The bride's family is so sweet, but they are VERY religious and do not drink. We had rehearsal at 5 and then rehearsal dinner is a BBQ. We drove 5 hours to get here.
Tomorrow the wedding starts at 7pm. The bride has requested T and the other flower girl, L, to be there at noon. They are taking pictures at 5pm. They expect my 3 year old to stay there all day. The place where they are getting ready is this really nice place with a lot of breakable antiques. I don't see this going well.
Post by EmilieMadison on Jul 10, 2014 22:00:30 GMT -5
Dear god. She wants a 3 year old to be there for 5 hours before they even do pictures? Um. You know what? I think this is one of those times you have to talk to the bride. The MOST IDEAL situation is that you show up 10 minutes before pictures start with your kid ready to go. Tell her flat out that there's a huge chance (like, 100%) that if the kids are actually there all day, they will be so crabby by the time the wedding actually happens that they will throw fits and cause a scene. DURING THE CEREMONY.
There is nothing your 3 year old needs to be there for during that time. At all.
Yeah, that's a big negative. The bean was a flower girl when she was 3 and the bride required us to be there hours before. We complied, she couldn't settle for a nap, wedding ran late and she slept as her sister (a bridesmaid like me) carried her down the aisle.
Is this the wedding where your H has a friend who is dating a very young girl and she couldnt come to the wedding because her parents wouldnt let her stay overnight? (or something like that)
I bet your daughter will be a beautiful flower girl. Hopefully, too, you can find something that works time-wise for you and your daughter. It seems really short-sighted to have the kids there for so long before ANYTHING is happening. (Don't these people helping plan know any young children??)
Dear god. She wants a 3 year old to be there for 5 hours before they even do pictures? Um. You know what? I think this is one of those times you have to talk to the bride. The MOST IDEAL situation is that you show up 10 minutes before pictures start with your kid ready to go. Tell her flat out that there's a huge chance (like, 100%) that if the kids are actually there all day, they will be so crabby by the time the wedding actually happens that they will throw fits and cause a scene. DURING THE CEREMONY.
There is nothing your 3 year old needs to be there for during that time. At all.
Exactly. T would be an absolute mess without some rest.
Please update as needed through the next few days. thank you.
We are staying at the bride's parent's cabin. They came over and we are having a few beers. Bride's mom just texted groom that he needs to get her home because it is after midnight.
Is this the wedding where your H has a friend who is dating a very young girl and she couldnt come to the wedding because her parents wouldnt let her stay overnight? (or something like that)
Please update as needed through the next few days. thank you.
We are staying at the bride's parent's cabin. They came over and we are having a few beers. Bride's mom just texted groom that he needs to get her home because it is after midnight.
Wait a sec ... because it is after midnight and it's past curfew on the day before she's getting married; or because it's after midnight and now the groom will see the bride before the wedding? Not that either explanation is acceptable, but the explanation will determine the degree of my eyeroll!
If I were the groom I would be seriously questioning the roll my inlaws will have in my marriage going forward.
We are staying at the bride's parent's cabin. They came over and we are having a few beers. Bride's mom just texted groom that he needs to get her home because it is after midnight.
Wait a sec ... because it is after midnight and it's past curfew on the day before she's getting married; or because it's after midnight and now the groom will see the bride before the wedding? Not that either explanation is acceptable, but the explanation will determine the degree of my eyeroll!
If I were the groom I would be seriously questioning the roll my inlaws will have in my marriage going forward.
Because it was too late and she needed to get home.
Wait a sec ... because it is after midnight and it's past curfew on the day before she's getting married; or because it's after midnight and now the groom will see the bride before the wedding? Not that either explanation is acceptable, but the explanation will determine the degree of my eyeroll!
If I were the groom I would be seriously questioning the roll my inlaws will have in my marriage going forward.
Because it was too late and she needed to get home.
Wait a sec ... because it is after midnight and it's past curfew on the day before she's getting married; or because it's after midnight and now the groom will see the bride before the wedding? Not that either explanation is acceptable, but the explanation will determine the degree of my eyeroll!
If I were the groom I would be seriously questioning the roll my inlaws will have in my marriage going forward.
Because it was too late and she needed to get home.
The bride's family is so sweet, but they are VERY religious and do not drink. We had rehearsal at 5 and then rehearsal dinner is a BBQ. We drove 5 hours to get here.
Tomorrow the wedding starts at 7pm. The bride has requested T and the other flower girl, L, to be there at noon. They are taking pictures at 5pm. They expect my 3 year old to stay there all day. The place where they are getting ready is this really nice place with a lot of breakable antiques. I don't see this going well.
I need a drink.
Just politely say she won't be able to do it. Have her come 1/2 hour before pictures. Feel free to ask what she's wanting when she made that proposal and provide an alternate plan that achieves that goal.
Ok this isn't a safe place and I hope this doesn't get outed IRL, but other flower girls mom and I are pretty sure the bride is pregnant.
SHOCKER. No, really. This would not surprise me in the least, based on what you've said so far. Also, be prepared for a big "Honeymoon baby" announcement, and for said "honeymoon baby" to arrive a few months early, miraculously healthy and the size of a full-term infant
The bride's family is so sweet, but they are VERY religious and do not drink. We had rehearsal at 5 and then rehearsal dinner is a BBQ. We drove 5 hours to get here.
Tomorrow the wedding starts at 7pm. The bride has requested T and the other flower girl, L, to be there at noon. They are taking pictures at 5pm. They expect my 3 year old to stay there all day. The place where they are getting ready is this really nice place with a lot of breakable antiques. I don't see this going well.
I need a drink.
Just politely say she won't be able to do it. Have her come 1/2 hour before pictures. Feel free to ask what she's wanting when she made that proposal and provide an alternate plan that achieves that goal.
Ok this isn't a safe place and I hope this doesn't get outed IRL, but other flower girls mom and I are pretty sure the bride is pregnant.
SHOCKER. No, really. This would not surprise me in the least, based on what you've said so far. Also, be prepared for a big "Honeymoon baby" announcement, and for said "honeymoon baby" to arrive a few months early, miraculously healthy and the size of a full-term infant
He said 3-4 times last night to us and her family that they were going to try to get pregnant on their honeymoon.
SHOCKER. No, really. This would not surprise me in the least, based on what you've said so far. Also, be prepared for a big "Honeymoon baby" announcement, and for said "honeymoon baby" to arrive a few months early, miraculously healthy and the size of a full-term infant
He said 3-4 times last night to us and her family that they were going to try to get pregnant on their honeymoon.