Weekend Vents

[yellowbrkrd]

I am pissed at DH. Yesterday he mentioned that he scheduled a tire rotation for 8am this morning, I thought it was a bit early and was a little annoyed but then I suggested that DH take M and they have their own "adventure". The tire place is near a lot of other stuff like Lowes, so I figured they could go wander while they wait. And hey, after being home alone with M for half the week, I figured I earned a morning to sleep in.

Well, M woke up, and what does DH do? He brings him into our bed, waking me up. M plays all over me, digging to China via my belly button. After about 20 minutes I ask DH what the plan is, he says we don't have any breakfast. I suggest what to feed M and they eventually go out to the kitchen. DH then comes back into our room whining that we don't have anything to feed M. DUDE, WTF? Yes we do, I go out there and pour some cheerios and cut up some kiwi and blueberries. We then got into an argument.

Why is it so fucking hard to understand that I want a morning to sleep in, and that waking me up before you leave completely defeats the purpose? WHY can't he figure out how to feed his child? WHY do I have to ask for these things? GAH! 

I know I could have handled it better, but geez, sometimes he is so dense. 

[gibbinator]

Wow, I'd be annoyed too. That's a lot of unnecessary interruption and helplessness.

My vent is that dh doesn't seem to understand how windows and airflow work. Like we'll be in the car without air conditioning and he'll stop to get gas. I'll be dying with my window all the way down, and I ask him to open his window and he cracks it an inch. Thanks for nothing!

Or at home it'll start getting hot indoors in the afternoon and he'll open up all the windows. Then, when it cools down in the evening, he closes them? What? Doesn't matter how often I explain he's doing things backwards.

Last night we had the windows in the 4 upstairs rooms open all night. There wasn't much breeze so it was getting stuffy by morning and around 5am crows started making noise right outside our bedroom. So dh gets up and closes the window. Fine. I'm surprised how well I can still hear the crows but figured they must be right next to the house. When I got up this morning I happened to glance at the window and he'd left it cracked an inch. What was the point of that??

[cincodemayo]

What a racket, yellowbrkrd. Maybe you can get a nap at least. My H always defaults to puffs or crackers even though he's seen all the things I find to feed DS.

The vents thread is the wrong thread for this but DS STTN! I now need 2 hands to count the times he's done so in his 10.5 months. We both feel great.

[Deleted]

We're buying a house, and sent the sellers our inspection fix-it requests Thursday afternoon. We still haven't heard a peep from them. I just want to buy your house!!! TELL ME what you'll agree to fix, so we can schedule the other inspections! Whyyy are our sellers SO SLOW?!?

[holly116]

Jul 19, 2014 7:06:54 GMT -5 @supergreen said:

We're buying a house, and sent the sellers our inspection fix-it requests Thursday afternoon. We still haven't heard a peep from them. I just want to buy your house!!! TELL ME what you'll agree to fix, so we can schedule the other inspections! Whyyy are our sellers SO SLOW?!?

Gah, I HATE that.  I'm going to just send you some strength because I sure needed it when we were moving.  Our problems were with the people buying our house.  We'd send stuff back within the time limits defined in the contract and then they'd just sit on it forever.  DH got so irritated he wanted to start adding things like "if the buyer does not respond by the 5:00 pm deadline, the offer is reduced by x amount for every hour past time".  Our agent sucked though and I'm 99.9% sure that was the problem.

[everafter07]

I would be so aggravated. You handled it better than I would. DH usually asks me what to make DD, but when I'm sleeping in, he knows the breakfast rotation. We always have frozen pancakes, fruit, yogurt, eggs, toast and cereal to cycle through.

[lulu21]

yellowbrkrd id be pissed


My vent is that J is sleeping better now during his morning nap in bed with me than he did last night. He's been sound asleep for 2 hours. But it's a good excuse to stay in bed this morning

[noodleskooze]

We have Leo's one year pictures today, and I'm having a fashion crisis. The bottoms that look best with my top are white shorts.

[matildasun]

We are on vacation with my in-laws. I have been up since 5 with M. I am ready for adventure. Everyone else is taking their sweet time. Nothing really opens until 10:00 and it is raining, so I have no idea what my hurry is, but I want to go and I want to go now! I know I am ridiculous, but I didn't drive 500 miles to hang out in the house. There is a whole town to explore!

[Redpoppy]

I have a quilt guild meeting today. I figured I would tell DH last night because Saturdays are my safe day and these are a monthly occurrence. He gets Sunday. I also didn't say anything because he bitched two weekends ago when I asked if he had any plans, saying he didn't realize he had to clear everything with me.

When I mention it to DH he says he made plans to play golf today without checking with me. He figured I had no plans. Wtf?

I'm taking DS with me to the meeting. I emailed the guild president and she said it was fine. I put up minimal arguments because we leave for vacation next week but this won't be happening again.

[holly116]

I let a friend borrow a $50 car seat travel bag months ago. Since there's a chance I may need it, I've been trying to contact her so I can get it back. I'm even willing to go pick it up at her house but FFS respond to me already.

The baby is now pulling up on everything so in addition to his mouth hurting because he's working on his 6th tooth this month, he has a fat lip from his new found mobility. Poor buddy.

[ilikedonuts]

Jul 19, 2014 7:48:09 GMT -5 @starry said:

I would be so incredibly pissed at my husband OP.

My vent is just an offshoot from earlier this week. My house is cluttered and I have no motivation. Booooo

I just "cleaned" aka I shoved a lot of my clutter in closets and drawers. Out of sight out of mind is my motto

[pugz]

pugs are acting like fucking assholes this morning and I am in no mood for it!

my cold is making me so grumpy.

[SallySparrow]

I have six patients to see today and none of them will answer the phone or return a call. Which means they'll all want to be seen at like 2:00 pm, and that's not happening. I'm only working until 4:30, people. Help me help you.

I still haven't picked a car. Thank God the insurance is paying for the rental. The rental is a Malibu. I hate it.

[anna7602]

No reason to vent today, but I do wish that happiness, sleep and general good feelings could be banked for a rainy day or lent out to a friend in need.

[djc315]

DH decided to install a new front door today, which requires help from me. But, I had to finish fondant decorations on a cake that I have to deliver between 12 and 12:30. So he kept asking me to stop and help him about 5 times before I said no. WTF dude, we have other stuff going on. If it's a project that requires both of us, I need some advance notice.

Not to mention, last night when it was dicussed, I told him I had to finish/deliver this cake. He said he would go to HD to pick up the door w/o me, and it didn't need to be done right away.

Of course he ran into a few issues, so he's back at HD, my cake is done, N is napping, and we have no door. He was going to leave the houes (um what about the dog) and take N to HD while I went to deliver the cake. WHAT UNIVERSE DO YOU LIVE IN??


Also, my period is here, almost a week early. Ew.

[lolo]

DH has been sleeping for almost twelve hours.

I 'slept' in the crib (not kidding sigh) from 5:30-7:30. With J.

I'm not annoyed he's gotten sleep--it has been a rough sleep week for us all--but he'd better be damn perky when he gets up.

I'd love to suggest that he take J to the new park by us as she would love it and he would love watching her love it... But then I would be 'managing his relationship with his daughter.'

[jr009j]

Jul 19, 2014 8:44:25 GMT -5 Redpoppy said:

I have a quilt guild meeting today. I figured I would tell DH last night because Saturdays are my safe day and these are a monthly occurrence. He gets Sunday. I also didn't say anything because he bitched two weekends ago when I asked if he had any plans, saying he didn't realize he had to clear everything with me.

When I mention it to DH he says he made plans to play golf today without checking with me. He figured I had no plans. Wtf?

I'm taking DS with me to the meeting. I emailed the guild president and she said it was fine. I put up minimal arguments because we leave for vacation next week but this won't be happening again.

We have a similar arrangement and DH is always shocked when I have plans on Saturday mornings that I'm not willing to break. He has learned that I will be flexible but he has to ask in advance or I will tell him no.

[dcn]

Dh is fishing again and won't be back until late tomorrow. He owes me so many weekends at this point. At least we have a freezer full of salmon? It is rainy out and my period can't make up its mind. Blahhh.

[sent]

I am at a baby-free and husband-free destination wedding. Except it is ridiculously hot so I have been hiding in air conditioning the whole time. And the drinks are seriously watered down. And the whole weekend seems disorganized.

I almost would rather be home hugging my baby.

Oh and let me add that I am side eyeing my friend for bringing his 2.5 month old in the heat. And letting her cry while he went to beg for hot water to mix her formula and not bringing her ready-to-feed formula in a situation like that because "it's too heavy to pack."  He also regular checked the baby's car seat and I was like "um you're sorta not supposed to do that...." To which he said they didn't gate check it because they didn't want to lug the seat around during their connection. Um yeah, maybe I'm being flame-worthy but I can't stop thinking that they didn't really think this bringing the 2.5 month old to Mexico plan through.

[ladygrey]

DH went to a classic car show today to try and sell his 1966 Barracuda that has been taking up space in our garage for over a year now. I'm happy to get rid of that thing, but also annoyed that he'll be gone for the entire day (aka drinking beer and schmoozing with car guys while I am solo parenting). If he comes home with that car or another car that he traded for, I will be PISSED.

[statlerwaldorf]

My dad showed up without calling. He called when he got here, but I had just got ds latched on the boob he had been refusing, so I did not want to interrupt him. I told my dad to wait, but he ended up leaving. I can't tell if he's mad. I live over an hour away and he rarely visits. I feel bad, but on the other hand I am really annoyed. I hadn't had a shower yet and I wasn't dressed. I just wanted a call ahead of time.

[Deleted]

Jul 19, 2014 7:17:47 GMT -5 holly116 said:

Jul 19, 2014 7:06:54 GMT -5 @supergreen said:

We're buying a house, and sent the sellers our inspection fix-it requests Thursday afternoon. We still haven't heard a peep from them. I just want to buy your house!!! TELL ME what you'll agree to fix, so we can schedule the other inspections! Whyyy are our sellers SO SLOW?!?

Gah, I HATE that.  I'm going to just send you some strength because I sure needed it when we were moving.  Our problems were with the people buying our house.  We'd send stuff back within the time limits defined in the contract and then they'd just sit on it forever.  DH got so irritated he wanted to start adding things like "if the buyer does not respond by the 5:00 pm deadline, the offer is reduced by x amount for every hour past time".  Our agent sucked though and I'm 99.9% sure that was the problem.

Our agent sucks too, I also think that's 99.9% of the problem. I have no doubt our agent forgot to send the fix-it list, or sent it later than we though she did. We were reviewing our loan paperwork this morning and it's got a ton of errors GAH, why can't people do their jobs properly!

Thank you for the strength, I need it. I am SO TIRED with the new pregnancy, and we've got a bunch if family shit going on too. DH and I are as stressed as we have ever been since we met.

[lolo]

Oh, DH. After I asked, he did take J out of the house so I could work. He said he was taking her to look for a new plant for our balcony.

Instead, he took her to a splash park. In her SKR shoes. Leather. Like, my favorite ones I've ever bought her that she has only worn three times because she just grew into them.

He goes, 'Oh yeah, it was spontaneous to go there. I knew you'd be pissed about the shoes.'

WHAT THE FUCK?

There were water shoes three feet from the diaper bag--just throw those in if there's even a chance of splash park, or, gasp, let her go barefoot. I really hope these shoes aren't ruined.

And the shoes in and of themselves is annoying, but it's also part of a broader issue where DH just doesn't think ahead or prepare. He says, 'I'm not a future thinker like you.' But then I have to deal with the fall out. Yet he manages to 'future think' just fine in his job.

[holly116]

Jul 19, 2014 15:34:58 GMT -5 lolo said:

Oh, DH. After I asked, he did take J out of the house so I could work. He said he was taking her to look for a new plant for our balcony.

Instead, he took her to a splash park. In her SKR shoes. Leather. Like, my favorite ones I've ever bought her that she has only worn three times because she just grew into them.

He goes, 'Oh yeah, it was spontaneous to go there. I knew you'd be pissed about the shoes.'

WHAT THE FUCK?

There were water shoes three feet from the diaper bag--just throw those in if there's even a chance of splash park, or, gasp, let her go barefoot. I really hope these shoes aren't ruined.

And the shoes in and of themselves is annoying, but it's also part of a broader issue where DH just doesn't think ahead or prepare. He says, 'I'm not a future thinker like you.' But then I have to deal with the fall out. Yet he manages to 'future think' just fine in his job.

Omg I would be beside myself, especially the dismissive comment about how he knew you'd be pissed.  Do you guys have fun money or anything?  If the shoes are ruined, I'd be tempted to re-buy them out of his fun money or just re-buy them in general.  My DH is so tight that $50 on a duplicate pair of shoes just may get the point across.  It's how I got him to stop throwing my laundry in without looking at a tag.  Oh, you ruined my $$$$ shirt?  Guess I'll be rebuying it.

It infuriates me when DH dismisses something important to me because he doesn't assign it the same value.

[scribellesam]

My 26mo seems to be jumping straight from Mama and Dada to Mom and Dad and I'm bummed about it. I don't get to be Mommy at all?! Stay little, dammit!

[holly116]

DH is sick, he has no voice and hasn't for a solid day of face timing. However, in total and complete contrast to how he would be playing up a man cold if he were at home, he's saying that he's perfectly fine and still staying out to all hours with his friends in Germany.

So Jesus help him if I get there with the baby on Wednesday and he's sick/exhausted etc. Really, he should start praying now.

He just sent me a text to let me know he's back in his hotel and going to bed, at 2 am. This is a guy that goes to bed at 9:30 every night. I responded that I'm so relieved that he'll be so used to being up all night by the time I get there. He'll have no problem getting up with the baby and giving me a break! Big smile.