Quick backstory: R is my upstairs neighbor is a single woman with no children who I've been friendly with on occasion since I moved in 2 years ago. We all have one bedroom apartments here. R was dating a guy last year briefly then broke up, now back together. He's an unemployed, still married father of 3 kids.
Current issue: R's BF and 3 kids have moved in. The kids are about age 9-13. They are loud and obnoxious. Playing in hallway, coming in and out, slamming front door, yelling, hallway has become a depot of bikes, skateboards, empty cups, basketballs.
J is increasingly frustrated as well - as he is off all summer and contends with this all day. He said he's giving it a few days and wants to bring it up to them. I'm not good at confronting people, so I'd rather call management.
CONFRONT. Holy shit CONFRONT. Borrow J's balls and walk up there and tell them to clean up the mess and stop acting like heathens. I would have lost my damn mind the first week this nonsense ensued.
Any lease I have ever signed had a section on how many people could reside in the space. It depended on the # of bedrooms. I've leased often (from 1 bedroom to a 4 bedroom) and have lived in 3 states (so worldly, I know! Lol). But hopefully there is something in your lease as well.
pinkhighheels and @myname, i do fear starting a feud. This chick can be pretty feisty to be honest. As for anonymous- I would love for it to be anonymous. However, the management knows everyone pretty well and there are only 6 units in each building. So, I guess I could write something anonymously, but I'm not sure how that would work.
Other side of the coin, being a landlord, talk to the tenants first and see if you can resolve it. If that doesn't, then go to management.
I know that's probably the "right" thing to do, but I'm just another tenant here. We both pay rent and if no one else is saying anything, I feel uncomfortable.
Other side of the coin, being a landlord, talk to the tenants first and see if you can resolve it. If that doesn't, then go to management.
I know that's probably the "right" thing to do, but I'm just another tenant here. We both pay rent and if no one else is saying anything, I feel uncomfortable.
I will tell you, being from management, the first thing I am going to ask you is, "have you talked to them about your concerns?"
I don't want to be your middle man, talk to them, if there is no improvement, then bring in management.
I know that's probably the "right" thing to do, but I'm just another tenant here. We both pay rent and if no one else is saying anything, I feel uncomfortable.
I will tell you, being from management, the first thing I am going to ask you is, "have you talked to them about your concerns?"
I don't want to be your middle man, talk to them, if there is no improvement, then bring in management.
I see your point. However, I feel like this may be an issue beyond my control.
Ugh, that sounds like a nightmare. I can see why you'd be concerned-either way they'll probably be able to guess it was you who complained...so I would probably confront them first . But I'd probably have shaking hands as I did it. I hate confrontation.
I disagree with confused. This is a lease violation which is the landlords responsibility not the other tenants.
Music too loud, vacuuming at midnight, those are things a tenant should ask first then report. 4 people moving into a one bedroom and creating havoc is on management to confront.
I would let the LL handle it. Alert them from a safety perspective to get their attention. Putting it in writing via email, if you have that option, might be more effective than calling.
Dear LL, Today I tripped on a skateboard/other random crap while carrying my groceries into my apartment. Lately the hallway has become a repository of trash and sporting equipment. I know that I can't control the slamming of doors or shouting in common ares [because you can't, but this points out that they're obnoxious], but perhaps the new tenant with the 3 children [will bring to their attn that there are new occupants] could be more mindful of keeping their belongings in their apartment instead of the hallway.
I would let the LL handle it. Alert them from a safety perspective to get their attention. Putting it in writing via email, if you have that option, might be more effective than calling.
Dear LL, Today I tripped on a skateboard/other random crap while carrying my groceries into my apartment. Lately the hallway has become a repository of trash and sporting equipment. I know that I can't control the slamming of doors or shouting in common ares [because you can't, but this points out that they're obnoxious], but perhaps the new tenant with the 3 children [will bring to their attn that there are new occupants] could be more mindful of keeping their belongings in their apartment instead of the hallway.
Thank you, blueyes
I like the way this is worded. I don't have the option of email though. I may do this on paper. Unfortunately, I feel awkward about this and severely frustrated. Why do people suck?
Ugh, that sounds like a nightmare. I can see why you'd be concerned-either way they'll probably be able to guess it was you who complained...so I would probably confront them first . But I'd probably have shaking hands as I did it. I hate confrontation.
I hate confrontation too. Especially because I was friendly with her and I know she can have the tendency to be explosive. I like the way mcc worded things. I'm sure it will come out that it's me who complained, so I'm still on the fence.
First off, I feel for you. I live in an apt building, where the 2 kids next door, scream blue murder for most of the day when their Poppie is watching them. ( I have concerns) Also dealing with a barking dog for 8 hours a day. We have been told NEVER to confront neighbour as you never know the kind of person they are and that is for your own safety. This is a LL issue plain and simple. They are impeding on your comfort and peaceful surroundings. I hope it works out for you, but in NO way I would be confronting them on my own. Good luck, and if all else fails steal their balls. lol ( not really)