I have enough randoms for my own post.

[MyName]

I already mentioned this, but S lost his job last week (which is NBD, he could have a great job tomorrow if he wanted).  Instead, he is going to collect unemployment and spend the rest of the summer on the Cape, and I am jealous.  After that, he will decide what he wants to do with his life.  He mentioned moving to Miami or San Diego for jobs, so that would be good.  Also, Idk wtf my problem is, but I am a little sad that he will no longer be sitting in our old apartment, feeling bad about himself and begging me for another chance.  LOL, I'm ridiculous, I know.

Related:  I went over to our old place on Sunday to watch the WC with him, and happened to see the neighbor out on her porch.  She is a little old Italian lady, and we were always friendly, but that's all.  Anyway, I said hi and she realized it was me, she was so happy, she came down, gave me a hug, told me she was surprised and sorry that I moved.  (I had movers come and they only took my stuff and a few small pieces, no furniture, so the nosey neighbors all knew about it by that afternoon. lol)  I said something along the lines of, "we're still trying to be friends" and she says, "That's fine, but you deserve better.  I know you tried, you were a good wife! Excuse me, but fuuuuck him!  (He is nice, he says hi to me, but...)  Are you seeing anybody? [no] Well, when you're ready, you find somebody better, you will be happy!"   I think the good wife comment was because she always saw me out back grilling/cooking dinner.  It was so random, but it made me smile.  AND it made me wonder how clearly they could hear us fighting next door.  :-#

Unrelated:  Tomorrow the movers are coming to pack up BFF's apartment and ship her stuff to Colombia.  They're not taking the couch, so she's staying another week in her apt, but this is going to make it so REAL.  My job is to show up after work with a bottle of tequila.  lol  I'm trying not to be too upset because she will be back in NYC very often for work, Skype/fb/text, etc, and I will be spending a week there for my bday after Thanksgiving.  But still...SAD FACE.

Also unrelated:  My dad's business is not doing so good.  He bought it in 1992 and has thrown a company picnic with chili/chowder/burgers/dogs in the afternoon and steak and lobster for dinner every year since then.  This year, he's not doing it because it's not in the budget.  I feel like I should at least do a case study analysis on it and use my MBA for something besides Excel based investment analysis, especially since I am not ready/don't plan to move back to CT and take it over.  I just don't know if he'd really let me see all the numbers; he's weirdly private about it.  FWIW, I think my parents are fine financially (they just paid my sister's tuition for 4 years), but I am concerned nonetheless. 

[sapphire bou]

Getting confirmation that you were the bigger person in the relationship always makes you stand a little bit taller. Go you! And yes, you are ridiculous. I, personally, don't know how you do it. He needs to get over you and hopefully taking time off from working will help.

As for your dad's business - that really sucks. Could he throw a lower-cost picnic instead? It's about getting away from the work setting and enjoying your coworkers. But to address your point, it wouldn't hurt to offer your services to your dad from a consulting standpoint. I would approach it as that though: an offer.

[jennynumbers]

Jul 17, 2014 11:36:16 GMT -5 MyName said:

I already mentioned this, but S lost his job last week I must have missed this update, or just don't recall. Wow... It's nice to be pined after. After someone hurt you, yeah, you want them to feel bad about, regret it etc... You can have this feeling, but don't begrudge him for doing what you've been telling him to do for so long. Plus, knowing he is (potentially) moving out, makes all really real and not "I can move back when/if I want. 

Related:  That's cute of the little old lady. I want to hug her too.

Unrelated:  Enjoy your Tequila night!

Also unrelated:  Business is so tricky right now. I'm sorry he is being affected. 

[honeydew1894]

Wow, that is a lot of randoms. How nice of your neighbor!

[MyName]

Jul 17, 2014 12:03:01 GMT -5 jennynumbers said:

Jul 17, 2014 11:36:16 GMT -5 MyName said:

I already mentioned this, but S lost his job last week I must have missed this update, or just don't recall. Wow... It's nice to be pined after. After someone hurt you, yeah, you want them to feel bad about, regret it etc... You can have this feeling, but don't begrudge him for doing what you've been telling him to do for so long. Plus, knowing he is (potentially) moving out, makes all really real and not "I can move back when/if I want. 

I have not let him know that I have had any "feelings" about him leaving, don't worry. 

I am mostly just jealous of being able to go to the beach every day.  Fucking jerk.  LOL

[jennynumbers]

If I see him on a Cape beach I will kick him in his sack.

[MyName]

Jul 17, 2014 12:14:20 GMT -5 jennynumbers said:

If I see him on a Cape beach I will kick him in his sack.

Yes, please. It would be mid-Cape.  TIA!  lol

[glw]

[MyName]

Jul 17, 2014 11:52:26 GMT -5 sapphire bou said:

As for your dad's business - that really sucks. Could he throw a lower-cost picnic instead? It's about getting away from the work setting and enjoying your coworkers. But to address your point, it wouldn't hurt to offer your services to your dad from a consulting standpoint. I would approach it as that though: an offer.

Honestly, I think the secondary reason he is not doing it is that his best friend, who was always instrumental in prepping for/cooking at the picnic, had a stroke almost two years ago and is now not able to leave the rehab place.  Last year, his family brought him for awhile, but he had an accident recently and is not able to be signed out of the facility because he is less mobile.  It sucks so much.

I will offer.  He has offered me 51% of the company to come back.  It would then be a woman-owned business and we could compete for jobs (office furniture installation/moving) through different programs.  I worked there starting when I was 16, and spent every summer/winter break there until I graduated college.  I just don't think the effort/pay ratio will work for me, plus being back in CT would suck.  I'm sticking it out at this job until we shut down. 

[OrangePixyStix]

That's a lot of stuff to process, I am happy to hear S is adjusting okay with the cards in his hands, and I can understand your torn feelings about him moving on. That was really nice of the neighbor to show you support and understanding.

Hopefully your dad's business will bounce back soon, that's always stressful when things aren't as good as they usually are. I bet he'd be happy if you offered some help, but at the same time you don't need any additional stress thrown your way so it should definitely only be offered if you are willing to roll your sleeves up and help sort through the issues.

Sorry to hear it's almost time for your friend to leave. I really hate those kind of "goodbyes", even when I know there's opportunities to see them in the future. Most people only have one best friend, so it's REALLY tough to lose them when they have been close for so long! **hugs**

[sapphire bou]

Jul 17, 2014 12:26:42 GMT -5 MyName said:

Jul 17, 2014 11:52:26 GMT -5 sapphire bou said:

As for your dad's business - that really sucks. Could he throw a lower-cost picnic instead? It's about getting away from the work setting and enjoying your coworkers. But to address your point, it wouldn't hurt to offer your services to your dad from a consulting standpoint. I would approach it as that though: an offer.

Honestly, I think the secondary reason he is not doing it is that his best friend, who was always instrumental in prepping for/cooking at the picnic, had a stroke almost two years ago and is now not able to leave the rehab place.  Last year, his family brought him for awhile, but he had an accident recently and is not able to be signed out of the facility because he is less mobile.  It sucks so much.

I will offer.  He has offered me 51% of the company to come back.  It would then be a woman-owned business and we could compete for jobs (office furniture installation/moving) through different programs.  I worked there starting when I was 16, and spent every summer/winter break there until I graduated college.  I just don't think the effort/pay ratio will work for me, plus being back in CT would suck.  I'm sticking it out at this job until we shut down. 

That's understandable. I think it's harder to get past the emotion of change in tradition than it is to make adjustments for money reasons.

I definitely get not wanting to go back home. On the woman-owned business note: I'm not sure if it's the university system I work in or because it's a state university, but a lot of times, even if the higher bid is a minority business (or Historically Underutilized Business), they'll still go with the HUB pretty much because they have to. I don't know if it's the same in CT.