....

I also don't understand his parents either, they only see their grandkids when he has visitation.  Not sure why they can't make themselves available 4 days a month.

[LoveBug]

Jul 7, 2014 13:24:56 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Jul 7, 2014 13:17:27 GMT -5 LoveBug said:

I feel the same. My X is still across country and can't even commit to face timing DD on time. It breaks my heart for her. He blames his problems on how his parents were growing up....I want to punch him in the throat and ask why he thinks it's okay to be like this to her then?....

I also don't understand his parents either, they only see their grandkids when he has visitation.  Not sure why they can't make themselves available 4 days a month.

Sounds like it's a you versus him with them. Like they feel they are separated from you because he is? Or maybe they don't feel comfortable reaching out to you? Either way, I hear ya. It sucks.

[1confused1]

@buggy, I have reached out to them multiple times to fill them in on what really happened to end our marriage. They prefer to bury their heads in the sand.

[LoveBug]

Jul 7, 2014 13:42:49 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

@buggy, I have reached out to them multiple times to fill them in on what really happened to end our marriage. They prefer to bury their heads in the sand.

::sigh:: their loss I guess. I'm sorry.