Post by foundmylazybum on Jul 11, 2014 18:20:57 GMT -5
I just wanted to say I read your OP--I mostly post on CEP and H&F--but sometimes here too...
I have been thinking about you and wishing you well. I think you are a strong woman to ask for help and to work through this and I'm happy you are feeling better. I have a lot of respect for you and wish you and your family well.
Post by noodleskooze on Jul 11, 2014 19:12:34 GMT -5
I will second pugz's suggestion to find Fearless Formula Feeder on FB. If you were to read my posts from a year ago when I realized my son couldn't nurse, you'd see that I had so much sadness about it. FFF community really helped.
I am not a Mom, but I wanted to thank you for your candidness. Having had my own struggles, I know personally, how helpful it is to know that 'I'm not alone'. I hope your candidness provides comfort to others and I also wish you the continued improvements/success.
Post by liverandonions on Jul 11, 2014 23:15:13 GMT -5
Such a great update! You sound like an awesome mom who knows you need to take care of yourself too! Also, my kid was mostly formula fed thanks to low supply and she's pretty rad!
pugz, thank you for those resources. I read your post to h and he nodded and said those sound great.
@evelynrichards, I haven't heard of that. I will look into it. H just asked how much longer I plan to pump and I told him through the weekend while I still think about it, then I told him while I accept the fact that I'm done breastfeeding. Then I told him it felt freeing to say that and to make the decision to stop.
I had to stop breastfeeding too. It was a bit emotional to stop, but more freeing. I NEEDED that sleep to be able to function for her.
Post by kristinschmistin on Jul 12, 2014 7:56:18 GMT -5
I am so proud of you for reaching out to get help. You are SO strong and such a good mother for doing that.
Re: the breastfeeding thing- it is very common for that to trigger depression/anxiety. Common but not talked about. I don't want you to feel alone about that. W DS 1 I felt that way. I went on meds and stopped breastfeeding (not bc of the meds but bc it was what was best for me/us. Happy mom= happy baby)
I felt guilty about that for a long time. But I finally realized there is no reason for me to feel guilty and it makes me a better mom for doing what I needed to do to be happy and a good mom.
I am very proud of you. I wish you strength and lots of happiness as you start to feel better.
Wasn't it just so wonderful to see your LO smile? what a great gift. I think she knew just what mama needed
I'm so, so happy to read your update. I am all for doing things that make you mentally healthy (exactly why I switched to FFing instead of BFing - the anxiety was awful, and the guilt when I switched lasted longer than it should have, but it was the best thing I did for my and DD's relationship and I have zero regrets), and I hope it will just be up, up, up for you from here. Also, yay for real baby smiles. (heart)